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LdyWinter71 -> RE: New to scene (1/9/2008 5:40:50 AM)
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Well let me start by saying, 'welcome aboard'! I understand your dilemma, but this first thing I would suggest is to relax. Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Many times slaves/subs find the circumstance as erotic as the scene itself. Afterall, by dictating the scene, you are already giving him a large chunk of what he wants. He trusts you, presumeably, and you know him. Don't be afraid to be creative and stretch the limits of your imagination. There is often, no better way to discover the hidden likes/dislikes of a couple than through experimentation. I think the biggest fear people in your situation have is finding the dislikes, but that's all part of the journey too. Once you've tried something, talk about it with him and find out what parts worked and what parts didn't. Remember, you are both there to enjoy one another, and his feedback is important. However, it can be awkward for a sub/slave to feel ike they are 'directing' the scene. Still, communication is key.
Have you considoered having him write out some 'erotic bedtime stories' for your amusement? Or keep a journal of sexual dreams? In this way, you can gain some insight into what things he may what to explore and/or how far he wants to go. Just take care to combine multiple elements from the different things he writes. Mix and match, so it doesn't have the feel of a script. Or take some of the ideas and add your own twist to them. In this way, you remain the one controlling the scenes and he is getting more of what he wants without having to tell you, directly. Just a suggestion, that has worked for me and some friends in the past.
I hope that I was helpful. If so, please feel free to contact me again if you wish. If not, please feel free to disregard my advice. In either case, good luck to both of you!
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