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Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 7:44:55 PM

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Hello,

I'm going to the TES New Years Eve party at Paddles tomorrow. This will be the first time that I've played in public. Any advice?

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 8:04:18 PM

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Negotiate just as well as you do in public and follow all the dungeon's rules. Otherwise, just act the same way as if you were at any other club.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 8:25:05 PM

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 8:44:39 PM

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Dear PrettyPuppy, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I would take a small flashlight with you among other things. It is dark in places and having a flashlight will help you speed you on your way or help others find toys in the toy bag and or purse.

I would highly recommend getting someone to show you were the fire exits are. One can never predict when a problem happens and knowing how to escape is a bonus.

Never leave valuables, e.g. purse, keys and ID alone. Sometimes its good to have one of those travel pouches where its tucked inside your garment.

Have a designated place to meet 'outside' the club as well as 'inside' the club. Have a time when you want to leave and hope others with you and or your host/hostess/friends/escort will meet you in the pre-agreed spot. This way, even alone--someone will escort you to the door and or make sure you are safely off in a taxi, car, etc. Outside meeting spot, just in case of a club crisis, e.g. fire and or fight-- having a spot and making sure everybody is accounted for is wonderful. Just in case panic and lost cell phones--at least you have a spot to meet and that can be a sense of security, in of itself. Even if you leave from the inside spot and get separated--to meet at the spot is a plan.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 9:14:58 PM

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Paddles is a very small club. I was there for the Halloween party...jam-packed in the main space. I can only imagine what the New Year's party will be like.

So, just a warning...be prepared for tight spaces.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 9:26:00 PM

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The owners of Paddles are amazing and very watchful .the idea of a small light is a great one .also if your nervous about your first public time bring a blindfold , it helps to not be able to see eyes on you and just think about the exchange before you .
ENJOY allow yourself to enjoy .

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/30/2007 10:59:05 PM

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Wow. A BDSM club in NYC. I used to live in Fishkill, NY decades ago. Made a few visits to "the city" in those days, oh ... to "Plato's Retreat" (which was a swing club over on about 34th and 9th or so when the hookers filled the avenues) ... and to "Le Trapeze" (another swing club further south) ... down to one or two BDSM-related clubs just above Greenwich Village near the aptly named meatpacking district (was it called "Hellfire" in those days?).

It's good to see the sex-club and bdsm-club industry is still alive and well in NY. Someone give us expats an update on the BDSM scene in NYC if you get a chance!

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 6:54:54 AM

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this is your first time playing in public? wow...let me try and think back...

well, i am assuming that you will be played by your Master, so that part is taken care of, and ya'll have been playing for a bit, so you won't have to do any, if there are ever any, anymore, negotiations at the club...i think you're pretty well set, as far as the physical preperation goes...as for the mental preperation...my suggestion, would be after you've arrived at the club, gotten settled, decided when and where (the station) you're going to play, spend some time with your Master centering your energies on eachother, because there will be a lot of energy bouncing around the club...so do whatever ritual that ya'll do that really connects you to eachother, and for brevity, i will use female sub and male Dominant pronouns - for some it is putting her hands around his neck and staring into eachother's eyes, for other it is her kneeling at his feet and looking up at him while he strokes her hair and face, and for others still it is her kneeling with her forehead on the ground and him with his boot on the back of her neck (that would be me)...just whatever gets you connected with your Master on an intmate level and gets the scene flowing....

and then after care can be especially important too, because you have to clean up the area you used so someone else can use it, but they don't run you off of the station, because after care is considered part of the scene...but if a submissive is really spacey, the cleaning responsibilities lay on the Dominant, and if you are there by yourselves, it can be difficult to watch where your spacey submissive is while you are cleaning up...

i think thats my contribution...good luck...
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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 8:20:10 AM

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Paddles is an amazing place. Use common sense, mind your manners, look around but dont stare too much and enjoy the moment your in when your playing in public. Try not to worry too much about the other folks, focus on the feelings, rush ect that youll be feeling both mentally and physically..loose yourself in the fun..like a kid at Christmas..

