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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 3:02:34 AM   
Jayxkes


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Status: offline 		The best way I can describe my take on it is "sex is a part of BDSM,  BDSM is NOT a part of sex".



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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 4:10:47 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't say it's about the sex act per se, but there's a lot of emphasis on what W/we find erotic and how W/we express ourself in an erotic way.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 4:23:48 AM   
txnights05


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Status: offline 		i think life is about sex... this is just a great way to do it

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 4:25:33 AM   
bandit25


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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 4:28:16 AM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		Lol. Very true. That's what I was thinking really, I just gave the answer I gave to look intelligent ;).

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 4:32:27 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 5:23:49 AM   
bipolarber


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Status: offline 		BDSM is as much about sex as oil paint and marble is about art.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 5:35:20 AM   
MissOchistic


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Status: offline 		For me it's completely seperate. I sometimes bring BDSM into my sex, but it's no more about sex than driving is about sex, even though I gt off from doing it in the car :)

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 6:04:41 AM   
MrRodgers


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Status: offline 		BDSM are a certain set of kinky sexual fetishes and are almost ALL about the sex to Sontag and deSade. We have the S in S & M from a man whose obsession was the sexual stimulation in pain. Recall that even his pleasure in pain was not called Sadism. It wasn't until after his book was published that his name even became a word. It is the pleasure in pain that we ascribe to deSade.

How did we get that name ? Pleasure in pain and what kind of pleasure...sexual pleasure.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 6:05:53 AM   
OldBastardly1


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Status: offline 		I totally agree with "yes. no. maybe".

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 6:15:46 AM   
SunNMoon


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Status: offline 		Sex is a big component of BDSM (including the ds) for me. But it’s also about the relationship and what makes me happy.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 6:55:17 AM   
Dari


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Status: offline 		Not for me.  Intimate, sensual though, yes.  My D/s relationships don't even always include any BDSM activities at all; just me, taking the lead and knowing that they'll follow my orders to the T.

Now the converse is not true.  For me, if I'm having sex, BDSM is involved in some form.

But if I'm doing BDSM-type activities, sex is not usually involved at all.



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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 7:14:38 AM   
subtee


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

What would I know Im a virgin.


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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 7:24:01 AM   
ghitaPVH


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Status: offline 		I can scene without sex..I can partake in BDSM activities without it being sexual.....but...uhm...why would I want to?

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 8:42:21 AM   
NinjaProphet


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Status: offline 		For me, BDSM without the sex = stOOpid!

But that's just me...YMMV!


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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 8:59:39 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		For some people it is, and others it is not. For me it is not all sexual

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 9:08:11 AM   
sexyred1


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ORIGINAL: bipolarber

BDSM is as much about sex as oil paint and marble is about art.


Interesting analogy.. So that is why some of the partners I have had in my life have varied from the finesse of Renoir to the craziness of Jackson Pollock.

It is all about what you do with the raw materials, sexually or artistically. I happen to feel you can combine the two, but that is just me.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 9:23:32 AM   
MistressDolly


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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

My husband and I were arguing about the subject today: Is BDSM about sex?



For some, it's purely sexual; for others, it goes beyond - - way beyond, particularly in M/s and d/s relationships.

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 9:28:51 AM   
LATEXBABY64


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Status: offline 		I would say    YES  just imagen if you said no sex allowed lol rofl yeah buddy

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RE: Is BDSM about sex? - 12/5/2007 9:46:08 AM   
RCdc


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Status: offline 		Is BDSM about sex?  No.
Is it defined by sexual proclivities and activities - no.  Unless you are speaking about in the media.
 
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