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Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 8:38:02 AM

EssenceOfLove

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I suspect this topic has been discussed at other times on the message board, but I'm curious as to whether or not many of the Dominant women on this site feel that it's their right to cuckold their submissive husband or slave and, in fact, do so when the desire arises? If cuckolding is a part of your lifestyle, what is it about this particular act that excites you the most? I know that submissive men have long been into the fantasy of cuckolding, but it seems that more and more Dominant women are beginning to use it as a way to make their husbands and boyfriends more obedient to their needs.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 9:57:27 AM

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you ask the question if it is thier right to cuckold a person, well i dont believe in absolutes when it comes to consenting adults. if both people agree it to be right then it is right for them.

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but it seems that more and more Dominant women are beginning to use it as a way to make their husbands and boyfriends more obedient to their needs

i think you are just seeing it more as your awareness of it expands.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 2:41:24 PM

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I do not know how to pull up a previous post, but this has been discussed frequently here of late. I believe it is more of a male, sub/slave, fantasy. If you go to ask a Mistress forums, and go back to 11/21 there is a 10 page discussion on the subject. Go to page 5, click next page, and it is on page 6. If you go to "interest search", under lifestyle, check cuckold, and do a search, it will list a number of dominant women who might be interested in a cuckold.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 2:59:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EssenceOfLove

I suspect this topic has been discussed at other times on the message board, but I'm curious as to whether or not many of the Dominant women on this site feel that it's their right to cuckold their submissive husband or slave and, in fact, do so when the desire arises? If cuckolding is a part of your lifestyle, what is it about this particular act that excites you the most? I know that submissive men have long been into the fantasy of cuckolding, but it seems that more and more Dominant women are beginning to use it as a way to make their husbands and boyfriends more obedient to their needs.

Reading the prior thread would be helpful. However, if you seek to reopen a conversation on it, I think defining what you mean by cuckholding would be helpful as I have seen in other threads on this issue it's not always subject to one accepted definition.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 3:00:28 PM

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By the time the relationship evolves into a long-term collar one, it is my right. It's my right to do whatever I wish. Whether or not I exercise that right depends on the damage it would do. I can do it, by the nature of my relationships, but am I willing to be repsonsible for a damaged slave? No. So, if it will damage, I don't do it.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 8:21:12 PM

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As mentioned, this is a very involved topic. One that has many interpretations, thus the numerous LONG threads on it. In short, everybody is different and you have to do what makes sense for you. For my Wife/Mistress and I, while we are a full time lifestyle Femdom couple, when it came to cuckolding, my Wife/Mistress told me that we would have to both agree 100% if we wanted to go down that path. And if I became seriously uncomfortable with it, I had veto power as a husband. This may be different from others experiences, but our marraige comes first and this is a VERY delicate topic that needs to be handled VERY carefully. That said, being a male sub, I was the one encouraging her to pursue cuckolding before she ever brought it up.

In our case, we were married before we went down the seriously D/s path. Others entering into a relationship under a D/s mode would probably be different. It's VERY individual. You have to do what makes sense for both of you as a couple.

Read the past threads, lots of good info...

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/8/2007 11:33:56 PM

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I don't control my boyfriend with cuckolding. My subs accept cuckolding as part of their relationship with me or they don't have the relationship. Simply because I don't have sex with my submissives.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/9/2007 8:30:58 AM

