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burningdesires47 -> RE: Round Table of Punishment #3 (12/26/2007 2:44:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty Things happen...shit breaks. If it was an accident, then how does it help to punish? Taggard Agreed. Behavior modification on human beings doesn't really work they way you seem to repeatedly think it does OnyxDelphi. If someone broke something I had on accident even if it was being reckless and demonstrated remorse I would merely forgive them and replace it. *snip* If you've ever had a job with a boss that you really liked and worked your ass off because you liked them and didn't want to disappoint them, apply that same type of idea here. Respect and the overwhelming feeling of not wanting to disappoint come from a positive relationship, nuturing and compassion. Build up someone's strengths and they will do almost anything for you to address their weaknesses. Indicating that the boss, the Dom, the master, whoever, is disappointed in their employee/sub is kind of necessary to keep accidents at a minimum. From the standpoint of the boss, if I have an employee who constantly breaks things, and have been reminded to be more careful, then yes they will be reprimanded when it continues to happen (written/verbal warning, sent home, charged from their paychecks, etc.). People must be mindful of what they're doing, and if they want to be flashy with the glassware when they know they have butterfingers, well then they can pay for it out of pocket. OTOH, the employee who rarely breaks anything and is usually very careful won't get the same kind of reprimands, simply because it's out of character--I'm not going to charge someone the first time they drop a glass, and if the second time is months/years later, why would I take it out of their paycheck when it's not a habit? Similarly, with a submissive. If the directives have been so very carefully laid out that they MUST absolutely not break this, and they do out of laziness, or neglecting to pay attention to their surroundings and what's going on around them, then yeah, punish them. If they fell ill and knocked into the bookshelf my coveted item was on, I'd be more worried about chicken soup and not stepping on broken glass/whatever than punishment. Accidents happen, and yeah I'll be pissed, but the replacement procedures would depends on the actual item--many times it's not the item itself, but the memories attached to it that are important. And those cannot be replaced. course it would be kinda fun to tan her backside for being neglectful ;)
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