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orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:44:42 AM   
girlcanthink


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Status: offline 		what is up with Doms that don't own me giving me orders. i was just just told that i WOULD be serving come spring. i think the people that are just takinh advantage of my currant situation should just back off. i want nothing more than to serve. but when someone says i have no choice in the matter, that really puts me off. am i right in thinking that i should have a choice?
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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:48:51 AM   
mnottertail


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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:50:23 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


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Status: offline 		Nah.  I get the same thing from time to time.  Just tell them if they dont back off, they will fine their feelings hurt, and a new asshole ripped, or something along those lines.  Then laugh it off and keep on truckin'.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:51:53 AM   
Jeffff


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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:53:08 AM   
girlcanthink


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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:53:47 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		A lot of people actually get off on that, they just itch to serve so much that for them it's "powerful and manly."  They wouldn't keep using that tactic if it didn't catch them a few fish over time.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:53:58 AM   
OldBastardly1


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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 7:54:12 AM   
angelikaJ


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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlcanthink

what is up with Doms that don't own me giving me orders. i was just just told that i WOULD be serving come spring. i think the people that are just takinh advantage of my currant situation should just back off. i want nothing more than to serve. but when someone says i have no choice in the matter, that really puts me off. am i right in thinking that i should have a choice?


Why would you be wrong in thinking you should have a choice?

You were told you WOULD be serving come spring.....
*shakes head.

What I am curious about is why are you doubting your own wisdom...

jenn

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 8:03:20 AM   
diaperboy99


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Status: offline 		Hi, There is nothing annoys me more than a Dom who gives me orders online where there in no way of them knowing whether they are obeyed and no way of doing anything about it they are not. Add to that the fact that they have no right to order me around simply because they are Dom and I am a slave.

If I were owned I would not expect to have a choice but to obey my Master, or anyone He ordered me to obey, but otherwise I feel I deserve respect for offering my submission. I am looking for a Master and if a Man respects the gift I am offering, then I will talk to Him, be respectful and as far as I can will obey him. If I end up submitting myself to Him, becoming His property, then what happens is up to Him but whilst I do have a choice I expect to be treaed with respect, and think You do too.

Just because someone calls them self a Master/Mistress Dom or Domme, does not mean they ARE any of those things, nor does it give them the right to use of anyone who calls them self, sub or slave.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 8:08:03 AM   
Owner4SexSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

A lot of people actually get off on that, they just itch to serve so much that for them it's "powerful and manly."  They wouldn't keep using that tactic if it didn't catch them a few fish over time.


Ahhh Uhhhhh.... I was wondering what would happen if I changed the bait...

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 8:48:12 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlcanthink

what is up with Doms that don't own me giving me orders. i was just just told that i WOULD be serving come spring. i think the people that are just takinh advantage of my currant situation should just back off. i want nothing more than to serve. but when someone says i have no choice in the matter, that really puts me off. am i right in thinking that i should have a choice?


There will always be people who think that a label they've given themselves or a personality traits allows them to be rude jerks. Ignore them.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 9:20:39 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		You only serve the one you accept and are collared by as your Master/Mistress the rest are just blowing around hot air to hear themselves talk. Ignore the little boys they will soon run off into someone elses yard to play.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 9:32:35 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		Being snarky my response to that would be one of two things. Either  "Gee, how did you know I was planning a tea party for Easter" or "au contraire, you will be the one serving a ten year sentence for stalking, kidnapping etc."

I am submissive to one. Literally I have met in my life only one man who meets my standards and fulfills my needs. And I am one picky person.

Normally I don't even bother answering stupid emails, I just hit the block sender button and then delete them. You deserve someone who fulfills your needs. If your needs, like mine, includes manners, politeness, affection, positive feedback and dozens of other things, then stick to your guns.

Because you may be alone as is, but it is a lot better than being lonely while in the company of someone you don't enjoy being with.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 1:01:32 PM   
CelticPrince


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Status: offline 		girl,

the simple asnswer is they do not exist. the orders that is until there is a relationship.

CP

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 1:17:01 PM   
Teles


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Status: offline 		Sure... in my eyes, you give your submission to somebody...you make the initial choice to relinquish control.  They can't rightfully take it from you...  Where is the specialness in being served by somebody who would serve anybody, ya know?

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 1:24:36 PM   
carlie310


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Status: offline 		snicker. . .I reply to emails saying that I'm not currently looking, but may be after several months, and tell them that I'm in drama now that precludes anything other than online conversation.  I got a response to that last week from someone 1,000 miles away chastizing me for not kneeling at the feet of my master. 

Illiteracy, or some other inability to understand clearly written words, is quickly becoming a hard limit.  Yes, Ron, that will make two.

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 1:42:03 PM   
Wone


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Status: offline 		greetings all - long time lurker here first time poster, thought I'd chime in a little.

I believe it depends on the situation. my local group has "high protocol" nights in which the subs serve the dominants, any and all. it is a fine dining situation, with more normal play afterward. I would say that an event like that - not including the play afterward, of course, unless specifically negotiated privately, is the only time a non-owned sub would have the cause to obey a dominant. To me, it's all about the negotiation. I will not engage in any activity that the sub does not also want - talked about in the first place. Non consensual demands should simply not be made, as it is premature before trust is built.

just my humble opinion.
Wone

PS: please excuse the horrid run on sentence. I hope I made myself clear in any rate.

< Message edited by Wone -- 12/9/2007 1:47:35 PM >

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RE: orders from non-owners - 12/9/2007 3:14:43 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		Just tell them you're really a guy....it will end it quickly, trust me.

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