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First Christmas Alone - 12/24/2007 9:57:29 PM

Dickens1

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Folks, this is the first Christmas I have ever spent alone, and it is most definately the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Not dwelling on that, I just want Eeveryone to realize that the most important thing tonight is...realizing what you have in you life, coming to know just how much a relation with someone whether it be with family or a significant one means. Whatever that relationship means to you, this is the time to show it from your heart, for this day comes from us the beginning. Please, if you have someone, show them....in whatever way you can. It will not be ignored.

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/24/2007 10:05:40 PM

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Welcome to the club my unfortunate friend.....

Sadly, I would like to say that I had NOT spent the last 6 with a hateful and bitter person. I don't like Christmas alone and I seek something different, but I will gladly take this over the pain that I have endured.

I wish well to all who read this and all who don't.

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/24/2007 10:10:52 PM

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Same here. I am trying to make the best of it though, I almost wish the whole 6 years with my ex were hell, but they were not, its kinda that make me hate you so I can stop loving you type of thing...grr, We had some really amazing times together, ah, merry christmas!

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/24/2007 10:11:42 PM

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Thank you for a thoughtful post Dickens.
We tend to take a lot for granted, until we don't have it any more.

I hope the New Year is brighter for you, and May the Road Rise to
Meet You".

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 1:35:11 AM

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spent last christmas numb...i'd been up nearly 40 hours by the time i got to sleep, i had gotten the call at 2 am that Fallcon had passed away. woke up in the wee hours today and saw him standing at the foot of the bed. *sighs*

waking dream? ghost? i dont know. i do know i still miss him, no matter how happy i am with Daddy.

kitten, whose Daddy understands completely

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 1:53:04 AM

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Sending warm thoughts to adoracat, MzMia, Zara, Muttling...Dickens1 thank you for the thoughtful post.
Best regards to those who are feeling lonely.

aJ

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 1:57:49 AM

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To All out there Merry Christmas first of all.
i am spending my first Christmas alone too. although its because my loved one is in the army and the government saw fit to take him away from me and have him in Korea defending pots and pans. so yes its really hard. having to see my ums with out him there. having to wish him happy holidays with a webcam kinda puts things into perspective. To all out there who have loved ones overseas, may i say a wish that they are truely safe and loved. thank you for what a great thing you do for your loved ones in the states.
lonely pammy

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 2:49:55 AM

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I thought I would be spending Christmas alone. But my little brother (he's 30)and his girlfriend spent Christmas Eve with me. They are now finally asleep in the next room. I got to enjoy the Christmas eve by drinking a few with my brother and listen to him tell me and his gal how much he loved us. All of that was nice; I laughed and enjoyed sharing childhood stories. But I also got to endure the yuletide tradition of listening to one of my drunken relatives cry for a couple of hours. As usual, I had to remind him that I had neighbors. I love my brother to death, but he really gets on my nerves. I have been up all night with no sleep. I finally got his girlfriend to put him to bed an hour ago. He got out prison a year ago, but he hasn't fully adjusted to things yet.

However when I read a post like this, I am thankful. I wish y'all lived near here. I would invite you over to eat supper with us. We aren't having much. I bought a ham; we are going to have macaroni & cheese, turnip greens, scalloped potatoes, and an apple pie with vanilla ice cream. It's not much, and we are a dysfunctional family. But, I thank God for all of it. Merry Christmas to you all.

< Message edited by slaveboyforyou -- 12/25/2007 2:53:21 AM >

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 3:29:02 AM

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Notwithstanding the grief it causes some - this year I've chosen to be at home - and its wonderful so far.

When one isnt into drinking and stuffing one's face, Christmas isnt all that big a deal. I went and watched my UMs open their presents this morning (an early start) and now have come home for my idea of a festive meal - curry. I might go out later, but I might not - the day is mine to do with as I choose.

Meanwhile, the kitties have had their Christmas dinner - a tin of red salmon, much appreciated by the pair of them!

E

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:07:03 AM

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Yes: merry Christmas.
I have my children amd my sister and her children
But no significant bdsm partner.
So my heart goes to all others in this lifestyle who also feel alone.

