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RE: lifestyle - 12/29/2007 12:40:28 PM   
DesFIP


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From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		The ones who have been putting you down and telling you that you don't belong here are doing so because you've rejected them and their ideas. That shows their lack of self confidence. Ignore them.

As long as you know what you want, and will communicate that honestly to anyone you get into negotiation with, then you've been open, honest and straight forward. And nobody can ask for anything more.

Be who you are and keep rejecting those that aren't compatible with you.

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RE: lifestyle - 12/29/2007 1:07:19 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poppygirl

does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle.


As others have said, do what you want to do! You may find as you spend more time in this lifestyle that your interests evolve. Two years ago, I started out my profile saying I was a "bedroom Dom," wanting only kinky sex. Now, I'm looking for a submissive who truly wants to serve me in every way she can.

And next time a Dom tries to tell you you're not a true sub, remember that his belt buckle is probably bigger than his dick and have a good laugh!

Les (who has a small belt buckle and a huge...brain)

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I am a fully eroticized being
No more neuroses
I found my strip naked soul soup
With the deviant ingredient
---The B-52s

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 7:52:45 AM   
CreativeDominant


Posts: 11032
Joined: 3/11/2006
Status: offline 		You can only be what you want to be and you can only be who you are.  Someone approaching you and telling you that you are "wrong" because you don't enjoy all the other stuff...the D/s outside of the kinky BDSM sex...is wrong. 

The thing to remember though is that, if you do not wish to be put down for doing things your way, don't be quick to laugh at how others do it in their way.  The ones that want to tell you that you are wrong or who want to tell you that they are "true" while you are not...have a laugh.  Those that say they disagree with your choices and prefer to do more, whether it be ritual/protocol or just an ongoing D/s relationship, etc. but who don't laugh at you in their disagreement...don't laugh at them or knock their ways either.  You and they just have different ways of enjoying wiitwd...be as open in accepting their ways as you want them to be of yours.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 7:55:00 AM   
Jeffff


Posts: 12600
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Status: offline 		Be who you want to be.......do what you want to do

Jeff

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 9:09:37 AM   
darkpassenger434


Posts: 138
Joined: 1/1/2008
Status: offline 		It doesn't seem to me that you're doing anything wrong as long as you're being upfront about what you want. Kinky rough sex and bondage isn't the same thing as D/s or anything of the sort. Any D should know that.
-R

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 11:26:28 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Joined: 2/5/2007
From: Chicago, IL
Status: offline 		my list of hard limits is probably longer than most yet it helped weed out those i wouldn't be compatiable with.  it took a while but i did find someone who was not only compatiable but also shared my distaste for many kinky things associated with BDSM.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 12:37:14 PM   
dogobedience


Posts: 536
Joined: 3/30/2006
Status: offline 		How many people on  staff do you have to handle the 7587586576456475987 daily emails!!!!!!!! Kinky sex only, so you are the one!!

The bad news is for people like me who need ALL of what the lifestyle offers. I live to dominate, whip ,bind, control, manage, discipline, and punish girls. Sex is just the desert for me. Do not get me wrong, I can work on girls all day long sexually, and do so often. But it is just part of an overall situation of control (cunt troll).

The good news is we all have sex, and you are upfront about that. A good master will move you to higher level than you have achieved previously with just a kinky sex dom however.   

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I start and/or reply to posts to further my abilities and share my experiences in this fantastic lifestyle.

I hope I am an intellectual instigator, making people think and or laugh and nothing more.

Tiger, proud owner of kali aka Tigerproperty

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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 3:17:04 PM   
Missokyst


Posts: 6041
Joined: 9/9/2006
Status: offline 		I detest the term "lifestyle".  I am not in a lifestyle, I live life.  I engage in bdsm because it is hot, and my personality defaults to sub when I am with someone who inspires it from me.
It kind of creeps me out when people say they are in the life, or born into the life.. eeks...I keep picturing people with white hair, vacant eyes and eerie powers.
<<shudder>>
One too many old horror movies I think.
Kyst

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pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding ~Gibran, Kahlil

“The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you. You just got to find the ones worth suffering for.”
― Bob Marley


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RE: lifestyle - 1/2/2008 5:39:57 PM   
oliderid


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Joined: 1/1/2008
Status: offline 		poppygirl. I'm just like you...And probably a majority are (IMHO). We all have fantasies, the vast majority won't realize them, some (like you) wants to realize them, and a minority (IMHO) wants to live them 24/24. The problem with Internet is that somes take it as an opportunity to invent a new personnality for themselves. Poor creatures.


