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it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 9:21:35 AM   
saudisalve


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I live in saudi arabia  and i only found 3 dominant woman living in anothor city i wrote them and they did not give me any atention and i deserve that because i dared to ask them.

It is difficult to try to find dominNT woman IN SUCH CONSERVITIVE COUNTRY SO REMEBER ME IN YOUR PRAYERS
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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 9:38:04 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		lol. what did you write them? I mean if you wrote that you deserve their attention just because you wrote to them, well that is going about wrong. keep in mind that Female Doms get a lot of mail from idiotic boys looking for ethier wanking material/or a fuck. or both.  Study their profiles carefully, does any of mention how they prefer submissives to write to them? (like specifying that they don't do cyber,etc.) If it was a 1 liner of any sort, well most ladies ignore that. As for your profile, you hardly have anything in it! (what little you do have, I can't read it anyways.) Fill out your profile more, talk alittle bit about what you would like to experience, what you have experienced, (even if it is to yourself.)talk about what vanilla interests you have.  Write some poetry or quote some, (maybe a poem about what your ideal Mistress would be like.) consider posting a picture, though I wouldn't blame you if you don't, considering where you live. (though mention that you have pictures to send if requested. though no genital shots unless specifically asked for.) Is there any sort of community there? I don't know anything about Saudi Arabia, but in most places people have better luck finding what they are looking for in or near large cities. are you close to a large city?

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 10:39:04 AM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		you list yourself as a "slave " and you "deserve attention " ?? That is a tough culture  to find  not only A Domme but i bet consensual bdsm aswell .If your listing yourself as a  slave  your correspondance should reflect that  role .be polite ,humble , and hororable .As Lady Lynx wrote what did you write ?Most Dommes get flooded with mail .. this is not a sign up write someone and poof you have some instamatch  thing .you may find someone tomorrow or it could take months or years .


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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 10:52:54 AM   
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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 11:08:48 AM   
mercurialis


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ORIGINAL: saudisalve

hi all


I live in saudi arabia and i only found 3 dominant woman living in anothor city i wrote them and they did not give me any atention and i deserve that because i dared to ask them.

It is difficult to try to find dominNT woman IN SUCH CONSERVITIVE COUNTRY SO REMEBER ME IN YOUR PRAYERS



You do not deserve any attention just because you wrote to someone. Especially if you wrote something along the lines of "I am writing to you and because of that I deserve your attention."

Perhaps if the problem is that your country is conservative, you might want to reflect on why that is, and personally work towards changing that. Being more humble towards those women you feel you "deserve" attention from probably wouldn't hurt that goal. Get my point yet?

Oh, also, I can't read the language your profile is in, but I can see that it's short. A few words long at most short. Maybe if you put more in there it would attract more people?

PS: I'm not religious. But I'll be sure to remember the lesson you showed us today.

< Message edited by mercurialis -- 12/9/2007 11:10:33 AM >

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 2:34:03 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		This is funny. Why only yesterday I received a message from a Domme in the Middle East, and a month before another one. But neither was from Saudi Arabia.

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 2:55:08 PM   
kajiramre


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Status: offline 		I may be off, but when i read the initial post, I read it as his saying that because he had contacted them via email that he didn't deserve any attention from them.  

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 3:26:07 PM   
Griswold


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ORIGINAL: saudisalve

hi all


I live in saudi arabia  and i only found 3 dominant woman living in anothor city i wrote them and they did not give me any atention and i deserve that because i dared to ask them.

It is difficult to try to find dominNT woman IN SUCH CONSERVITIVE COUNTRY SO REMEBER ME IN YOUR PRAYERS


Offer them an oil well of their very own and I suspect your percentages will go up substantially.

(Just a thought).

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 3:50:05 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		I'm giving this a bit more thought here. I see three areas where there might be problems.. the first is the local BDSM culture, which may be similar but not the same as - from my perspective - the more Western culture of BDSM, there is also Saudi society to be taken into account and thirdly the Islamic Sharia Law. Then you have relationships between men and women to consider.

However can someone be a slave when they are not in a relationship which requires them to be a slave? At best maybe all you can be is an unowned slave, or someone with a desire or need to be a slave, rather than actually be a slave.

A similar discussion a couple of weeks ago comes to mind of a Romanian (I think) submissive trying to find a Domme in Eastern Europe, which also by our standards up until around 1999/2000 was also very conservative. What happens is the BDSM community - which exists (I feel BDSM exists anywhere and everewhere on this planet it's just a case of looking for it) but is submerged in more 'vanilla' sex and dating sites and even in other places where you wouldn't expect or think to find anyone involved in BDSM. You'd be surprised, for example, just how many health service workers in Poland are into BDSM. However where do you look, and who do you find and how do you approach the subject when you're in a country which has Sharia Law?

I would think laterally here, and look among possibly expatriate women, e.g. foreign women such as American women and women from the West and just generally cultivate friendship with women and develop trust. This is all I can suggest, I may be wrong, but this is what I would do in the OP's situation.

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/9/2007 7:22:31 PM   
KindLadyGrey


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Status: offline 		All I have for you saudisalve is sympathy. It must be very difficult to be a male sub or slave in a culture based on male dominance and female submission. I don't expect you'd have a very good chance of finding a dominant woman there, or at least not one who is openly so.

If pursuing such a lifestyle is very important to you, I respectfully echo OldBastardly's advice: move. Western Europe or the US would be good destinations, and there are many opportunities in both places. You are fairly young and your English is okay; perhaps it is not too late to enroll at a University in the US or Great Britain? Many middle eastern families are willing to send their sons to get educated in the west, maybe yours is too? Not only would you get a chance to meet more people interested in this lifestyle, but you would be able to pursue a degree that could translate into financial success later in life. Then, if you ever meet your goddess, you will have the money to support her :)

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/10/2007 10:28:51 AM   
Wickad


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Status: offline 		Ahhh, another entitled slave - lol.

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RE: it is hard to find a misress - 12/10/2007 11:27:04 AM   
IrishMist


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Status: offline 		Hmm yes.

I can understand how finding a misress would indeed be very hard.

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