Emotionally however I feel stronger than I have ever felt and at a good place to make sugnificant choices. There have been a great many good emails and a few nice phone calls and messages.
When we are all far older than we are now it will be time to look back and realise how fortunate we are to have our bodies, and sound minds and above all Hope Eternal.
One day we will all pass and that is the greatest leveller of them all and the one whereby we will either be prepared or attached to all those things we did not do and all the things we did not say.
So: my love and heart felt sincere good wishes to all the friends I know here and all the friends that yet I do not.
Merry Cristmas.
Prinsexx

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:11:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: slaveboyforyou

However when I read a post like this, I am thankful. I wish y'all lived near here. I would invite you over to eat supper with us. We aren't having much. I bought a ham; we are going to have macaroni & cheese, turnip greens, scalloped potatoes, and an apple pie with vanilla ice cream. It's not much, and we are a dysfunctional family. But, I thank God for all of it. Merry Christmas to you all.

Thank you...that was lovely.

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:25:35 AM

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having just come in from walking the dog, and looking to the heavens to wish mom and dad a Merry Christmas, while the tears fell, let me just say i know where youre coming from.

im waiting for my 19 yo to get up so i can hug him and try not to cry, because he brings me such joy.....but the fact is, no matter who is around me at this time of year (mom died 7 years ago saturday, dad back in 85), i always feel like an orphan at this time of year.......

may you find some joy today........and if nothing else, be thankful its almost over.

Merry Christmas

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:35:56 AM

KnOcala

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My christmas has you beat. Yesterday was my mothers funeral. After a long battle with cancer she finally past last thursday. My children are home with my ex and later I'll be flying home to spend the rest of the day alone.
and no matter how bad it seems for me, someone has it worse.
I am counting my blessings and trying hard to smile and iI know my mom is still with me, even closer now.

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:50:26 AM

givemyall

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-FR

If anyone is lonely they are welcome to have some of the gremlins that are residing with me at the moment... with a broken window, snapped front tooth, hoover setting on fire, gazebo blowing down, liquidiser blowing up, the quicker you collect them the better!

With that said, I hope 2008 is the bringer of dreams..... so who wants a gremlin?

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:52:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnOcala

My christmas has you beat. Yesterday was my mothers funeral. After a long battle with cancer she finally past last thursday. My children are home with my ex and later I'll be flying home to spend the rest of the day alone.
and no matter how bad it seems for me, someone has it worse.
I am counting my blessings and trying hard to smile and iI know my mom is still with me, even closer now.

so sorry to hear......but youre right....no matter how bad we have it, someone has it worse.....the day we were to bury mom, i was feeling very sorry for me......then i heard a wail in the funeral home and it was the mom of a 16 yo girl that had hung her self, coming in to make arrangements........

im sorry for the loss of your mom......it sucks more than anything else i have ever had to endure.......

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 4:57:33 AM

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it can be a heavy time. suppose all we can do is suck it up and devote the waking moments to remembering those we have lost, but also the small comfort in the meaning of it all. whether we believe or not, the fairy tale essence of the christmas message does happen to represent the best of human nature. and myabe thats why the thorns run so deep on days such as these

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 7:28:28 AM

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Merry Christmas to All!!
Just dropped my um's off for a couple of days so I have the rest of the day to myself, told my brother Im stayin home today and tonight so Im cleaning and working out after Im done surfen. I really enjoy my alone time. This year it seems like all the holidays landed on her days which was ok cause I was able to do things for me. Remember everything is what you make of it regardless of what day it is. Take care,
Rush Emery

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 7:36:08 AM

lusciouslips19

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Do what my clan does on Christmas!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w1uZ_W7atDE

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 7:38:37 AM

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I'm sitting here on my tod, ie alone happily perusing the CM boards. Have just popped a Turkey in the oven for a 5 o'clock dinner.

Being alone is quite bearable for some tho' I well know that many suffer a lot because of it. For them especially I hope they soon meet someone compatable. Dont get desperate and make a huge mistake tho' lol

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RE: First Christmas Alone - 12/25/2007 7:49:43 AM

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Merry Christmas to all. no matter where you are, you are only as alone as you want to me. Life will be great in '08.
ST

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