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Hi, here's my story - 11/14/2007 11:57:52 AM

gorgeous1

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Hi everyone,
I have lurked here for several months and finally decided to join. I just seemed to have "always known" that kinky stuff was arousing to me. I had always had fantasies, and thought maybe I was a freak. Then I read Anne Rice's Beauty Trilogy and I felt like somebody had climbed into my head and extracted all my fantasies. When I read Rice's books, I decided to ask my then boyfriend to "tie me up". That was lots of fun, but then after a few times, he asked me to tie him up. That was so not a turn on to me! I had no desire to be dominant...yuck! Anyhow, that relationship (thankfully) ended, and for a few years I sorta drifted from one disappointing relationship to another, afraid to ask for what I wanted, and getting pretty bummed that it seemed as if I would never find Mr. Right...

Then, a friend of mine introduced me to who would become my husband. At some point that night, he jokingly pulled a riding crop out of his closet and winked mischieviously at me, and I knew he was the guy for me! We have been happily and faithfully married for almost ten years now. I think we both realize how lucky we are that we found each other. There are many people who want to be more adventurous and either settle for "vanilla" or don't realize what they really want until later in life.

We don't live a 24/7 lifestyle. In our daily lives, I tend to be more of a control freak, and he is more laid back and easy going. We don't have "kinky" sex every time - sometimes it's just normal, and that's OK. Sometimes it's just a "quickie". We have times where we don't "play" at all, and then we'll go through a phase where we experiment and have all sorts of fun. I guess you can say we're just a real couple. Sex can't always be a mind-blowing and over-the-top performance. Real life sometimes gets in the way. The beauty of our relationship is that we aren't afraid to try new things, and I can look into the future and know that things will always be fun and interesting with my wonderful guy.

I wanted to join this site because we haven't been "playing" very much lately, and I want to just sort of rekindle that aspect of our sex life and hopefully I'll lure him onto this site and get him interested in getting a bit more creative! I don't mind initiating sex, but I would really rather that he comes up with the "creative" part - that's the submissive part of me, I suppose. I'm hoping if he can get a chance to chat with some other married guys on this site, it might get him more interested again.

Anyhow, that's my story. And oh- by the way - "gorgeous" is the name my husband gave me!

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RE: Hi, here's my story - 11/14/2007 12:00:06 PM

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hello, and welcome---sure ---talk to us.

But talk to HIM.

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RE: Hi, here's my story - 11/14/2007 12:18:55 PM

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Hi, thanks for the welcome! I just read your manifesto. I cannot agree with you more that it is important to appear "kink stupid" to the rest of the world.

On your advice to talk to "HIM", meaning my husband, I am assuming, yeah, we talk, it's just I think sometimes we just get so wrapped up in daily life and next thing you know, "Heroes" is on, and then it's time for bed (sleep). I am hoping maybe I can get him back into the mode of MAKING time to have elaborate sessions. Sure, it's hard work, and I know mentally and often physically it's more work really for the Doms than it is for subs, so he has to really want it or it won't really be fun for either of us. It's hard work, but worth it, I think.

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RE: Hi, here's my story - 11/14/2007 12:39:08 PM

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LOL, I hear ya......I don't have the foggiest idea of what 'Heros' is...I don't have cable or any antenna on my tv (I watch dvds and vhs time to time) it takes too much time, I do things like talk and chess and read and --- ummmm....hint hint

LOL.

Go get 'em, Tioger!!!!!

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RE: Hi, here's my story - 11/14/2007 1:02:31 PM

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Heroes is a drama on NBC - it's actually pretty good. It's about a genetic mutation that makes some humans have super-human powers. Generally, this is not a type of show I would watch (I prefer Project Runway or something on the Discovery Channel) but my husband started watching it, and it's pretty darn good. We watch movies too- my all-time favorites are Gone With The Wind, and Elizabeth. Hubbie and I watched "The Quiet Man" last night- hadn't watched that one in a while. My favorite naughty movie is Secretary. Really though, I think we've been watching too much TV lately. I'd rather WE were the main characters!

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