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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

It might just be that I am over 35 and that I have had the misfortune to experience a very dark side of BDSM.
But some profiles made by fellow female submissives make me cringe.  They seem to be written from pure fantasy. I think to myself " boy are you asking for it"

I almost want to email them about it but what stops me is I think I might be just too sensitive because of my past.

What about you? Do you ever see profiles that make you worry about the wellbeing/safety of the person?

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

I have, often.  But I also assume half of them are not going to follow through.  I believe in letting someone make their own mistakes.
I am not sure what makes me cringe worse... the ultra "no limits" complete newbie slaves out there, or the brand new ultra controlling dominants who have never even as much as held a whip but who are ready to complete micromanage and control a slave.  Both extremes worry me, as much for the person who writes it as the one(s) who get involved. 

DV

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ORIGINAL: NMleather

too many use websites as an escape from their real life/relationships and can make a "new world" that they are in control of and change change at will. Just skip over the fantasy cyber players . One in about 200 is real and honest in cyberland

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

I figure that over the top profiles are people who are playing on-line or living in a fantasy world.  They don't bother me.

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ORIGINAL: TNstepsout

Yes, I see many of them. One of the very first profiles I read when I signed up on CM as a complete newbie was a young woman who had been a slave for several years and was now seeking a new owner. She had been struggling in college and experiencing some depression so she went to see a school counselor. This counselor suggested to her that she was "submissive" and referred her to a friend of his who specialized in this kind of issue. This "friend" told her that she was submissive and encouraged her to become a slave to he and his wife so she did. Four years later her Master passed away and the wife was moving overseas to live with family. They had given her 6 months allowance to live off of to help her find a new Master. She stated in her profile that she felt pain like everyone else and believed that God had given her a purpose in life to experience pain for others pleasure. She said that she needed a very responsible Master because she was so submissive that she could not say no to any request.

It was a painful read.

At the time I was completely blown away and had no idea if a story like this was representational of the lifestyle or not.

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ORIGINAL: shootingstar67

It might just be that I am over 35 and that I have had the misfortune to experience a very dark side of BDSM.
But some profiles made by fellow female submissives make me cringe.  They seem to be written from pure fantasy. I think to myself " boy are you asking for it"

I almost want to email them about it but what stops me is I think I might be just too sensitive because of my past.

What about you? Do you ever see profiles that make you worry about the wellbeing/safety of the person?

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ORIGINAL: kittyinpink

Yeah, one of my exs got on here after I mentioned it in passing. His making a profile ain't so bad, but I gotta wonder where he managed to get 10 years of experience and became in "expert" in about 20 different things since I last saw him 5 months ago. That's the part that makes me cringe. He didn't know the difference between a sub and slave last time I talked t o him.