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Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 10:02:39 AM   
forbidenlife


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Hello my name is Lynn am doing a study for my human sexuality class, the base idea is there is no such thing as vanilla. I am looking for people that would like to do a chat or do an email answering these questions in order please make sure to number them as well simple put your own belief answer them honestly on how you feel. If you disagree then say it these are your own feelings and beliefs.
 
Here are the questions
 
1.
Views on men and women: Men should be aggressive and ripe off women’s clothes but would be labeled axe murder and rapist. Women should be aggressive and ripe of men’s clothes but would be labeled a slut

Look at these set of photos tell me what you think of the person in it?
What comes to mind when you see this type of image. Starting with the girl first, and then the guy

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/catwomen.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/maninleatherwithwhip.jpg

2.

There is a long list of shows that have BDSM in them, choose one and explain it, do you believe these shows are accurate to what the lifestyle is, and what it’s about. Why?

(look through this link choice a show and talk about that show make sure to tell me what show it is and a little about it)  http://masterkelly.com/links/bdsm-tv.htm#00s
3.
IN the 1950’s divorce was at 20% nation wide, now it is at almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The vows love honor and obey where taken out along with one person controlling the house hold. In a Vanilla relationship most still have separate accounts most will only give 50 % of themselves to there spouse. In the BDSM lifestyle, collaring (or any form of showing ownership) is like a marriage each person gives 100% of themselves to the other, one person controls the house hold the other willingly submits to the house hold. Love, honor and obey are the key elements of the relationship. In one some one gives half of themselves to there spouse, while In the other they give themselves up fully to there spouse? Which do you believe has the better chance of lasting? Why?

4.
In a study done by sex in fo101.com (a sight to help your love life) they did a pole on favorite sexual fetishes for women the top three where Dirty talking, Bondage and domination, and using sex toys. For the males it was Group Sex, Dirty Talk, and Special antonym (such as feet hands). Does it at all surprise you that at least one or more are in S and M lifestyle or that women are more into Domination then men? Do you think that is accurate?

5.
Why do you think people have an interest in bondage and domination?

6.
In a popular women’s magazine it offers an assortment of ideas to help spice up your love life, Many times they will suggest for a women to be the dominate partner when it comes to sex yet, more then 5% of women like the idea of having forced sex and 17% would rather there partner be the one that acts differently during sex. Why do you think that they would suggest to be dominate when many women would rather there partner be the dominate one. Which do you think it’s accurate (that women want to dominate or that they want to be dominated)


7.
Many people have a misunderstand for this lifestyle yet in both men and women’s magazine and other sex guide they suggest many things that are lifestyle related such as, light bondage, ordering around, playing with feathers and a assortment of other BDSM ideas. Why do you think people openly express dislike in this life style yet read books that suggest such things?

8.
Do you agree with women’s and men’s magazine to at least try some form of BDSM Activity? Do you agree that this is a good way to spice up your love life?


9.
Do you believe that if people fully expressed there sexual wants and fantasy FULLY and admitted what it is they really wanted. Being honest with them self about what turns you on and honest with your partner. Do you think more would practice some form of BDSM.



10.
Pain is sometimes a big part of a BDSM relationship. But can be miss understood. Can you name for me at least 3 or more pain related activities that a both vanilla sex relationship and BDSM relationship practice? Why do you think people say it’s ok to practices those form of pain but not others?


11.
In lifestyle people trust other with there life and well being. In a vanilla relationship people honestly have to trust that there partner is telling them the truth .Not having sex with some one else on the side. With so many STD floating around they have to trust there partner every day that they are not cheating on them with some one else.

What’s your take on how important trust is? How does it imply to you?

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 10:37:08 AM   
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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 11:14:51 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		Hate to tell ya hon, but this list is to long for everyone to answear. it would come across better if you break them up into individual threads

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 11:17:03 AM   
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Status: offline 		I can tell you that I looked at both photo links.

The first made my hungry and the second.......caused me to lose my appetite, almost my lunch...


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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 11:22:26 AM   
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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 11:23:51 AM   
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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 12:40:03 PM   
Archer


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Status: offline 		Funny funny funny that the survey is scewed in such an obvious manner.

