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RE: Strong desires - 11/26/2007 10:48:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: yourMissTress

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ORIGINAL: Kaiynasha

Tress & Kat, see I do not see the matter of me being straight as a problem. However, I also do not view having a female slave just about sex. I am straight and very open about sex. Therefore, I do not base my idea of having a female slave just about sex. Yes, I could fall in love with a female slave, but does that mean I am NOT straight? For me the answer is no, it just means I am open. Some will say she is a closet lesbian or bisexual. I will tell them no. I love the idea of just having a female companion in which I owned- which of  course would probably include some sex. I value the relationship of submission more. 


Ok, I am not trying to make this about sex, and I am not trying to challenge your sexuality. 
 
Straight = sex with only those of the opposite sex
Bi= sex with those of either sex
Gay/Lesbian=sex with only those of the same sex
 
If you have sex with a woman, that is bisexual.  Now, the reason that I bring up this point has nothing at all to do with your sexuality.  I don't care if you call yourself a lesbian and ONLY have sex with men.  But here is what I'm getting at...
 
Some time ago, I knew a female slave (lesbian) whose Mistress (by definition bi, but identified as straight) would say, whenever questioned, "I'm not a lesbian" as if it were a derogatory term.  She would say it during conversations with others when her slave was present.  She never meant any of these comments as a slight to her slave, but her slave was hurt by these comments and eventually came to resent her Mistress for them.
 
By the defensiveness that I'm reading in your last post, I hope that you evaluate your own feelings and attitudes before you proceed with such a relationship.


Actually, I'm not sure that's true, I could have sex with either sex, however, I'm not considered truly bisexual to many as the emotional commitment I have with women is much less than men.  It would be difficult for me to imagine me having intimate type love feelings for a woman (although I've never submitted to one, so part of that remains to be seen).

I don't think labels make much difference, however OP as long as you are honest and know what the sub's viewpoint on sex within the relationship is and she yours.  You seem very open and honest about your feelings and willing to discuss and even reflect, so I'm sure that won't be an issue.  Good luck to you!

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