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geishagurl -> Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 2:55:48 PM)

I'm sure some of you have watched the movie, The Secretary.  When she would cut herself and later learned how a spanking felt, you could see the release on her face. Of course this was just a movie, but I'm sure some of you could identify with what she was protraying to feel.
 
Have you ever felt that same kind of release from just having cuffs put around your wrists?  Does it do something to you that is overwhelming, in a good way, immediately? Does it put you into a light subspace from that alone, before anything else might happen? Have you felt some of that subspace come on you as you watched someone else get cuffed as well? Perhaps you can feel it from just looking at a pair of cuffs? 
 
Whats your thoughts on this.....
 
 
geisha
 



darchChylde -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 3:30:20 PM)

i don't know about a release or subspace, but there's something about being put in any restraints that makes me feel safe and secure as well as helpless... and in the right hands, these are very very good things



adoracat -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 3:44:08 PM)

me... Daddy laughs because the same thing happens every time he puts my restraints on.  i give this really hard full body shudder and its like there is a huge reset of me, throwing me into "oh boy its playtime" mode.

yep, i understand that exactly.

kitten, who hasnt been tied in far too long



fullofgrace69 -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 4:05:53 PM)

see bondage has never totally worked for me, especially handcuffs lol i have issues with them, i adore rope bondage love it with a passion but ultimatly i prefer mental bondage knowing that im unable to move not because of any physical restraint but because whoever im with doesnt want me to move...... but thats just me



tinoketsheli -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 4:09:15 PM)

I totally enter subspace when the cuffs go on... but more so with a blindfold as well as cuff!



LaMspeach -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 4:20:07 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: geishagurl

I'm sure some of you have watched the movie, The Secretary.  When she would cut herself and later learned how a spanking felt, you could see the release on her face. Of course this was just a movie, but I'm sure some of you could identify with what she was protraying to feel.
 
Have you ever felt that same kind of release from just having cuffs put around your wrists?  Does it do something to you that is overwhelming, in a good way, immediately? Does it put you into a light subspace from that alone, before anything else might happen? Have you felt some of that subspace come on you as you watched someone else get cuffed as well? Perhaps you can feel it from just looking at a pair of cuffs? 
 
Whats your thoughts on this.....
 
 
geisha
 


Yes, just knowing he is going to use me puts me in a kind of sub space and I have that overwhelming feeling of release. If he tells me to get the cuffs, Oh my. I am instantly  umm turned on and feel a sense that everything is right in the world .  There are other things he does as well that put me in that state of mind.

I have never gotten that feeling from seeing some one else just in cuffs . I have  from seeing others in intense play though.



Termyn8or -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 5:55:17 PM)

I am dominant, but I like to bottom, so I guess that is a certain kind of switch.

If I have someone restrained, I am responsible for their well being. And I do not take that lightly.

But the thing is that the bound person has no responsibilities at all.

So I guess I agree 146.93%. The other 53.07% is in what the restrainer does to the restrainee.

Just wondering, are you talking abiout regular police cuffs, leather or leather and metal like those dandy ones from ER, or those gnarly Cluejso (sp) cuffs that would take a machine shop to cut off ? Or perhaps rigidcuffs ?

Rigidcuffs are nuts, you can't reach the keyhole so even with the key you can't get out. In fact I got pretty good size wrists and if cuffed palms out I cannot get out of regular handcuffs even with the key. People with smaller wrists can sometimes. It takes a bit of dexterity, but it is not all that hard as long as you can turn the wrist in the cuff.

In fact even velcro cuffs can do the job as long as the wearer can't get to them with their mouth or their other hand.

So I will say this, at least for those with big wrists, cuffed palms out gets you deeper than palms in.

I think this is bigger than cuffs, there are other things, for example a collar. I think a locking collar will get you deeper than a non locking collar.

Is it the frustration of not being able to scratch that itching nose ? Or the fact that you can't get out ? I tried to explain the concept on LMU, with untold success. Got responses of which some agreed, others had other ideas about it. That was to be expected. Of course that subject was chastity belts, so it is a bit different, but I think the similarities are significant.

Actually, one of the things that hit me like a ton of bricks was one of Susan L's designs, the M1 CB. What was so intriguing about that was that it locks with a combination lock IN THE BACK.(if you want I can give you the URL to that in my own private FTP space, it cannot be hosted by a commercial site in the US due to USC2257)

So is it the dependence upon someone else to get out the main thing ? Or is it that itch you can't scratch ? That distinction is somewhat akin to is it the mind or the body ? I am starting to think it is both. Of course it is all in the mind, I guess it would be more aptly put to ask is it the physical or mental aspect of it ? I am thinking it is a combination of the two.

T



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 8:26:05 PM)

As with any kink, someone will be really into it and love it completely, and someone will look at it and just think "What on earth is so attractive about that?  It does nothing for me."



fairerthanshe -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 10:21:30 PM)

Greetings LA,

You are absolutely right. (shocking!)

