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RE: How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 11/27/2007 10:21:18 PM

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Interesting, humiliation and degradation actually is extremely rarely sexual in nature for me, either by experience or reaction. Perhaps it's because for me my sexuality has ALWAYS been a core inner source of strength that it would be like someone trying to convince me that my mother doesn't really love me, or that I'm not a woman.

So sex or sexuality, not at all really what it is or does for me.

Prepare? Somewhat like toservez, I don't. Part of why I LOVE IT so much is because it means someone can get at me that deeply TO get me off guard, TO put me in a place I so rarely exist within. If I could prepare for it, I'd avoid it.

I guess I don't need to prepare for it because as much as I hate it, I also love it. It's a love affair :) The fulfillment, or the "burning" as I've called it for years comes from within, and preparing for it would be like soaking wood in water- no flame.

Afterwards there is also the reassurance that it was what it was and we are bonded closer together, knowing what we know and knowing we are who we are together.

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RE: How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 11/27/2007 10:31:19 PM

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The best way I think to explain it is not to look at it as the person is actually being degraded and humiliated by me, but rather they are being exposed to humiliating and degrading actions for the purpose of sexual pleasure. The acts are merely symbols.

It's a great explanation. Although for my Master is it not just sexual pleasure, but the pleasure of having that kind of power and control over me that I would subject myself to such things simply so he can enjoy it. For me it is a way to express my love and submission to him. I need to be subjected to such horrifics because words never seem to say enough.

That's a good point. Much in the same way pain play can be completely non-sexual. I'm just narrating from my own experiences and enjoyment.

I think one of the huge drawbacks with trying to categorize and explain desire is there is a huge variety of different ways people can process something.

Oh it's sexual too, no doubt about that, but not just sexual is all.

But I totally agree about how people process things differently. Not just desire but so many things, which is why I've come to open my mind to possibilities I could not conceive or comprehend of before.

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How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 11/28/2007 4:41:29 PM

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"Then I experienced such incredible intensity using humiliation in scenes and I experienced the after effects of guilt, of "what was I thinking??", of I can NEVER do that again, etc. "

My experiences have been similar. I have such intense orgasms during sexual humiliation scenes, especially if there are several other women watching, or in a women's club or at a party, that even though I hate msyelf when I get home, I nevertheless do it again and again.
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RE: How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 12/2/2007 12:58:02 PM

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Preparing for Humiliation either for scene play or whether it is a general part of the relationship is for me more of a long term and ongoing interaction.

I always encourage, support and develop my partner’s bdsm and vanilla interests and activities. Our open communication results in me helping her to cultivate an inner security and positivity.

Regardless of how I am treating her in a scene or for specific Humiliation, after she has had the psychological and emotional rush and enjoyment she has either a zero or minimal recovery time.

Of course the flip side is that I have known girls who crave Humiliation as part of their daily existence, needing it to the point that any negative after effects are part of the necessity.

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RE: How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 12/2/2007 4:14:44 PM

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For us, the preparation isn't as important as the 'aftercare.' I tend to go far, far away when he starts pulling out the big verbal guns and combining it with pain and forced orgasms. He has to 'come get me' when it's all over and bring me back to a functioning, happy headspace.

I suppose acknowledging that I have complete faith in him and knowing he loves me could be considered preparation.

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RE: How do you prepare your head for humiliation? - 12/2/2007 7:55:18 PM

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Humiliation isn't a kink for me. It's another form of sadistic enjoyment my Master gets from His slave and it's a teaching tool for me, also. He uses humiliation to help me realize that i can overcome my fear of being ridiculed, remain focused, and still complete my assigned task. It helps me to realize that it really doesn't matter what other people think of me. It only matters what my Master thinks of me. i don't need to try to be 'pleasing' to all. i only need to be pleasing to my Master.

i feel more confident and empowered by the experience because i am able to face my fear of being rediculed, endure unpleasant feelings, and still maintain my sense of self-worth as my Master's slave. That helps me to feel reassured that my Master won't abandon me just because i'm "not perfect", which is something that has been a long-time fear of mine, not so much with my Master but, throughout my life.

When my Master puts me into a humiliating situation, He strips away my false pride and the public facade that i hide behind. This forces me to see myself more honestly and realistically. i feel better about myself, afterward, because i know that my Master doesn't see me as any less valuable just because i embarrass myself for Him.

There is no preparation, on my part, for the humiliation because i have no idea when or where or in what way my Master might decide to have me do something that makes me feel embarrased or humiliated. Only He knows that and i simply do what i'm told, no matter what it is or where Wwe are.

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