Picture #1 a professional actress who dressed in a suit that flatters her body, she's in fantastic shape.
Picture #2 Some average  guy from a BDSM personals site.

Yeah now that's an objective comparison for gender differences, LOL.
Hope this is for a sophmore level course cause I'm seeing problems with objectivity within seconds.

Question #3
Considering the massive number of cultural changes that took place during the sexual revolution of the 60's and 70's how did you manage to narrow it down to specificly taking obey out of the marriage vows?  Leaving out Birth control, Employment, Suburban building, The advent of mass marketing/ advertising, Reliable personal transportation over large distances, and literally scores of other changes having nothing to do with obediance that have been found in various studies to have contributd to the divorce rate to varying degrees.

#6 the answer is simple studies have shown that there are many more submissive men than women in the overall lifestyle the numbers being scewed as much as 20 submissive men to every dominant woman. (Different Loving by Gloria Brame pblished around 1995 or so) Liekly the most scholarly work on D/s and fetishes ever published for the mass market. You might really want to get a copy and read it.

After that the questions beome predicatable and leading rather than simply collecting data.
Really need to study a bit more on how to make a survey that is neutral.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 12:47:12 PM   
laurell3


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Status: offline 		This isn't the zoo forbidenlife.  The questions/photos are ridiculous, too long and the typos and grammar make it hard to even understand what you are asking at some points.  It's unlikely you will get any positive responses.  Some of these questions do appear to be similar to many threads here in the past however, I would suggest you research with the search function.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 12:52:55 PM   
wisteriaV


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Status: offline 		Sorry Im not going to help you get a grade on your paper. Do it the old fashioned way and earn it by contacting people individually and asking them if they would mind partaking of this paper.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 1:14:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		some interesting questions - but they are very vague since you have already formulated a bunch of preconceived notions from the popular media. It also strikes me that you are approaching this almost as a voyeur 

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 1:38:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		i had never seen the link on #2, thanks...lol

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 1:51:53 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		Have you bothered to run this by your professor first? Because I doubt it will pass. You are deliberately choosing people only from a kink site to prove all people like kink.

If I were trying to prove that all people liked spicy foods, I might solicit only people who go to chili cook offs.

Besides that, this isn't new research at all. Go read Kinsey, he asked a much broader range of questions from a much broader range of people.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 2:36:39 PM   
subtee


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Status: offline 		1. False
2. All of the above.
3. The train would arrive in Chicago at 4 p.m.
4. x = 7
5. Antidisestablishmentarianism.
6. Mass of proton = 1.67E-27 kg
7. Jaques Derrida
8. Add the contents of the packet and return to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 10 minutes. Sauce will thicken upon cooling. Serves. 4.
9. "The Grapes of Wrath." John Steinbeck, 1939.
10. A polygon.
11. 42.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 2:43:59 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: subtee

1. False
2. All of the above.
3. The train would arrive in Chicago at 4 p.m.
4. x = 7
5. Antidisestablishmentarianism.
6. Mass of proton = 1.67E-27 kg
7. Jaques Derrida
8. Add the contents of the packet and return to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer for 10 minutes. Sauce with thicken upon cooling. Serves. 4.
9. "The Grapes of Wrath." John Steinbeck, 1939.
10. A polygon.
11. 42.


LMAO  thank you i needed this laugh today


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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 2:51:16 PM   
GentleLee


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Status: offline 		Wow... I lost concentration somewhere in question #4.

I agree with Lady Lynx that perhaps asking one question at a time would tease a response.

As much as I'd like to help you it'd take 3 hours at least, and that's an amount of time typing not even Master George asks of me.
Anyway, good luck.

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 3:01:06 PM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Whoa.. those have to be the most obviously skewed questions I have ever read.  Do you also subscribe to the WMD theories?
There is no way a professor is going to let that fly.  You have issued questions that continuously lead to the direction that serves your "study". 
I see a government job in your future.
Kyst

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 3:12:08 PM   
Squeakers


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Status: offline 		I'm game to answer the questions.
 