I begin to enter a hypnotic state very quickly as soon as I hear his voice shift.  So I can understand how people have some 'thing' that starts the slide into sub space even before it begins.  It can be very satisfying to see him pick up the rope bag as well, since that automatically means I get to be tied up. 

well wishes ~ fairer



rubberpet -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 10:32:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

i don't know about a release or subspace, but there's something about being put in any restraints that makes me feel safe and secure as well as helpless... and in the right hands, these are very very good things


I hear you, brother.  Whenever cuffs or a collar is locked around my neck, my mind is set free like a balloon in the sky.  It starts drifting slowly, gently rising into the air, and floating to God knows where.  It is the most secure feeling in the world with the right person.  There is such freedom in bondage that it makes my heart skip a beat to hear the locks click shut, especially when the collar and my latex catsuit are locked together with no way to take them off.  If those feelings were that good before, I can only imagine what it will feel like when Mistress does it for the first time.  Talk about free as a bird.[:)]



geishagurl -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/11/2008 10:44:16 PM)

 

quote:

ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Just wondering, are you talking abiout regular police cuffs, leather or leather and metal like those dandy ones from ER, or those gnarly Cluejso (sp) cuffs that would take a machine shop to cut off ? Or perhaps rigidcuffs ?



For the most part.... leather ones.  And they can even be loose and not connected... just put on your wrists to feel the space come.  I realize it's a mental thing.  Just not sure where it comes from. Even looking at pictures of them, can bring a wee bit of euphoria. Wearing them all night is wonderful too.  Maybe I'm strange.... lol.
 
 



adoracat -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 6:50:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fullofgrace69

see bondage has never totally worked for me, especially handcuffs lol i have issues with them, i adore rope bondage love it with a passion but ultimatly i prefer mental bondage knowing that im unable to move not because of any physical restraint but because whoever im with doesnt want me to move...... but thats just me


actually i dont care for handcuffs because i get injured easily.  i have these really  nice neoprene cuffs from sportsheets and those work very nicely.

we've also used yarn...as a symbolic restraint.  tied to the bedposts and wound a couple of times around my wrists loosely "you're tied, dont move".  also a fun thing.  :)

kitten



stripmymanhood -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 7:02:08 AM)

For me...i find that release in submission because it allows me to be who i really am...one who wishes for control....for some like you, it's handcuffs...for others like me, it's the lack of control...it's the freedom to be who and what you are that is freeing...or at least, that's my take on it.



geishagurl -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 8:03:23 AM)

 
quote:

ORIGINAL: stripmymanhood

For me...i find that release in submission because it allows me to be who i really am...one who wishes for control....for some like you, it's handcuffs...for others like me, it's the lack of control...it's the freedom to be who and what you are that is freeing...or at least, that's my take on it.


Hi!  It's more than just handcuffs for me too.  Kneeling, obeying, service, the look (we all know what the look is)... all of it.  It's submitting in general to our special One, I think. But some type of euphoria, in a good way, comes upon some, that I guess I'll never truly understand.  I guess that that is the beginning of what is called subspace.  Even when our hair is pulled back roughly and a passionate kiss is planted on our lips, it happens.  For any that haven't experienced it, I hope they do, because there isn't anything better. It's the reason we could never be content going back to vanilla.
 
 
 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 9:54:08 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: geishagurl
I hope they do, because there isn't anything better. It's the reason we could never be content going back to vanilla. 

Careful with those "we's"

I can understand exactly what you are describing here and have experienced it myself.  That didn't stop me from forming my relationship with my partner which is vanilla based.



geishagurl -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 10:04:14 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: geishagurl
I hope they do, because there isn't anything better. It's the reason we could never be content going back to vanilla. 

Careful with those "we's"

I can understand exactly what you are describing here and have experienced it myself.  That didn't stop me from forming my relationship with my partner which is vanilla based.


But could you go back to 100% vanilla, after experiencing it, and be completly content? 
 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 10:12:11 AM)

I AM content- heck I'm more blessed than I ever possibly dreamed I ever could be and know I can't possibly deserve it.  My relationship is vanilla based.  There is no expectation that one of us will be dominant or submissive to the other.

Now, we do switch with eachother and we really enjoy a lot of kinky stuff.  But when it all comes down to it, our relationship is vanilla at its core and is what our being together is based on and we wouldn't have it any other way.



Justme696 -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 10:17:14 AM)

I remember how i once felt my kajira became melting wax in my hands, when I whispered in her ear I could do as I pleased with her.
When i saw her getting weak, I got a rush. It was the mutual trust...the electricty between people.

So I wonder if slaves/subs get the relieve from the tools (chains,cuffs) or from beeing helpless to Master/Dom/Domme..or something else perhaps?



geishagurl -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 10:17:17 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I AM content- heck I'm more blessed than I ever possibly dreamed I ever could be and know I can't possibly deserve it.  My relationship is vanilla based.  There is no expectation that one of us will be dominant or submissive to the other.

Now, we do switch with eachother and we really enjoy a lot of kinky stuff.  But when it all comes down to it, our relationship is vanilla at its core and is what our being together is based on and we wouldn't have it any other way.


For you then, you couldn't ask for anything better.  And I'm sure you DO deserve it. [sm=applause.gif]  I love hearing sucess stories.  :)
 





darchChylde -> RE: Cuffs = Release (1/12/2008 10:19:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Justme696
So I wonder if slaves/subs get the relieve from the tools (chains,cuffs) or from beeing helpless to Master/Dom/Domme..or something else perhaps?


being helpless to Ma'am; and as an extension, the toys as no one else but Her better be putting these on me



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