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RE: Fighting my submissive self.. - 11/25/2007 10:26:53 PM

MzMinx

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*soft smile* of course I am not fully aware of who you are ..... I have never met you .. let alone spent any time getting to know you .... I was not saying anything bad about you as a person

what I was shareing was the perception that Ihave felt from the little I did see of your own public actions on your own profile

I did not use the word abrupt about you so I am not sure where that came from ... but I shared my perceptions because you asked a question on a public board, I was not judging you as an indivudual .... I was not sure if you understood the effect on others such may have and some of it certainly does seem to stem from self saboutage ...

Its not about whether others choose to play games ..... its not about whether others are fair or treat people in ways you find distasteful.. I agree, there are always disrespectful, cruel and small minded people in any group .... and who those people are, is often judged differently by different people within a group... all you can do is choose how you react .. how you act and present yourself ... you do not need to interact with those you find distasteful.. after all encouraging and participating in drama just tends to create more drama, and it can certainly tarnish you with the same brush, even if you did not start it... so it may have been entertaining for you .... but it certainly shows a particular side of you to the rest of the world... and part of what it shows to me is that you fear submitting, so you choose to interact with ones who will never evoke the desire within you to submit because you will never trust them.... you are choosing to interact in ways that give you proof that submission is something to fear .. that dominant woman cant be trusted etc etc ...

its feels a bit like setting yourself up to fail by surrounding yourself, with not only your own protective reactions which you spoke of, but also with people who cant fulfill what you need any way

this is only my opinion ... and may indeed be far far from the mark

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RE: Fighting my submissive self.. - 11/25/2007 10:48:22 PM

petpete

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You know how many times i heard that word from the actors?? i had to sit from a supposed to be friend Domme who is only half my age and because i didn't agree with Her views of domination She has branded me vanilla and told me that i don't belong in this group. i have heard it again in an evasive way through another Domme who has befriended me via my ex Mistress. (by the way i chose to ride the wave that i was given cause my ex Mistress was very much attached with me and i needed some help to break our bonds when i found out more about Her.) Sure i cannot participate in acts that most of the subs have the ability to but i know since i was a kid and when my male friends used to talk about reading playboy magazines and watching the naked girls in them... i was like

yes the geek.. And i was wondering what could be wrong with me??

i suppose i am an uncle now and somewhat many years later and now i have seen more and become more knowledgable.... or haven't i????? (besides, who cares what the rest of the world thinks about me when i'm having fun)

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RE: Fighting my submissive self.. - 11/26/2007 3:12:47 AM

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Greetings F/folks.. After having much thought and reading what the concerned members of this community had to say i would love to follow my dear friends bipolarber.. But it may be not of "protocol".. But who cares anyway.. i may never get to practice it again.. Thanks again F/folks and keep on rock "n" rolling!!

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RE: Fighting my submissive self.. - 11/27/2007 8:39:34 AM

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Greetings F/folks.
On a very serious not i will have to thank each and everyone of Y/you for Y/your evaluation of me. MxMinx has hit the final nail in my coffin and i feel that if i cant submit, why bother hanging around. It was not just MzMinx's post which has made me bail out but also some other respectable members of this group. MadameCris was the first one to identify me as rebellious and nervous having to make me submit but She found a way somehow to deal with me. i felt more relaxed with Her. It was having to relocate to Her that broke up our relationship then anything else. i did have privilege however to spend 3 weeks with Her presence as a guest in my home. i feel comfortable for making the name of my first Mistress known as there was a very strong connection between me and Her and She truly handled me with a way that i did accept submission to Her. i wish to apologies to those that i offended with my "out of touch" profile but i feel that this group lacks color.. People are to much up themselves before they even get to get to the starting point. They make hideous demands without even knowing who they making them to. i have been criticized for being self content. Let me clarify that i chose to become negative. It is my choice on my own will!! i am fully aware when i am so!!. Why one may ask?? i do so when i see there is no case or a worth while case to answer on a serious note. There are people here who live in dreamland. i don't know whether they chose to be so in order to magnify themselves for one reason or another but truly whether they are dominant or submissive they need to learn to be humble and reasonable before proving who they really are. truly i wont miss much as i am only a mild practicing submissive and the honest truth is i can fulfill my fetish (to some extent)on the vanilla world with the Lady of my choice. i am blessed in that respect that i do not need to become the doormat that so many Dominants are talking about resenting (but really that what they really want). Cheerio F/folks and good luck with all Y/you pursue..

PS: to my dear friends and anyone who wishes to contact me my profile is deactivated and if Y/you desire a link for contacting me feel free to ask for it.
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