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RE: How to introduce a vanilla partner to BDSM? - 12/17/2007 10:10:50 AM

Kirren

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

When she walks thru the front door, hit her with a cattle prod...
then say, Honey, we need to talk............

the rest is history.

Ron

ROFL. Why didnt I think of that?

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RE: How to introduce a vanilla partner to BDSM? - 12/17/2007 9:17:58 PM

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Thank you for all your comments..the serious ones and the funny ones, I appreciate them all.

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RE: How to introduce a vanilla partner to BDSM? - 12/17/2007 10:44:28 PM

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I wrote my guy a letter explaining how I felt, what I thought I wanted and needed. He had always tried to be domineering within the relationship so I had a fairly good clue that he would embrace that aspect, but I had no idea whether or not he would be into the kink also, an integral part for me.

Having just watched it with Sir, I can recommend renting the video 9 1/2 weeks just as a cuddle on the couch with a saucy classic, and then at the appropriate moments say "how would you react if I did that?" or "how would you feel in her shoes?" Use conversation to explore the scenes. The kink in there is relatively mild, and the power exchange fairly gentle, but its an excellent way to start the conversation.

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RE: How to introduce a vanilla partner to BDSM? - 12/18/2007 3:33:02 AM

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I use to be super conservative. The best way to introduce a vanilla woman into bdsm is to make sure you are a great lover. If you KNOW she enjoys the vanilla sex, talk to her about liking to explore and being creative. Ask her things SHE would like to explore or ever thought about but didn't act on. One friend use to add one new thing each time we got together and it was fun. If she trusts you she may be willing to explore to make you happy at first then possibly get into it in the process. Thats how I got into this. I had another friend tell me everything at once and it turned me off.

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