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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/3/2007 11:12:04 AM   
CelticPrince


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It seems your problem is financialy based / why does your Dominant help in the short term till you get back on your feet?

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/3/2007 1:43:01 PM   
HalloweenWhite


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Status: offline 		In terms of parents knowing what were into, Im in the same boat, I had to wait 9 years to have the privacy to explore the lifestyle. That's why Im loath to go back despite everything, but in the end, W/we have to be who W/we have to be.

The more you can keep from them the better, but I expect you'd have to compromise on how you play and how long you play for.

Good luck.

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/3/2007 7:55:48 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		CelticPrince, my Dom has paid for most of last months rent already and is willing to pay for my internet and phone bill for this month, he has done other things for me that i feel like i'm taking him for granted.
Halloweenwhite, you are right, ever since my last blowup conversation with them about the lifestyle which was when i was still living with them, i have never brought it up again nor do i wish to bring it up. Now on the other hand, my birthmom knows all about it and is quite sympathtic and encouraging me to continue with my relationship with my Dom. Playing with my Dom will be nearly impossible living at my parent's place so it may have to be on the back burner for a little bit until i can get money to stay in my place.

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 9:28:56 AM   
proudsub


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Status: offline 		From a parent's point of view, who has a 28 yr old daughter that has been back home several times but is now living with her b/f:

Only stay as long as absolutely necessary (parents need privacy too).
Help around the house to earn your keep.
Give them some warning when a b/f may drop by and try not to allow him to stay very late.
Let them know when you aren't coming home at night (we still worry).
Spend your time productively or looking for work, not parked in front of the TV all day.


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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 11:53:32 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		If your going to live with your parents then set a time limit on moving out and stick to it. Give yourself and your parents a break and get out as soon as possible.

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 12:32:03 PM   
charlotte12


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Status: offline 		If i was in your situation i would set a goal for when i'm moving out..... and stick to it. If there is an end in sight i can certainly live without heavy play for a while. I would take the time to spend some time with my partner outside of a play context. Do dinner, see a movie, take some nice walks or hikes. It might give you a chance to connect on a new level and the time spent away from playing will certainly be a good motivator for you to work hard for your goal of a certain move out date. Instead of viewing it entirely as a negative thing try to look at it as a chance to get even more creative about the way you two intereract. You might find some fun stuff to do that is not noise or obvious that you can then incorporate into your relationship once you have privacy again.

If you can't make it work then at least you found out now while you're already changing your life around anyway.

Oh, and.......

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 12:42:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		You may not be able to see your D, but you will have a bed, your clothes washed and always find food on the table..

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 12:53:00 PM   
proudsub


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You may not be able to see your D, but you will have a bed, your clothes washed and always find food on the table..


Let me add a few things to my list from a parent's point of view:
Wash your own clothes and do your own cooking unless your parents really want to cook for you.

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 2:05:20 PM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		Proudsub, my parent's are almost always asking if i'm available to come over for dinner, it's something we all miss when i moved out in Jan. of this year. Also, from a parent's pov i'm happy to think what you said over and yes i have a few gags that i could use .   And definetly if i have to move back home there will be no doubt that i will have set a time limit, i've been up for 8-9 hours at night looking and applying to jobs.

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/4/2007 6:43:08 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Actually that's precisely the reason I worked so hard NOT to go back home- and there were times when it would have made my life a lot easier and my mom was fully welcoming to have me back.

But that's because I'll always be her baby and the LAST thing I need is to regress back into that archetype and lose all the progress I've made in becoming an independent adult. 

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RE: Moving back home with parents - 12/5/2007 8:23:43 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		LA, that's sort of my way of thinking as well. i'm an only child with my adoptive parents and moving back home would seem like i can not do things independantly on my own. Which is why i'm trying to land this job later today so i won't have to step backwards and i can continue being on my own.

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