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How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 2:32:45 AM   
GoddessTeaze


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Status: offline 		How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie?
Is there enough information for a beginner,
or does it seem abracadabra to Yyou ?
 
What do Yyou miss, and what would Yyou
recommand to be done.
 
I'm very curious to read Yyour opinion.
 
Warm Greetingz
 
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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 5:34:10 AM   
wistfulmale


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Status: offline 		*shrugs* A someone new here, I am astounded at the... I'm not sure how to phrase this.... welcoming? attitude of the Dominants here. I guess what I find not disconcerting, but more odd (like when you mismatch a paring of foot and shoe, slightly off) is that my admittedly pathetic profile here has actually caused several Dommes (Dominas? Dominants? Cherished Ones? I'm still working on what's a proper "generic" appelation for Female Dominants.) to write to me. Which, truth be told, I love. But then again, what sub wouldn't?

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 6:14:50 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		Greetings GoddessTeaze and You certainly picked a great topic for discussion.. i hope most of us get to participate, however stuck up there noses of some may feel. As for wist, if you look good you have no worries of attracting. If not you have to make up on your profile of who you are and what you have to offer.. i guess all W/we can do is be ourselves. i would suggest to try and make friends first and get a feeling of whats going on and talking with others may help you a great deal.. i wish you luck and patience as good things take time to come. Good luck.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 6:16:28 AM   
Kellendra


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Status: offline 		I felt very welcome here.......but am very much a make myself at home kind of girl.
Often what you put in to things is what you get out of them, but I felt  welcomed personally.


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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 6:20:23 AM   
wistfulmale


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quote:

ORIGINAL: petpete


Batman: "Ma Parker's girl is more dangerous than her three boys."
Robin: "Her legs sort of reminded me of Catwoman's."
Batman: "You're growing up, Robin. Remember, in crime-fighting always keep your sights raised.



Going off on a tangent (which is something I do quite well), this signature reminded me of a favorite quote from that Batman series.

Catwoman had Batman and Robin tied up on the roof of a building. It was nearing dawn, and they were under a giant magnifying glass. Catwoman started telling them of her insidious plan:

Catwoman: I have taken the liberty to cover you both with margarine! When the sun comes up, the magnifying glass will fry you both to a crisp!
Robin: Margarine? Holy Oleo!
Catwoman: I didn't know you could yodel.

And then Catwoman went on with her diatribe. One of the best, IMO, one liners.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 6:36:02 AM   
Bethnai


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Status: offline 		I feel fine here. I don't need a welcoming committee.  I come to the boards for different views.  I will state mine and try to be as honest as I can and then kick back and read everyone elses stuff. Then I can mull it over.  This is important to me. I'm not brand new, but I am beyond thinking about it and in the actual doing it. So there is a time for me to shut up and pay attention. 
This place seems to go through stages, like any other place, and there is the: you know someone is trolling or attention seeking or its just repetitive. Then all of a sudden someone like breatheasone takes a topic and examines everything, and other people respond intelligently. I got what I came for.  LA can find everytime any topic has come up......it is all repetitive. 
I think the only thing that I would change is to be able to be articulate in my own questions. I think the information is available if the right questions could be asked.




 

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 6:39:02 AM   
petpete


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Status: offline 		Hey man your rockin!! i never missed an episode!!! Your my buddy!!! Your welcome to be my mate (as we call friends in aus).. i used to rush from school for the 5 o'clock episode on the kids programing!! Holy smoke Batman,  and the batmobile used to be some machine of how they used to take off from the batcave on fast mode tape.. Great Scott Robin and off to commissioner Gordon's emergency bat phone which was always the first and last resort.. How sexy was lee Meriwether as catwoman holding Her whip always in company of Her mice men.. i wish i was one of them!! Take care kiddo!!

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 8:51:36 AM   
wistfulmale


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ORIGINAL: petpete

Hey man your rockin!! i never missed an episode!!! Your my buddy!!! Your welcome to be my mate (as we call friends in aus).. i used to rush from school for the 5 o'clock episode on the kids programing!! Holy smoke Batman, and the batmobile used to be some machine of how they used to take off from the batcave on fast mode tape.. Great Scott Robin and off to commissioner Gordon's emergency bat phone which was always the first and last resort.. How sexy was lee Meriwether as catwoman holding Her whip always in company of Her mice men.. i wish i was one of them!! Take care kiddo!!


Personally, I always thought that Julie Newmar was the best Catwoman, but that's me. This is like debating between Ginger and Mary Ann.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 9:06:04 AM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		LOL...It didnt matter that much to me the kind of "welcome" I got...I wanted to stay and learn.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 9:15:42 AM   
trappedinamuseum


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Status: offline 		It took me almost a year of being on here before I actually dared to post.  I kept quiet, observed the rules, reglations and personalities of the posters (so as to understand their perspnalities; the way they use sarcasm, etc.) and then started posting.  I got a great welcome, and now have quite a few friends on the board.  I got a few flames, but because I had taken the time to understand the poster's way of thinking, they didn't burn as much.




