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He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 10:54:30 AM   
LadyLegs


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Status: offline 		I keep getting email talking about "heavy tops" or "heavy bottoms"  but I'm not entirely sure what people mean by it.  I'm thinking it's one of those relative terms, so I'll toss it out here.  What do you think makes someone "heavy"?
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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 10:55:38 AM   
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I keep getting email talking about "heavy tops" or "heavy bottoms"  but I'm not entirely sure what people mean by it.  I'm thinking it's one of those relative terms, so I'll toss it out here.  What do you think makes someone "heavy"?

I have always associated the word with one who plays very heavilly; whether it was a top or bottom.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 10:57:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		Same here, always heard it as one who plays heavily and takes or gives a lot in play.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 10:57:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm thinking its not referring to weight, but rather intensity of play

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 11:30:11 AM   
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What do you think makes someone "heavy"?


mmmmmmm well... I think someone over 200lbs is pretty heavy.

and have to add... that I think someone under 130lbs is pretty much a light weight

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 11:52:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		I consider a heavy player to be one that does not mind marks, that can take play for longer periods of time, and probably sees him/herself as a masochist or pain slut. 

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 12:03:32 PM   
LadyLegs


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Status: offline 		lol... was that a pointed remark?

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 1:19:23 PM   
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lol... was that a pointed remark?


for a pointless label

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 1:38:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, if someone told me that they were "a heavy [something]", I would take it to mean they they're overweight.  But I could see the "heavily into [something]" definition, too, just wouldn't be what I'd think.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 1:46:43 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		one word .. Intensity ,the level other s view as to be far beyond what they are willing can also be viewed as heavy .

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 1:52:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Label all you want.  Just remember that one man's heavy will be another man's light and another man's hardcore.  

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 3:01:46 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		Katy i totally agree .. just as ones perception may not be anothers .I have been told  i am a "heavy player " yet when i am in a dungeon space next to what i view as a pain slut  that lable does not seem to stick so well . lol
Then again most of the lables dont adhere too well to me .

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 3:32:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well, as a heavy bottom (as described by others who know me and have seen me scene), I have to say that the ones who are dubbed "heavy" are probably given that descriptive by people who are seeing the things that the person is doing, and find that it is a harder play than what they are doing or are comfortable with.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 3:54:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		For some reason, people who play with me, or see me play, keep saying I'm a heavy bottom. although I'm sure I don' t know why.

Maybe all the blood has something to do with it.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 3:55:45 PM   
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For some reason, people who play with me, or see me play, keep saying I'm a heavy bottom. although I'm sure I don' t know why.

Maybe all the blood has something to do with it.

Nice....


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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/24/2007 4:10:29 PM   
azropedntied


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Status: offline 		uuh harry your the energizer bunny of the term heavy bottom space  .FYI harry is a work of art machine and a blast to watch .lol harry i kinda do not think there is a scale to measure  you aint that kewl !

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/25/2007 12:58:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		Most often it means more physically intense than the norm, but can also mean psychological intensity as well.

Or that particular person might just be using it as a ruse to try and use a term people consider "more special" so you'll feel complimented and more likely to listen to them.

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RE: He's not heavy, he's my brother - 11/25/2007 1:09:18 PM   
yourMissTress


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ORIGINAL: LadyLegs

I keep getting email talking about "heavy tops" or "heavy bottoms"  but I'm not entirely sure what people mean by it.  I'm thinking it's one of those relative terms, so I'll toss it out here.  What do you think makes someone "heavy"?


IME with these terms the word heavy is supposed to mean more intense, they can take/give more pain, more psychological torture or whatever than others. 
 
I really dislike the use of such relative terms, but until someone develops a device by which to accurately measure pain, both given and received , those terms are all we have.

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