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stella41b -> RE: HWP (12/29/2007 7:52:14 PM)
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My main criteria is the intelligence-stupidity ratio but unfortunately no studies have been done. The standard appears to be 'photoimage perfect' and 'professional' and if you can convince other people that you're both you can get away with much more than someone who can't. I don't have any time for people who judge others on the basis of their appearance. If obesity was as simple as people make out then it wouldn't be such a problem, but I assume that it IS such a problem because it isn't that simple. I'm a TS female and I constantly get judged on my appearance, in fact a lot of people cannot see beyond the appearance or TS label. Their loss, not mine. Overweight people suffer problems which are very similar in that they get judged on their appearance, therefore I make a special effort to be open and receptive to them. How you look bears no relation to who you are as a person, bar personal hygiene, and who am I to say as to whether someone obese is about to drop dead or not? Obesity isn't healthy, I know from my own personal experience of weighing in excess of 400lbs, and now 110lbs lighter at a fraction under 6ft it does make a difference to your health. But you know, someone might just be carrying the obesity gene, they might be big-boned, they might be suffering from clinical depression, have issues from their past, some sort of emotional baggage, such issues might have been resolved, it could be issues with their metabolism, or they might even be healthy enough to carry such excess weight. Assuming that someone obese leads an unhealthy lifestyle on the basis of their appearance is shallow, and I don't care how you justify such things. If you're judging someone on their appearance then you're either a teenager or someone who hasn't fully matured. It never ceases to amaze me how some people have this childlike naive belief that they're going to meet someone in their 30's or 40's or older who isn't physically imperfect, who doesn't have some sort of emotional baggage and who doesn't have a past. And isn't it so often the case that the first person to cry 'fake' or whine that they can't find anybody 'real' is often the person only interested in people who match a list of criteria which excludes most of the population? I've got nothing against physically attractive people or people in good shape, congratulations and if you've got it, use it. I've also got nothing against people expressing preferences, but at the end of the day it's your preferences and doesn't reflect, or shouldn't, on the other person. All I'm saying is if you're mug enough to assume an obese person is that way by choice then it says far more about you as a person than it does them.
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