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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

First the Life of BDSM is huge and no one person knows it all.  No experts at it and any one that tells you they are is not telling the truth or they are deluded.  Those people are best avoided since they lack the moral fiber and or the intelligence to be safe in the life.   I can tell you about my style of the Life only with any expertise.  What I can tell you is that I plan each session and that includes what to do if something goes wrong.  Without that planning the first variable normally brings about a disaster that can be physically or mentally scarring.  Surprisingly enough any lady that has agreed to allow me to restrain her for a session has always called me to ask me to bring my toys over or can we do that again.   I live my life by 3 words simple in nature but after close to 40 years of life I am still finding more ways to use them or let them guide me.  Honor, respect and pride.  I have them for myself and I insist that the lady of my choice has then for herself.  Then it is a matter of gaining them for each other.  Once that has happened then the life becomes a joy with only the occasional external problem to deal with.   Have you imagined yourself bound, unable to stop or resist a man from doing to you anything he wants?  Feel their hands exploring your body, teasing and exciting you to the point that nothing else matters.  If so then you do have some submissive traits.   What set most of us apart from the vanilla world is that we know that once the endorphins are flowing the body pain/pleasure sensors can sense what should be pain as pleasure.  If this is used to the extreme the submissive will be hurt and paying for it later.  The trick is to find a Dominant that is very aware and is not willing to go anywhere near that far.   I love bondage and nothing makes me more alive then having a submissive restrained in an unusual position at least slightly uncomfortable and then seeing if I can make her cum more then she ever has.  I am a very safe sane sensual consensual Dominant.   I help a submissive to set her limits and then find ways to open her life and help her growth as both a submissive and as a person.  Her growth and well being becomes the most important thing in my life and if we part I will all ways be there to help her if she needs it.   Many use the Life to improve their bedroom experience, nothing wrong with that, but I live this Life as fully as possible.  Also a sub/slave is not a doormat, brain dead person, she is honored and cherished by her Dom.  Any Dom that fails to listen to a submissive, heeding her advice and opinion is not much.  I learn from any one I am involved with, adding to my knowledge base and making better decisions.  All that means is that a slave of mine is listened too and in her fields of expertise her decisions are mine and her advice in all things are factored into my decisions.  Also we negotiate the scope of each others roles are to be and then live up to them.  Also, normally families are protected from knowing about the life choice we have made, or that a sub/slave business or career is strictly her own, nothing of mine is inputted into it unless she request it.

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The trick is to find a Dominant that is very aware and is not willing to go anywhere near that far.

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Your viewpoints are just that your viewpoints and I agree with much of what you say here. However I am wondering what made you want to start a thread about this viewpoint and/or how can we as group contribute to this thread?

DDZ-

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i liked the Op.  Was insightful and showed me a Dom's way of thinking -- always a good thing.  That He didn't ask for advice is moot; may He wanted to know O/our viewpoints. 
 
pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i liked the Op.  Was insightful and showed me a Dom's way of thinking -- always a good thing.  That He didn't ask for advice is moot; may He wanted to know O/our viewpoints. 
 
pinksugarsub

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ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub

i liked the Op.  Was insightful and showed me a Dom's way of thinking -- always a good thing.  That He didn't ask for advice is moot; may He wanted to know O/our viewpoints. 
 
pinksugarsub

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Why do you think he posted it exactly? What "thinking" exactly did he show you? He said some nice lofty things but did he explain HOW he intends to carry those things out? Does this seem like a realistic picture of a relationship or more of a fantasy? Is there any discussion of failings, weaknesses, issues or just the attractive good parts?

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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Why do you think he posted it exactly? What "thinking" exactly did he show you? He said some nice lofty things but did he explain HOW he intends to carry those things out? Does this seem like a realistic picture of a relationship or more of a fantasy? Is there any discussion of failings, weaknesses, issues or just the attractive good parts?

Be nice.  Perhaps what he wants will happen.  Maybe he'll get a date out of it.

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ORIGINAL: SirRussellP

First the Life of BDSM is huge and no one person knows it all. 

No experts at it and any one that tells you they are is not telling the truth or they are deluded.    Also a sub/slave is not a doormat, brain dead person, she is honored and cherished by her Dom. 

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No experts at it and any one that tells you they are is not telling the truth or they are deluded. 

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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Why do you think he posted it exactly? What "thinking" exactly did he show you? He said some nice lofty things but did he explain HOW he intends to carry those things out? Does this seem like a realistic picture of a relationship or more of a fantasy? Is there any discussion of failings, weaknesses, issues or just the attractive good parts?

Be nice.  Perhaps what he wants will happen.  Maybe he'll get a date out of it.