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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/5/2008 10:26:42 PM

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Extremely good looking men scare me LOL

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/5/2008 10:27:25 PM

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but oooo I like it... I always liked a man who takes charge in sex though... even when I was vanilla... ;)

That's an interesting concept- 'when I was vanilla'.

I was never vanilla. It helped that I could surf the internet and find kinksters when I was like 14.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/5/2008 10:45:08 PM

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I first emailed SimplyMichael last year simply to tell him that I enjoy his posts and yes maybe to flirt a bit. I was scared out of my wits! He just seemed larger than life to me and so serious!
10 months later he's giving my um's piggyback rides and playing monster with them! Funny how things go in life right?

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/5/2008 10:51:05 PM

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Life truly is a funny thing, and I wish you both much happiness.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/5/2008 10:57:01 PM

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I know for a fact that my confidence, awareness, lack of accepting bullshit or compromising of self, security, stability and life outside of the scene has scared away a few prospects.

Best for all around really.

Adding- a touch of intimidation can be a very positive and good thing for a dominant to have, if worked properly

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 3:22:44 AM

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Doms scary ... nah just big teddy bears in leather ... I have got it right yeah? ....

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 3:45:26 AM

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I have met one or two that I thought were too creepy to even bother with--like a potential Ted Bundy--but intimidated, no...I have friends that have more than 30 years in the life--use me for demos--if they don't scare me , not sure anyone will...I have been told by more than one potential Dominant that I don't just intimidate men, I scare the bejeesus out of them...funny really

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 3:50:48 AM

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It's hard to be brutal when she is being such a good girl, but I find a way. Seriously, I believe fear can only be used after she trusts you and knows you are not going to hurt her too much. I would never use it on someone I didn't know well, but after we have been together for a while, it can be used, but by then I'm not even sure I'm actually using it. Damn, that's confusing to even me.

It is just me doing what is natural and feels right. I mean it's not abuse or anything, but she fears what I might do. Of course by this time the ultimate way to create fear in her is to say, I may not play with you today. I'm going. The physical threats are nothing compared to that.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 3:58:22 AM

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There are the few rare ones that intimidate me... to the point of fear i suppose... but they are the ones that i respond the most to, the ones that make me feel the most alive and the ones that trigger the most submissive response from me...

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 5:52:51 AM

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I was reading a novel the other day and it had a phrase I liked………
“the euphoria of fear”.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 6:07:31 AM

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I'm a very unscary kind of person, yet a few subs have been downright terror-stricken in my presence. I think it really has nothing to do with how I, personally, looked or behaved; they were simply afraid because I'm a Dom -- as though we're some sort of predatory alien species, instead of just people with some specific tastes.

In each case, the sub was inexperienced, and I think they had let their erotic imaginings run amok with the notion of what a fearsome and dangerous creature a Dom must be.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 6:13:01 AM

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i am the exact same :)

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 6:15:39 AM

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If you truly feel he is too intimidating go with your gut. I don't know if you are a total novice or not but sometimes its just fear of the unknown that intimidates.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 6:33:40 AM

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I don't think I scare them. I think they are scared because I am real and they are scared of the reality. Hopefully that makes some sense.

Yes .. I have. I also believe it was for the reasons above.

Although my requiring a pentagram to be carved into their forehead with a butter knife may have a bit to do with it as well.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 7:33:20 AM

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I'd not want to intimidate someone, at all. Challenge, sure, but that's a different thing. I dearly want to put them at ease, at least to begin with. I'd want the opposite of intimidation; I'd love to genuinely, accidentally trip over, just so she knows that I do stumble, like all people do, and if she can't handle seeing that happen, then I can't handle trying to be some implausible, unrealistic ideal for her. There's a difference between being a rock and being someone's rock. And, anyway, I'm not a tyrant. While there's room for intimidation within a relationship, I'd never want it to be a cornerstone. In fact, I'd say the key to truly being able to intimidate someone first requires that you truly know them. Otherwise, I'll end up feeling like nothing more than some guy doing a Scary Dinosaur Impression, like a glorified party-piece.

But that's just me : )

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 7:37:47 AM

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Nah. I'm a nice fluffy playful dom.

It's my nilla side where I'm a super serious intimidating d-bag.

It's spooooooky!

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 8:48:19 AM

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I know for a fact that my confidence, awareness, lack of accepting bullshit or compromising of self, security, stability and life outside of the scene has scared away a few prospects.

i get that reaction too, even when i'm talking to people who are interested in 'nilla, nonsexual relationships. i personally don't see myself as that intimidating. apparently i can be though.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 8:49:24 AM

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It's easy. Make them admit why they want wierd shit. Being forced to drop the princess routine will scare the crap out of more then you might think.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 11:43:47 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I know for a fact that my confidence, awareness, lack of accepting bullshit or compromising of self, security, stability and life outside of the scene has scared away a few prospects.

Yet how ironic that for others, these very qualities are appealing... even... delicious.

But then anything, even such traits as these or their opposite, taken to far can become bitter and unpalitable. Perhaps its all really just a matter of taste... one lump of sugar or two... lemon or cream...

We're such complicated animals.

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RE: Doms, you ever scare a girl? - 1/6/2008 11:47:33 AM

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It's easy. Make them admit why they want wierd shit. Being forced to drop the princess routine will scare the crap out of more then you might think.

That is indeed the easy part... much more difficult to make them feel safe enough to admit to their own perversions, comfortable enough to beg for them, to wrap them in a warm safe place where they can be as they truly see themselves and then watch that inner self blossom in all it's dirty, sultry, perverse beauty. All without scaring them before, during or after... that's the tricky bit.

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