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Justme696 -> RE: MEETING PEOPLE!!! (1/17/2008 1:49:12 AM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyLolly
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ORIGINAL: Honsoku
Finding playmates/partners is the focus of the other side. If you want to find people just to talk with, add "friends only" to your actively seeking list and talk more about yourselves. Right now your profile is focused almost entirely on attracting playmates (and yes, expecting to find someone in the first two weeks is impatient). Even if I was looking for friends, there is nothing in your profile that makes me go "hmm, they might be interesting to talk to". Talk about your activities, work, life in general (the journal is a great place to do that). You might also have an easier time finding friends if you each maintained an individual account, just people knew who they were talking to.
In addition, would add that you can "fine tune" (or de-tune if too "hunt" specific) your search parameters on the home page for those that share some of your common interests. Nothing says you can't take the initiative and drop a hello with a few words. Worst that can happen is they block you <G>, seriously, have to open a dialouge and develop some sort of rapport to generate enough mutual interest to get out from behind the screen.
Personally I like to see if the whites of peoples eyes go all the way around and actually prefer to do an early social meet if I find them interesting - it's shouldn't be that big a deal (with a few common sense safety precautions of course). Will say too that there are a LOT of folk that for what ever reason bail out and scurry off before it comes to pass once it's suggested. Don't worry about it - the good folks you actually will meet and click with are worth the wait - patience.
I admit I have been thinking "wrong"about this site (not forum) and the people visiting it. I thought many would be here for just quick sex.
The last weeks I got so many nice peopel contacting me, that I admit I was wrong and appologise for my thoughts.
Were people gather, there will be good and bad people.
But there are many nice people here for sure. I don't know a receipe how to attract them, but I advise you just to be yourself, change your profile once in a while...and mostly post here what you think..and in the journal of your profile. That way peopel learn to know you...and in time friends might follow. It is important to take messages beeing send serious and take the time to reply with more then one liners. And respect peopel that are different..because friends and people can have different thougths.
And contact people and give them a nice compliment..not always starting with their looks or your intentions..just nice things about the content of their profile...
Just some thoughts..from a person that is mostly a lone-er (<is that English??)
D.
( I have people i don't know asking if they can use my pic as wallpaper lol.... I feel like a guy in TakeThat grin).
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