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RE: Less Sex, More Pain? - 12/19/2007 6:08:25 PM

Griswold

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This is remarkably simple;

More sex...less pain.

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RE: Less Sex, More Pain? - 12/19/2007 6:54:35 PM

BikerDomRealTime

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GregariousGreta,

Speaking only for myself sex and BDSM are two distinct entities which are mutually exlusive. There are numerous times where I have BDSM play with no sex. When I first made the journey into real life BDSM I was only interested in the play part and not the sex, and confused a play partner or two because I would not fuck them after playing.

I get a great deal of pleasure from BDSM play, as well as sex. The pleasures I feel are different between BDSM and sex, but both are satisfying. The pleasure I get from BDSM is 'deeper', more 'within' than with sex. It is hard for me to put into words how it feels, but I think many may feel the same way.

Just my 2 cents worth.... 1.6 cents after taxes....

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RE: Less Sex, More Pain? - 12/19/2007 9:06:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: rainasmiles

I enjoy erotic pain (by this I mean pain inflicted with the intention of arousing my dominant partner as well as myself.) much more than sex of any sort. If I had to choose I would choose erotic pain every time. Good sex can definitely enhance the pain and vice versa however, so for me it doesn't get any better than combining the two.

I completely agree with this. I have scened several times without any sex ever happening. Mostly when I was just exploring my submission and was still a virgin. But it was still deeply satisfying. Nowadays, I pretty much expect the combination with Sir. Perhaps I am getting spoiled.

Either way though, if I had to choose, I'd also take the erotic pain every time hands down.

Plus, for me at least, being made to cry is the BDSM version of an orgasm. If I start sobbing, I don't need sex or an orgasm to glow with soul wrenching fulfillment and complete satisfaction. Bring on the pain!

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