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 8:34:14 AM

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I do not like Paddles. I find it too small and touristy. I liked the old clubs in NYC much better...but there is no other choice so have fun!

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 9:03:34 AM

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quote:

t's good to see the sex-club and bdsm-club industry is still alive and well in NY. Someone give us expats an update on the BDSM scene in NYC if you get a chance!

Ugh...I wish I could say this was so. The industry is still alive, but unfortunately, not so well. As you and someone else pointed out, the Hellfire days are long gone. Me, well, I missed out on all that simply because I had not discovered this side of me when all that was going on...

With Paddles really being the only public play space in the city now - Fetish Warehouse held out for a s long as it could, though I understand there were problems with the location of the place, and whatever...and someone recently tried to get something going in Williamsburgh, but that died out, I presume the costs were exorbitant - there really isn't much choice. Which is too bad. Lack of competition, in any business, is not a good thing. My opinion.

But to OP, like others have said, have a blast at the party! The flashlight suggests are good ones, mind your manners, you know the drill and don't let anyone pressure you into doing ANYTHING you're not okay with. If I decide to go, I'll look out for you. Happy New Year!

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 10:00:58 AM

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I liked the old clubs in NYC much better...

I don't know...Paddles is nice and clean...though a bit small, maybe. Hellfire was a nasty pit! But it was fun...

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 1:43:53 PM

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i'm not really into the whole club scene so i dont have much advice for you.

i think it's kind of over rated personally.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 3:44:44 PM

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Thanks for all the advice everyone. It sounds like Paddles is small but they said that they're limiting the party to only 180 people and have will 8,000 square feet of extra play rooms available. So hopefully it won't get too crazy. I'll post tomorrow on how it was. It's the least I can do for the advice.

Thanks!
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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 4:25:48 PM

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LOL my advice is the same as Aidans- great space and location, but small and likely crowded.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 4:36:22 PM

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
I liked the old clubs in NYC much better...

I don't know...Paddles is nice and clean...though a bit small, maybe. Hellfire was a nasty pit! But it was fun...

Taggard

Some pervy stuff went on there. Tales which cannot be told on account of just being too damn gnarly. I miss the old Meatpacking District days, pre-boutiques.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 12/31/2007 5:44:28 PM

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Some pervy stuff went on there. Tales which cannot be told on account of just being too damn gnarly. I miss the old Meatpacking District days, pre-boutiques.

Yeah, taking a new sub to Hellfire was quite a mind-fuck in itself. The "wankers" who really paid for the place...the pro's working the clubs. It was seedy and gross but, in its own way, quite wonderful.

Not the kind of thing that can exist in today's world...and I have mixed feelings about that.

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 1/1/2008 10:44:29 AM

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So, how was it? Did you have a good time?

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 1/1/2008 10:59:40 AM

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i'm not really into the whole club scene so i dont have much advice for you.

i think it's kind of over rated personally.

~meticulous~

While it is generally welcomed, you do realize that it is not mandatory to post, right? I am not attcking you, just wondering why somebody would post on a topic, just to say "I have nothing to add to this discussion".

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RE: Going to Paddles (NYC) for the 1st Time - Any Advice? - 1/1/2008 12:42:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: tigerstyle

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
I liked the old clubs in NYC much better...

I don't know...Paddles is nice and clean...though a bit small, maybe. Hellfire was a nasty pit! But it was fun...

Taggard

Some pervy stuff went on there. Tales which cannot be told on account of just being too damn gnarly. I miss the old Meatpacking District days, pre-boutiques.

I totally agree with you...Hellfire was the first club I ever went to and I will never forget the experience. It was crazy, dark, interesting, pervy, intense, hot, creepy, all at the same time.

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