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Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:08:30 PM   
mistoferin


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Status: offline 		Do you ever write out your scenes after they are over? After taking some time to process them? Do you include all of the details of the actions, the sensations....what was going on in your head? Do you read them over together and discuss the differences in how you both experienced it? Does it provide you insight? A way to capture the memory to look back on?

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:18:15 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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Status: offline 		I have never done it for a scene, but one of the requirements of every contract Elle and I write is that we do a contract review.  We write out the best moments, the moments of discomfort, and a section by section review of the contract.

I find knowing what is going on in my slave's mind to be incredibly valuable...and I hope she gets the same value from knowing what we are thinking.

Taggard


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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:20:55 PM   
ghitaPVH


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Status: offline 		I dont always go into minute detail after a scene, but I usually write about it after the fact. talk about feelings and specific sensations I liked or didnt like, emotional responses to things...that sort of thing...Daddy usually reads them eventually..sometimes he talks about it later with me..sometimes he doesnt.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:21:17 PM   
KatyLied


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Status: offline 		I do not write about scenes.  But memorable ones remain in my head.  And there are some that have been sexy and erotic that I'd like to recreate.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:24:15 PM   
meticulousgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I do not write about scenes.  But memorable ones remain in my head. 


I couldn't have said it better myself!

~meticulous~

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:34:44 PM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Do you ever write out your scenes after they are over? After taking some time to process them? Do you include all of the details of the actions, the sensations....what was going on in your head? Do you read them over together and discuss the differences in how you both experienced it? Does it provide you insight? A way to capture the memory to look back on?


I do. Not so much the actions which took place, but the feelings they envoked. Last night I had .. hmm.. a power epiphany, so that one will be going into my type written journal as opposed to the more restrictive hand written journal I do daily. A couple of years ago, Himself printed out my typed journal and it was over 300 pages of typing. That's probably doubled by now. lol

He will read my stuff, comment if he chooses, discuss with me what he wishes to discuss and if there is something unusual, we may end up talking about it for several days. I have a feeling that what happened last night will be one of those things that we address over the next several days. Gawds, but I love this stuff!

Celeste

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:40:36 PM   
catize


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Status: offline 		I usually write out scenes.  One dominant requires it and expects minute detail; it usually takes a few re-writes after I send it to him and he reminds me of the stuff I forgot to include.
When I write for myself it is about the mental aspects, less about what was happening and more about how the events made me feel. 
It is fun to re-read some of my earlier journal entries, not only for the memories but to see which experiences led to my growth. 

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 12:52:33 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I often verbally process with the person I had the scene with, but it's extremely rare for me to actually write out what happened in any sort of detail.  When I do it's usually because it was emotionally special and significant to me in some way.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 1:21:56 PM   
littlebitxxx


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Status: offline 		We usually discuss a scene after it's over...mild critique or whatever.  I used to critique in email with XMaster, same kind of thing.  Allows both to find out what works and what doesn't.  Yanno when it's been a great scene, though, when I can't remember most of it...lol.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 1:56:38 PM   
MidMichCowboy


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Status: offline 		Well, from the wordiness of my profile and journal, I'm sure its no surprise to anyone that I do write about things. But I may not save them or I keep them private. I use my writings as a way to sort things out in my mind. Sometimes I will write what amounts to an erotic story, other times it’s more about the intensity and power of an encounter.



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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 2:13:49 PM   
ksub4u


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Status: offline 		I blog about our scenes and relationship in general.  Nothing too intimate, just more about the emotional journey that we are on together.  Master reads them and we discuss it sometimes.  He may comment on the blog about something I wrote.  I have also written him intimate emails discussing the things that really touched me or got to me during a scene.  It's helpful for him to understand me, and in general I communicate my thoughts better in emails, so I'm able to get out all that I'm thinking of as well and knowing that he's heard me.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 2:15:14 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin

Do you ever write out your scenes after they are over? After taking some time to process them? Do you include all of the details of the actions, the sensations....what was going on in your head? Do you read them over together and discuss the differences in how you both experienced it? Does it provide you insight? A way to capture the memory to look back on?


I've actually written about them beforehand, and used my story as a kindasorta plan for what I want to do. Of course, since every sub is different, I'll modify things depending on how things go at the time.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink and occasionaly, Fine Verbiage) 

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 2:41:47 PM   
canupleaseme


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Status: offline 		When me and my boy 1st started playing I planned and wrote down each scene before we had it because I had so many ideas and it gave me something fun to do during the weeks when we couldnt see each other.  It was very helpful to keep me flowing with the session and was perfect to read back after and remeber how it all felt at the time.  Since he moved in with me its a lot more naturally flowing and spontaneous so I tend to write about it in my diary after and usually in detail.  Especially things that havent worked and why.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 3:13:50 PM   
fit2pleaseu


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Status: offline 		yes..i have to respond to my Mistress in my journal within 24 hours of a session with my thoughts and feelings as we share experiences together.
This was a requirement that was written into my contract and although it can sometimes be difficult to remember everything it does let my Mistress know exactly whats going on in my head.
Also Mistress then responds to any questions or worries that i may have raised in my journal i think it is a very helpful and healthy part of our relationship.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 3:15:16 PM   
Leatherist


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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 3:19:22 PM   
Elorin


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mistoferin
Do you ever write out your scenes after they are over? After taking some time to process them? Do you include all of the details of the actions, the sensations....what was going on in your head? Do you read them over together and discuss the differences in how you both experienced it? Does it provide you insight? A way to capture the memory to look back on?


I often write about a scene after it is over, both as a way to process and a way to capture the scene so I can relive it when I want to go back and remember everything. I try to include as much detail as I can about what went on in addition to the things that went on in my head during the scene.

Never had someone read over it with me and talk about differences in my memory vs. theirs, though I think that would be fun. M sometimes reads my version in my journal but he never comments on it other than to say he saw that I wrote it.

It definitely gives me insight and getting the concrete memories down in words helps lock the memory into my mind so that I can revisit it (instead of it all going blurry later).

~E

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/6/2008 9:35:18 PM   
FangsNfeet


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Status: offline 		Scenes and my experiences play a big part in the poetry I write.

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/7/2008 4:38:16 AM   
MaamJay


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Status: offline 		i write a journal daily for Master, so scenes that W/we share are written down after the fact in there. Fun to read over sometimes, and see what W/we did then and how i felt then compared to now. As Master has oversight regarding My Domme activities as Jay, I usually also note in the same journal about any scenes I do as Jay with subs. I was keeping 2 journals at one time but that got cumbersome, so it all goes in the latest little purple book

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/7/2008 10:47:24 AM   
badprofessor


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Status: offline 		I have never written about them, but I could see doing it some time.

I do run/replay them through my head quite regularly, though. 

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RE: Scenes - after the fact - 1/7/2008 11:24:04 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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Status: offline 		I can honestly say, NO, never have to this one.   I know that some people will write all kinds of details and notes down.   Personally, I'm into verbal communication and bonding time later on about a scene.  I have some fond memories of past playtime moments.  

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