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RE: Saying goodbye to my pet - 12/2/2007 8:13:09 AM

DiurnalVampire

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I do hope the friendship lasts even after you two are apart.
Sharing here reminds us that not all the breakups in D/s have to be the drama filled horror stories that people are so fond of posting. Sometimes, you CAN just be friends afterwards. You enjoyed one another and you are moving on. Soetimes, thats whats best in life, knowing when to change a relationship rather than damage it.
Posting here also has a more practical use, after all. Instead of continualy being reminded of what will be a painful event already, we all now know (or the vast majority of us) of the split and we wont bring it up elsewhere.

Best of luck to both of you

DV

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RE: Saying goodbye to my pet - 12/2/2007 8:57:54 AM

PsyVamp

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DV,
You're absolutely right, it won't have to be hashed/rehashed/beaten like a dead horse later.
And right again with the statement "...change a relationship rather than damage it."

Thanks DV

LJ (Psy)

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RE: Saying goodbye to my pet - 12/2/2007 11:39:12 AM

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Yes, I would be the 'spoiled wolf' being spoken about here. I've just now seen this thread myself actually.

It is difficult to remind myself at times that even though we were a mismatch in the end, that through many good and bad things between us, that it did indeed start out on a high note and we would like it to end on the same. No relationship should have to end in tattered strips of pain and sadness or in anger and restlessness.

The relationship worked out on my end because I am a Switch, and I have found out that my ability to submit for long periods of time (24/7/365) isn't as strong as I was hoping. Aside from that though, we were like-minded on many levels even if not-so-much on others. It was a good learning experience on many facets, even those not tied to D/s or BDSM period, for the both of us.

PsyVamp will be missed, and will be the first female Dominant that I've actually been able to have a chance to end it nicely and stay friends. My luck with this has not been so well on previous relationships, and I have been badly hurt multiple times ... so this is a good thing for me.

I'm going to take my leave from her home with a smile, and head to Seattle to start anew. Hopefully she will find someone better suited for her. As for myself, I will most likely side on being more of a Dominant for awhile unless something catches my eye, though my live-in days are most likely done the day I leave PsyVamp.

I do hope, just as PsyVamp does, that others may learn from this that even D/s relationships should end on a good note. It can turn a person inside-out if they are hurt from a bad end. Take it from someone that knows.

Well wishings, again, to my previous Mistress on her search for more understanding.

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