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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 9:27:21 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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quote:

abracadabra to Yyou ? 
(Dominas? Dominants? Cherished Ones? I'm still working on what's a proper "generic" appelation for Female Dominants.)

That would be "doms."

If you must separate female dominants from male dominants, try "fem doms"

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 9:29:39 AM   
wistfulmale


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

abracadabra to Yyou ?
(Dominas? Dominants? Cherished Ones? I'm still working on what's a proper "generic" appelation for Female Dominants.)

That would be "doms."

If you must separate female dominants from male dominants, try "fem doms"


Duly noted. Thank you.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 9:31:44 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze
How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie?

It was a bit above average for a forum.  LIke most places, I just dove in, and at 24 I still quite regularly got insulted due to my age.  But the fact that there were a dozen people willing to engage in discussion with me, even though eventually most of them still put me down for my age was a good sign.

After a month or so, they figure out you're not going away and that you're actually making good sense and they either need to start dealing with you on those terms or start to look stupid themselves.

A few people who REALLY didn't like me at first now really respect me and have thanked me for being around.
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Is there enough information for a beginner,
or does it seem abracadabra to Yyou ?

Oh as a beginner it's so much more about what you internalize.  The same information tends to be around everywhere, it's what your sensors pick up and remember that gets you gooing.
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What do Yyou miss, and what would Yyou
recommand to be done.

Oh I miss still being surprising :) 

I recommend people lower their expectations and take more personal responsibility.  Far too many people want to force a sense of community just so they can feel yummy.  Community is something a person build for themselves- if you want it to be a strong and secure one that is.

 

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 10:26:26 AM   
crouchingtigress


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How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? 
 


i liked it, this may sound weird but what brought me here was trying to find a forum that did not hurt my eyes....black backrounds, purple fonts, tiny text, it was giving me a headache.

i loved that it was a small community of folks that seemed to know eachother very well. i loved how serious folks could be here and and how silly the same folks could be on the silly rooms.

i like that although my perspective is usually somewhat different from the maistream i never get too much grief, and there are almost no cliques here.

over time though i started burning out, seeing the same questions, hearing myself say the same things, and so before i got too jaded and caustic i left, and now only pop in from time to time if i have something to add to the conversation.

quote:

what would Yyou
recommand to be done.

 
i would love to see a room for transfolk. i am not trans, but many of my freinds are and i feel there is sort of a stigma that could be addressed with greater understanding..in the same way that having the gorean room has brought folks to understand and accept that part of our community a little more.



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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 11:29:14 AM   
Gardenista


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Status: offline 		In my experience? The CM message board is about average in friendliness. Not the snarkiest by any means, but not always too welcoming. The forums here are a little different then the ones I usually frequent, though, in that there is much wider variety of posters and opinions. And there is so much information here that it's entirely possible to blow away hours just reading the archives, lol.



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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 1:34:02 PM   
SirJohnMandevill


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Status: offline 		My experience has been uniformly positive. For example, in one of my early posts, I asked for input from "female subs only." A subsequent poster politely pointed out that those of other pursuations might well have helpful insights. I wholeheartedly agreed! Lesson learned...but gently.

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 3:07:20 PM   
laurell3


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ORIGINAL: trappedinamuseum

It took me almost a year of being on here before I actually dared to post.  I kept quiet, observed the rules, reglations and personalities of the posters (so as to understand their perspnalities; the way they use sarcasm, etc.) and then started posting.  I got a great welcome, and now have quite a few friends on the board.  I got a few flames, but because I had taken the time to understand the poster's way of thinking, they didn't burn as much.




A year, wow trapped, I'm glad you did start posting, your humor is always welcome.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 3:44:35 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		i've posted in enough forums that i already knew to keep my hands and feet safely in the car, do not eat or drink when trying to read the boards unless using a keyboard condom and having a good supply of windex and paper towels handy.

i've not had any horrific experiences here, i've learned quite a bit, and have used many of the topics as jumping-off points for conversation between Daddy and me.  the people that i see posting are marvelous...even when its a trainwreck of a subject, there are ALWAYS interesting things being said.   i know there are certain people who can be counted on for good advice, and others who are here for the sarcasm.

all around, i've enjoyed being here even when its Yet Another fat thread, another "OMG what horrible email!", another "you gotta be TWUE!!!!" subject, and best of all "but he said that this was the way Doms are!" thread.

kitten, content

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 5:14:49 PM   
flower2007


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Status: offline 		Oddly enough, I feel very welcome, even though I don't post a lot.

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RE: How welcome do Yyou feel here as a newbie? - 12/8/2007 5:35:20 PM   
ravennfyre


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Status: offline 		I've felt quite welcome since I've come into CM. There are some extremely humorous, knowledgable, and friendly individuals here, and on the flip side, there are some pretty damned snarky people on their perches, too.
In defense of the new posters that unwittingly post a new thread about something that's been posted eons before, maybe they haven't noticed the search function. Maybe they just wanted to ask outright and get fresher answers from everyone.

At any rate, I love it here...


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