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I thank you all for your thoughtful comments. I did go back about fourteen pages to try and find that long posting on cuckolding, but was unable to locate it. I first came across the concept of cuckolding in the classic FemDom novel, Excess of Love by Jac Lenders, back in 1979. I knew then that Female Domination with cuckolding involved was what I desired in a relationship and have sought this out over the last two decades. There are definitely "pros" and "cons" for cuckolding inside a marriage or relationship, but few things have excited me as much as this particular activity. Though cuckolding started out as primarily a submissive male's fantasy, I've seen a shift in how Dominant women view it over the last several years. Many women now include this within their relationship as a way of making their slave more submissive. I personally see it as becoming the norm within most FemDom relationships over the next ten-to-twenty years. It's true that many women become Dominant as a way of fulfilling their mate's fantasy, but once the power has been experienced, these ladies take to it like a duck to water and cuckoldry seems to be the next step in the evolution of Female Domination. Also true is the danger of cuckoldry and the possibility of losing one's spouse to another, which has happened. I do think that this can be avoided to a large degree with open communication between the Mistress and her slave. Of course, the fear of losing your wife to another man is part of the excitement of cuckoldry for the submissive male. This is a very complex lifestyle with each couple having their own take on it. What works for one couple might not work for another. Still, the concept seems to be gaining in popularity amongst FemDom couples.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/9/2007 8:45:30 AM

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/9/2007 9:28:30 AM

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Ghita,
Thanks for the links.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/12/2007 5:06:56 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: EssenceOfLove

I suspect this topic has been discussed at other times on the message board, but I'm curious as to whether or not many of the Dominant women on this site feel that it's their right to cuckold their submissive husband or slave and, in fact, do so when the desire arises? If cuckolding is a part of your lifestyle, what is it about this particular act that excites you the most? I know that submissive men have long been into the fantasy of cuckolding, but it seems that more and more Dominant women are beginning to use it as a way to make their husbands and boyfriends more obedient to their needs.

This whole post seems rather suggestive of your own wishes.

(And by the way....paragraphs and sentences are appreciated).

That being said....this does happen to be one of my own slight kinks.

(Okay...it's my only fucking kink....sue me).

Bud...you fed the conversation.....

(Okay....it's not my only fucking kink....but it ranks right up there with numbers 1 through 93).

Okay...it's all of kinks 1 through 93.

Where was I?

Sorry....as I was saying....kdf kjewhffl jfihrfoh jdoiejjfoi.

(And I'd like to say, I mean that....like I've never meant anything).

(Of course, that excludes chocolate pudding).

So, anyway....

RON PAUL for PREZ!!!!!

(Or Hillary).

I'm flexible.

I feel I've said what I needed to say.

(Glad I could be here....checks are accepted...cash is always appreciated).

My people will contact your people.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/12/2007 7:12:56 PM

slavekal

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Check out milady's postsabout the topic.

http://earthacatslair.blogspot.com/

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/12/2007 7:25:48 PM

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Slave Kal,
Tell Catwoman that Wayne C. Rogers from Las Vegas said "hi". I'm just now getting my blogs back up on blogspot.com, dealing with Female Domination and Cuckolding. One's called CuckoldingFantasyVersusReality. That provides a link to the other blogs, including one that has my erotica on it. Catwoman said on her blog that she's looking for a novel with mFm in it. You can check out my books, The House Of Blood and The Ten Days Of Submission at Pink Flamingo Publications' website. I'll try and contact Catwoman through my blogs.

Wayne

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/12/2007 7:47:33 PM

MasterFireMaam

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It's my right if the relationship has been negotiated as such. My relationships are. However, if I knew this would cause damage, I highly doubt I'd do it. Being responsible for how my actions damage my slaves is the reality side of Master/slave. But, I COULD do it, if I so chose. Could, would and should are all very different words.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/13/2007 4:07:29 AM

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I took the word cuckold out of my profile. It seems that some people think cuckold = live sex show.

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RE: Cuckolding - 12/13/2007 8:25:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

By the time the relationship evolves into a long-term collar one, it is my right. It's my right to do whatever I wish. Whether or not I exercise that right depends on the damage it would do. I can do it, by the nature of my relationships, but am I willing to be repsonsible for a damaged slave? No. So, if it will damage, I don't do it.

Master Fire

Quoting as this is much my way, too. Master Fire expressed it very well.

As to whether or how I enjoy it when I do it... Yes, I do very much but not because it makes a sub more behaved or focused on me or such. Rather, it's yet another way of expressing our difference in status within the relationship and that is why I enjoy it.

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