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slaveluci -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/13/2008 5:30:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists
I wish to be cremated, then it is his wish that I be put in his coffin at his feet once he passes away

Kyra,
That is one of the most beautiful things I have ever read here in the forums.  It literally gave me goosebumps.  What a wonderful idea...........luci



MaamJay -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 12:53:46 AM)

I agree ... it had Me in tears kyra, it's so beautiful. But this is a good topic, and I think it is very important to be prepared for such eventualities. OK I am 15 years older than Master so by all rights, I should go first. But no matter how good a driver you are, there's always a risk on the roads ... and who knows what illnesses might be encountered? So Master and i both have Wills and update them regularly as needed. W/we have tried to make appropriate decisions financially so either would cope on their own. And W/we are very much partners in everyday life so He knows i would be every bit as capable of handling the finances as He would be of making the washing machine work! When (thinking positively here!) I eventually collar a 24/7 sub, then I would expect all 3 of U/us to have Wills which take into account O/our relationships and situation.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



Dnomyar -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 4:56:25 AM)

Good topic and great answers.



RCdc -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 6:57:08 AM)

Excellent thread.  Yes, we have spoken about death and all those seemingly morbid discussions including disability, health issue, insurance and medical covers.  Even retirement issues.
If you are too afraid to ask or discuss, or have not though about these or think yourself too young yet, my thought is that you should not even be contemplating a ltr commitment.
 
the.dark



sweetnsensual -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 7:07:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie

My Master and I have had many in depth conversations about the future, and the likelihood of him dying before me (given his age and health).  He is preparing me for life without him.  There are lessons, philosophies, and amazing energies he has imprinted on my very core that will always be there.  I used to ask him, when he dies can I just jump into his grave behind him?  He said no, that he hasn't invested all this time and energy into me just to have my own life end when his does. 

And so I have been taught to live as he wants me to live - whether he is alive or not.  The best gift he has given me, the best way he has looked out for my well being, has been to give me such tools and strength.  These haven't been easy lessons.  Some of them were fraught with screaming and gnashing of teeth, and in fact I almost didn't survive this relationship as a result, but I will always be grateful.  And years from now, when he has passed and I remain, I will be even more grateful.


I haven't read the rest of the thread to see if this has been posted because I just had to stop and say that this was really beautiful.

take care.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 7:10:11 AM)

When Master became very sick last year I realized how unprepared we were in the event one of us died. In the past I did have a former owner pass but was not with him at the time but still was not prepared. Anyway last year when Master was sick, hospitalized I had a sense of anxiety over the future. When he recovered we discussed what would happen in the event of anything possible. Being a nurse I know death will come to one of us and I can't stop that but I wanted things to be covered and talked about in the event that a serious illness or death came.  I felt better once we had discussed it all and had a plan for things.




junecleaver -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 8:07:56 AM)

People who are co-dependent will go into relationships and be co-dependent.  I'm not sure it's something Dominants 'trick' people into being.  At one point, I was very co-dependent on previous partners.  It was a matter of growing up, maturing, learning life's lessons etc etc that brought me to the point of no longer being co-dependent.

I have 'vanilla' friends who just got married.  When one of them dies, the other will be devastated, but with help from friends and family, life will go on.  When my Dominant's grandfather died, his grandmother was left helpless as she had only a sixth grade education, had never worked, paid the bills herself, or done anything but dote on her husband. 

To me an uber controlled D/s relationship does not equal co-dependency and it does not mean that the submissive will be unprepared for the death of her Dominant.  Whether or not someone is prepared for the death of their SO seems to be a matter of planning and discussion.



meticulousgirl -> RE: If you (or your Dom) were to die... (1/14/2008 9:11:22 AM)

wow, now this is a topic i've never really seen before, one that i constantly wonder about but, i've never seen it.

to be honest i dont know what i would do without Him, He's my world and everything in it but i am extremely dependent upon myself and always have been until the emotional factor of "is this really ending" sets in.  We've had our issues over the last few years, and there have been a few times where He's considered leaving over stupid shit that i've done but, the truth is, i would be lost emotionally without Him, i dont really know how else to put it....i just know that one day it will end, and it will take me a very long time to get passed it, We're at 5 years now but, i felt this way at just a couple of months there's just something about Him that doesn't leave me, and it hasn't since the day i started talking to Him.

As far as the lifestyle goes, i question whether or not i could do this with anyone else, and know that no one will get all of me the way that He has ever again....

~meticulous~



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