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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 10:36:37 AM   
Poppygirl


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Status: offline 		maybe its cause i have never actually been in a 24/7 situation and i dont know any one in real time who is. I just seem to naturally be in charge (when clothed) and bristle at the idea of being told how to dress, what to do, eye contact etc. yet in a sexual nature, its is all very appealing.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 10:45:42 AM   
MasterHX


Posts: 15
Joined: 12/18/2007
Status: offline 		Depends - are you misrepresenting yourself?  Do you correspond with individuals that contact you as if you are interested in a relationship, then drop the bomb at a later point that you just want kinky sex?  Long as you're up front about what you're looking for in the beginning, then it's thier own fault for thinking they can get something else from you.

No matter what you're looking for, if you're honest about what it is... then it's all right.

MasterHX

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 11:06:25 AM   
domiguy


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Joined: 5/2/2006
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poppygirl

does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle.



Yes it makes you a horrible person and you should be shunned by the elders...(Domiguy bows his head crosses his arms across his chest and turns his back on Poppygirl)

Slut, you must walk alone....Just a lonely kajira in a Gorless world...You have no home as you bounce from shelter to shelter looking for a familiar strong hair pull and ass slap...You are alone. Go now in shame.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 11:07:44 AM   
Leatherist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poppygirl

does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle.


I think I'm pretty much like you.

I don't need glorified excuses and evasions to be a pervert-I just am.

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I'm not taking custom orders.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 2:58:30 PM   
Greylynn


Posts: 575
Joined: 11/4/2007
Status: offline 		"Be who you want to be.......do what you want to do "



*they do what they wanna do, say what they wanna say
Live how they wanna live, play how they wanna play
Dance how they wanna dance, kick and the slap a friend
The addams family


Now I have McHammer running through my head.  Thanks.

< Message edited by Greylynn -- 1/4/2008 3:00:29 PM >

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 5:11:51 PM   
Prinsexx


Posts: 4584
Joined: 8/27/2007
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quote:

ORIGINAL: dogobedience


Do not get me wrong, I can work on girls all day long sexually, and do so often. But it is just part of an overall situation of control (cunt troll).




Are you sure it's not that other c word....caffeine?

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RE: lifestyle - 1/4/2008 5:20:35 PM   
CalifChick


Posts: 10717
Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline 		First, if this isn't just a "look at me" thread, then you might want to give serious thought to changing your profile.  Your first line states you are looking for a Dom.  But you tell us here you are not.  So which is it?  Perhaps your profile should say, "NOT looking for a Dom, just a kinky sex partner."  Truth in advertising, ya know.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Poppygirl

maybe its cause i have never actually been in a 24/7 situation and i dont know any one in real time who is. I just seem to naturally be in charge (when clothed) and bristle at the idea of being told how to dress, what to do, eye contact etc. yet in a sexual nature, its is all very appealing.


Perhaps spending more time discovering yourself and others is in order.  People speak of "The One Twue Way", but you DO know it's a joke, right?  Not every submissive is told how to dress, what to do, have eye contact restricted, etc.

Cali

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RE: lifestyle - 1/5/2008 9:38:18 AM   
KnightofMists


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Poppygirl

does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle.


There is nothing wrong with living YOUR LIFESTYLE... as long as your not Imposing YOUR LIFESTYLE on to others.  Nor should others impose THEIR LIFESTYLE on to you.

Live your lifestyle... and be happy with it!

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Knight of Mists

An Optimal relationship is achieved when the individuals do what is best for themselves and their relationship.

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RE: lifestyle - 1/5/2008 11:54:00 AM   
boffin53


Posts: 2
Joined: 12/27/2007
Status: offline 		I may be new but there are no bad people here only different people with differing needs. Provided nobody is hurt against their wishes it cannot be wrong in my view

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RE: lifestyle - 1/5/2008 12:06:22 PM   
CalifChick


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Joined: 10/28/2007
From: California
Status: offline
quote:

ORIGINAL: boffin53

I may be new but there are no bad people here


Oh, isn't naivete so... cute?

Cali


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RE: lifestyle - 1/5/2008 12:27:13 PM   
meticulousgirl


Posts: 969
Joined: 2/20/2007
Status: offline 		There's nothing wrong with it, as long as your honest about what your looking for.  Everyone is entitled to want what they want out of this whether it's just spanking, or being tied up, or a combination of alot of things, just be honest about where your at, and that's what makes it ok.

~meticulous~

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