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Poppygirl -> lifestyle (12/29/2007 8:52:35 AM)
does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle.

jakeskajira -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 8:53:43 AM)
Everyone has different preferences... there's nothing wrong with that. regards, slave emma

azropedntied -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:05:01 AM)
I am not into anybody elses definition of the mass markets catch all phrase buzz term " lifestyle " either Nor am i into any " scene " .So nope does not make you a bad anything in my book . Matter a fact i love the fact your not a drone chanting "lifestyle " this or that .Live and be who you are and do what you enjoy , its your path your bdsm journey .

Leatherbelt -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:20:07 AM)
How come "each to his/her own" doesn't relate. To me its *** obvious!

lronitulstahp -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:28:53 AM)
Just "do you", as they say. As long as you're honest, you can't possibly be accused of misrepresenting yourself. Of course, you'll always get some who will try to guilt trip you into being what they idealize as proper, and correct.

chellekitty -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:32:18 AM)
not a bad person, just not twue.... seriously though...it doesn't matter what you are into as long as you don't misrepresent yourself...if all you want to do is lie with your feet in your partners face and have him count your toes and that's what gets you off, go for it...don't let anyone tell you that you are not enough of anything just because you don't want what they want....there is enough room in this box for everyone... take care chelle

sweetstorm -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:36:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty ....there is enough room in this box for everyone... take care chelle I thought I came here to get OUT of the box [8D]

IrishMist -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:38:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Poppygirl does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle. The only thing that matters is what YOU think...other's opinions don't mean shit.

chellekitty -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:40:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetstorm quote: ORIGINAL: chellekitty ....there is enough room in this box for everyone... take care chelle I thought I came here to get OUT of the box [8D] i dunno about you, but i like being confined.....

CelticPrince -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:41:17 AM)
poppy, The path and it's approaches are divergent as hell / get used to them and work hard at understanding others. CP

Daddysredhead -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:53:15 AM)
As the others have said, just be you and do what flips your switch. You'll find someone out there who likes the same kinds of things as you, there are so many of us pervies roaming about. [;)] If you don't fall into someone else's cookie cutter definition of what it is to be this or that, let it fall on their shoulders. People will nit-pick for whatever reason, the thing is to just let it fall by the wayside and go on your merry little kinky way. [:)] ~ DRH

SirDominic -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:54:12 AM)
poppy, the solution is communication. You can desire any mix of fetish traits, and there is probably someone out there who will be happy to accomodate. If you are interested in someone, you should sit down over a cup of coffee and talk about what each of you wants out of the relationship. As long as you are honest about what turns you on and what does not, you are doing good. Hopefully the other person will also be honest and that is where you can begin to decide if the two of you are compatible.

PanthersMom -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 9:59:12 AM)
everyone has their own definition of "lifestyle" according to their own needs and wants. if we all did things the same way we'd be boring as hell. live the way you want, love the way you want, as long as its not hurting anyone, who cares what others say? nobody handed me a rule book when i walked in the door. relax, enjoy and you'll find the right person who wants what you do. PM

ELUSIVE1 -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 10:11:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Poppygirl does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle. yes, some of those 'posturing peacocks' make me laugh too-- but as other have said, be yourself, and tolerant of others life choices. . . .

HalloweenWhite -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 10:50:03 AM)
How you experience this lifestyle is entirely up to you, there are no end of things people do, like doing, don't like doing etc. within the BDSM lifestyle. None of them are wrong, they're just different. Btw, kinky rough sex is -very much- a part of the lifestyle so you aint -that- different from the rest of U/us.I once heard a saying refering to how W/we live this life- "Your kink isn't My kink, but your kink is ok" so live it anyway you want to. And as far as how Doms. talk to you making you laugh, it's a very common thing.

thetammyjo -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 11:03:44 AM)
How are you representing yourself? If that does not match what you are interested in, then yes you are falsely representing yourself. If it does match, then other people's expectation and your (and/or their) communication is lacking. Regardless of what you change -- terms you use, style of writing, etc -- there will always be a group (hopefully small) who with misunderstand you simply because once their fantasy is touched they have no interest in reality. That's when you use the "block" feature of the website or ignore them.

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 11:17:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Poppygirl does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? i know i am submissive sexually, and love the idea of hoods and collars and suspension and all that. its just that the way some doms approach me, makes me giggle. If you are as honest with your potential partner as you have been here, I see no mis-representation, no harm, and no foul. It's all a matter of finding a Top who is also not as interested in the "lifestyle" as the "kinky rough sex". A good rule of thumb: if you and he are both enjoying each other's company and having fun, you are doing it right. As for the letters from Doms that make you giggle, enjoy the humor! The giggles around here are at no extra charge. [:D]

came4U -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 11:46:46 AM)
quote: does it make me a bad person? or am i false representing if i am not interested so much in "the lifestyle" as much as kinky rough sex? well, I hate to break the news but unfortunately just being here (on this site) kinda and/or technically makes you part of a lifestyle. If you meant that you do not want to attend munches or play parties just to show-off your sex life to the world, I do understand. You seem rational. Just don't get swallowed up in any fake or nauseating games that make you feel less submissive because you aren't part of a dimwitted herd. Giggle away, giggling is a sanity saver sometimes.

Poppygirl -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 12:08:45 PM)
i am aware that just not being "vanilla" makes me a lifestyle person. And I do appreciate the support. I guess its just that i am not, i dont know... being talked about in the 3rd person, being approached by the phrase "hi slut" whether i am or not is just not how you say hello!

came4U -> RE: lifestyle (12/29/2007 12:13:30 PM)
Yes dear, I do understand. Some men have no clue that being Dominant does NOT imply losing life-skills as a gentleman.

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