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OFFICERT -> Helpful tips (11/15/2007 11:34:03 PM)
My sub and I are really pretty new to this and we have discovered that we are very much into the Daddy/daughter relationship with each other. I am just having difficulty with her bratty side coming out alot lately. We have both been working long hours lately and I am sure that stress has some thing to with it. She really loves pain and spankings. Is spankings and pain a form of stress releif for some of the other subs out there or just fun for you? If not could I inquire about some good forms of stress releif that works well for others to help my bratty lilgirl? Thank you in advance for any replies and taking the time to read this and for all the help.

briska -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 12:57:16 AM)
Spankings and scening in general are definately a form of stress relief for me. It also kind of reaffirms the submissive side of my Daddy/girl relationship with my Sir. Our lives get kind of hectic, and when He is too tired, or just doesn't think, to play with me I get very uppity and resentful, almost brat-like. Try it with your girl, perhaps, and have a talk with her about whether "regular" spankings will help keep her spirit up during times of stress.

MidnightMaiden -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 5:21:08 AM)
Slap her across the face. It's very grounding. You've heard the term "it was like getting a slap across the face" when people want to reference something that "snapped them out of it". It's as much emotional as it is physical, heck when I need a slap across the face I barely even feel the pain [:)] Well look at me, I spent time working in a rape crisis centre, and here I am advising a man to slap a woman across the face. [sm=idea.gif]

adoracat -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 5:34:30 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OFFICERT My sub and I are really pretty new to this and we have discovered that we are very much into the Daddy/daughter relationship with each other. I am just having difficulty with her bratty side coming out alot lately. We have both been working long hours lately and I am sure that stress has some thing to with it. She really loves pain and spankings. Is spankings and pain a form of stress releif for some of the other subs out there or just fun for you? If not could I inquire about some good forms of stress releif that works well for others to help my bratty lilgirl? Thank you in advance for any replies and taking the time to read this and for all the help. yes, spankings/floggings are a very good form of stress relief to me. however...i know that for me, being "rewarded" for bad behavior isnt something that Daddy wishes to do. being punished = bad things happening, such as being made to write an essay, or things of that nature, things i dislike. if i ask nicely for a spanking, or for him to please bring his floggers? that quite often absolutely results in me getting what i ask for. Daddy loves seeing me smile and be happy. perhaps you and your lilgirl could come to a similar agreement, so that the good behavior that you both enjoy could be rewarded, and the bratty behavior (unless, of course, you like that!) can be curtailed. kitten, who is Daddy's lil girl too

juliaoceania -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 5:35:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MidnightMaiden Slap her across the face. If you are going to slap her across the face I would read up on how to do that safely.. there are many threads on the subject if you would like to look them up under the "search"function above on the top right side of the page. I have a Daddy relationship, he does not spank me for being displeasing as this is something I enjoy and he feels it would reinforce the behavior that he does not want. Perhaps giving her a time out would work better than giving her a spanking to help her modify her behavior.... Unless you like her being bratty and spanking her for it[:D]

juliaoceania -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 5:42:40 AM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_373725/mpage_1/tm.htm

TenderMistress -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 7:03:06 AM)
I'm going to go out on a limb here. I really don't reply to too many of these forms. But in this case, it would seem that my advice hasn't yet been voiced. Odd, because to me it would appear to be the first and obvious... shrug Open the lines of communication before you do anything else and see if you can find out what's going on to cause her to act so bratty. Sometimes, it's a matter of having a sit-down and figuring out a problem to solve it. Maybe she's feeling something she's uncomfortable voicing with you? Maybe because you are both so busy, she feels that her needs aren't being met, or she's missing her Daddy time with you? I don't know. But I still say communication may be what you need. And if that doesn't work... hey, slap away! Could be a good release for you both. But if you're wanting to do it as punishment and she enjoys things like that, find something less appealing to her as punishments. Displeasing your Dom/me should not be enjoyable, or a means for your girl to get what she wants.

Celeste43 -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 8:26:01 AM)
Strongly suggest reading up on safe face slapping as doing it wrongly could cause many unwanted side effects ranging from hearing loss, to broken jaw, to vision problems. But instead of waiting until she's showing the effect of lack of play, why not institute maintenance spankings? Ten or fifteen minutes a night would be settling, you could do it while watching the news and she could be relaxed the rest of the night while sitting on a cushion.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 9:01:13 AM)
Many sub/slaves/bottoms..... whatevers, enjoy the cathartic release of a good spanking, whipping, flogging, etc. especially when life is excessively stressful, confusing and/or frustrating. But sometimes, for any number of reasons, they simply need their leashes jerked and boundaries enforced, and they don't know how to ask for that, so they act up. Some dominants consider it manipulative, and in some cases it probably is deliberate manipulation on the submissives part. BUT it really can be very difficult for some of us on this side of the kneel to express our needs to our dominants. And the truth is that sometimes you can't express those needs because you aren't even sure what it is that you need, only that you need "something"! [8\|] It would probably be much easier if we all came with an "Owners Manual". [;)] [sm=lol.gif]

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 9:02:31 AM)
Okay, we are making a distinction here between face slapping, and punching, ear-boxing, etc, right? An open-handed smack is just that, and should do anything like draw blood or leave more than a pink mark. Just be sure you're not wearing any rings. I accidentally clocked one of my guys with some heavy silver!

juliaoceania -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 9:26:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Okay, we are making a distinction here between face slapping, and punching, ear-boxing, etc, right? An open-handed smack is just that, and should do anything like draw blood or leave more than a pink mark. Just be sure you're not wearing any rings. I accidentally clocked one of my guys with some heavy silver! I put a link in above... here it is again http://www.collarchat.com/m_373725/mpage_1/tm.htm There is discussion about how much force is necessary to really hurt someone if you do not know what you are doing... and it isn't much

CalifChick -> RE: Helpful tips (11/16/2007 9:46:26 AM)
And some of us consider face slapping a hard limit. You wanna bring up some really ugly garbage from my childhood, that is the shortest route to it. Cali

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