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gwendolyn -> RE: Doms with an Oedipus complex. (12/30/2007 3:27:01 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Padriag
Women sometimes do this as well regarding their fathers, its called the Electra Complex.
In a completely subconscious way, I've formed this sort of relationship. My father, a single parent, was always there for me, no matter what was going on in his own life, or what an obnoxious teenager I was being. After about six months of living together with my Dominant partner, I finally realized this. They have very similar physical features and much the same attitude about life in general, (though Master is MUCH more intense in his opinions) The only difference I've found is that my father found it difficult to discipline me. I think he felt guilty for the actions of my mother, which, of course, weren't in any way his fault. And so I've found happiness with a man who has many of my father's traits as well as some I think I felt were missing as a child. I've always gravitated towards men like my father. It feels safe. Those attributes trigger a feeling of safety for me. I am more able to believe they won't just walk off and leave me one day.
We learn so much from our parents. One main aspect of that is the opinions we form about close personal relationships. These complexes, if not obsessed over, seem perfectly natural to me. But then again, I find myself in agreement with a few of Freud's opinions too. ::shrugs:: To each their own.
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