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Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 7:22:52 AM   
Master96


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Status: offline 		I came up to a profile of a bi Lady, who described herself as a female slave. She is seeking women. But she is ok with couples. Her problem is with single men. She doesn't seek them. I don't have a problem with that.

Now.... She explained that she feels save when a woman is around. Hence, she is ok with couples. Then she hoped us to understand!!!

I didn't send her a message. Because I think she wont read it.

Well, I don't understand her. Does anyone? Please let me understand.

PS. To the woman I referred to in this thread...... I had to post this publicly to learn. Please understand :D

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 7:26:32 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

I came up to a profile of a bi Lady, who described herself as a female slave. She is seeking women. But she is ok with couples. Her problem is with single men. She doesn't seek them. I don't have a problem with that.

Now.... She explained that she feels save when a woman is around. Hence, she is ok with couples. Then she hoped us to understand!!!

I didn't send her a message. Because I think she wont read it.

Well, I don't understand her. Does anyone? Please let me understand.

PS. To the woman I referred to in this thread...... I had to post this publicly to learn. Please understand :D

Does not sound like insecurity to me. It sounds like she knows exactly what she wants and is not willing to settle for less.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 7:30:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		Whats not to understand?. She isn't comfortable with single Men. Seems pretty clear and straight forward to me.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 7:33:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it is just insecurity or being scared for who knows what reason another woman is important to her. It could also simply be she is in fact bisexual and what she is all about wants/needs a woman in her life no matter what and does not enjoy or is comfortable with being with just a man.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 7:54:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		Being a male, I can certainly understand why she would feel uncomfortable around my sex, alone. Let's face it, we have this testosterone stuff flowing in our veins, and than means we can't be trusted. The moment she was alone with us, we'd be looking to get into her pants.

(I'm only being mildly sarcastic... there's an alement of truth here.)

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 8:36:25 AM   
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You don't have to understand her because you already know you don't fit what she's looking for.

< Message edited by DomMeinCT -- 11/19/2007 8:38:16 AM >

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 8:41:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		Unless you are in a relationship with this woman -- a friend, a family member, etc -- why is it important for you to understand why she feels this way?

People feel all sorts of ways and have all types of limits and preferences. Most of the time they may not be conscious of what drives them but even if they are, they may have no reason to change.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 9:04:28 AM   
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Status: offline 		I like my bratwurst with sauerkrat...From what I have been told others do not relish this pickled cabbage delicacy...They will forever live in the dark and never achieve the nirvana of true bratwurst ecstasy.  I really do not understand these folks but trying to understand them would require energy that I do not choose to waste on such fools.

I have seen profiles where a sub is searching for a woman or a couple but no single men....Though I know that if they spent the time to get to know and embrace the Domidong that they would be freed from their gayness....Yet I imagine that what they feel about the Domidong is similar to the same way I feel about putting only ketchup on brats...just ain't my thing....And they just don't have the time or feel the need to explore other options that they just don't find appealing.


The real question should be....Why do these women always have to be so damn hot?  Truly a waste of primo flesh.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 9:18:40 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Master96

I came up to a profile of a bi Lady, who described herself as a female slave. She is seeking women. But she is ok with couples. Her problem is with single men. She doesn't seek them. I don't have a problem with that.

Now.... She explained that she feels save when a woman is around. Hence, she is ok with couples. Then she hoped us to understand!!!

I didn't send her a message. Because I think she wont read it.

Well, I don't understand her. Does anyone? Please let me understand.

PS. To the woman I referred to in this thread...... I had to post this publicly to learn. Please understand :D


What is there to understand? She feels comfortable with women around and that is what she wants.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 11:21:12 AM   
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quote:

Now.... She explained that she feels save when a woman is around. Hence, she is ok with couples. Then she hoped us to understand!!!
quote:

ORIGINAL:

Whats not to understand, she is being forthright and honest.No exclamation points required.

Just as I would need no explanation if someone was gay or lesbian or whatever, this falls under the same category.



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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 12:07:47 PM   
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Well, I don't understand her. Does anyone? Please let me understand.


this slave thinks she understands her and it really isn't that complicated.
 
simply put, her healthy, happy, fulfilling, "safe" place, within an intimate relationship, exists with a woman, who may or may not be in a relationship with a man.
 
some folks, for various reasons, are repulsed by ____________________.  fill the blank in with a specific gender, relationship or financial status, coloring, BMI, spiritual belief, political affiliation, etc., etc...

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 12:17:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not sure what there's to understand. Clearly, she's not comfortable being with a man alone. That's what she's stated, pretty clearly.

Now, if you're wondering WHY she feels this way, there could be any number of reasons. If you really want to know, ask HER.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 1:32:43 PM   
Master96


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Status: offline 		Thank you all of you guys. You were very helpful.

But I have two points:

First:

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I'm not sure what there's to understand. Clearly, she's not comfortable being with a man alone. That's what she's stated, pretty clearly.

Now, if you're wondering WHY she feels this way, there could be any number of reasons. If you really want to know, ask HER.

Master Fire



You just elaborated my question as I wanted. I felt, when I read that lady's profile, that she wanted us to understand why she feels like that. And that confused me. But as I said, thanks everyone for your ideas.

Second:

quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

Being a male, I can certainly understand why she would feel uncomfortable around my sex, alone. Let's face it, we have this testosterone stuff flowing in our veins, and than means we can't be trusted. The moment she was alone with us, we'd be looking to get into her pants.

(I'm only being mildly sarcastic... there's an alement of truth here.)



I'm glad you aren't totally serious about this. Although sex is a big, or important, part of my life. I would be insulted if someone said it is what my life is all about.

< Message edited by Master96 -- 11/19/2007 1:35:34 PM >

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Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 1:40:44 PM   
Master96


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A correction :D

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ORIGINAL: Master96

She explained that she feels save when a woman is around.


oops....... I should wrote:

She explained that she feels safe when a woman is around.

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Master96,

quote:

ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

Understand that actions will always speak louder than words.


Before you speak, ask yourself..
Is it kind? Is it true? Is it necessary?
Does it improve upon the silence? - Sai Baba

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 3:48:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'll just add a support for all of the above.



I can clearly identify with the woman you are referring to.  It is very hard to intimidate me, but I am gaurded in the presence of other men.  It's a challenge for me to let my guard down around men.  In the presence of women, I am far more comfortable and I can easily let the gaurd down when it is appropriate to do so.  That's really the definition of submission, letting your gaurd down and giving away control.  If she struggles to do that when another woman isn't present, then this is a simple requirement for her to have a good scene.

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RE: Insecurity with opposite sex! - 11/19/2007 4:28:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		To the OP:

Go rent the Movie "100 girls" I think it did an AWSOME Job of explaining Men in generalized way but what I like best is it show how many women see Men because of the way that realistically the majority of men on the planet act.

I get your point, she may have no reason to feel uncomfortable with you personally but that doesn't really matter, she isn't willing to get to know you anyway cause you are a single guy.

As far as what you don't get. All I can say is stop over thinking it, the answer is in your own post.

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