 
1.
Views on men and women: Men should be aggressive and ripe off women’s clothes but would be labeled axe murder and rapist. Women should be aggressive and ripe of men’s clothes but would be labeled a slut
      I never ripe off clothes and Men should not ripe off clothes either.   Frankly I would not even know how to do it.   Ripe is what fruit gets.
Look at these set of photos tell me what you think of the person in it? What comes to mind when you see this type of image. Starting with the girl first, and then the guy
The girl cat woman.   Now the guy---omg I barfed.  

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/catwomen.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/maninleatherwithwhip.jpg

2.

There is a long list of shows that have BDSM in them, choose one and explain it, do you believe these shows are accurate to what the lifestyle is, and what it’s about. Why?   I picked Family Guy---and Stewie is the Dom of the family everyone knows that and Brian the dog is the kinky hot one

(look through this link choice a show and talk about that show make sure to tell me what show it is and a little about it)  http://masterkelly.com/links/bdsm-tv.htm#00s
3.
IN the 1950’s divorce was at 20% nation wide, now it is at almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The vows love honor and obey where taken out along with one person controlling the house hold. In a Vanilla relationship most still have separate accounts most will only give 50 % of themselves to there spouse. In the BDSM lifestyle, collaring (or any form of showing ownership) is like a marriage each person gives 100% of themselves to the other, one person controls the house hold the other willingly submits to the house hold. Love, honor and obey are the key elements of the relationship. In one some one gives half of themselves to there spouse, while In the other they give themselves up fully to there spouse? Which do you believe has the better chance of lasting? Why?    WHAT?   Okay---guess you have never heard of velcro collars.  

4.
In a study done by sex in fo101.com (a sight to help your love life) they did a pole on favorite sexual fetishes for women the top three where Dirty talking, Bondage and domination, and using sex toys. For the males it was Group Sex, Dirty Talk, and Special antonym (such as feet hands). Does it at all surprise you that at least one or more are in S and M lifestyle or that women are more into Domination then men? Do you think that is accurate?   I don't know.   What is an antonym?   Squeakers is enhancing her vocabulary taking this 'pole'.

5.
Why do you think people have an interest in bondage and domination?
     I do not have an interest in bondage.   My interest in domination I think is environmental.
6.
In a popular women’s magazine it offers an assortment of ideas to help spice up your love life, Many times they will suggest for a women to be the dominate partner when it comes to sex yet, more then 5% of women like the idea of having forced sex and 17% would rather there partner be the one that acts differently during sex. Why do you think that they would suggest to be dominate when many women would rather there partner be the dominate one. Which do you think it’s accurate (that women want to dominate or that they want to be dominated)
5% and 17% is only 22% what happened to the other 78%?

7.
Many people have a misunderstand for this lifestyle yet in both men and women’s magazine and other sex guide they suggest many things that are lifestyle related such as, light bondage, ordering around, playing with feathers and a assortment of other BDSM ideas. Why do you think people openly express dislike in this life style yet read books that suggest such things?    WHAT?  I do not understand the question.

8.
Do you agree with women’s and men’s magazine to at least try some form of BDSM Activity? Do you agree that this is a good way to spice up your love life?
     BD/SM has nothing to do with my love life.  

9.
Do you believe that if people fully expressed there sexual wants and fantasy FULLY and admitted what it is they really wanted. Being honest with them self about what turns you on and honest with your partner. Do you think more would practice some form of BDSM.   Ummm no.  



10.
Pain is sometimes a big part of a BDSM relationship. But can be miss understood. Can you name for me at least 3 or more pain related activities that a both vanilla sex relationship and BDSM relationship practice? Why do you think people say it’s ok to practices those form of pain but not others?
      I can not name three.

11.
In lifestyle people trust other with there life and well being. In a vanilla relationship people honestly have to trust that there partner is telling them the truth .Not having sex with some one else on the side. With so many STD floating around they have to trust there partner every day that they are not cheating on them with some one else.   

What’s your take on how important trust is? How does it imply to you?
       Trust in BD/SM has nothing to do with STD.   Sometimes people who practice BD/SM never cross over into penetration.   My trust in BD/SM is that he is going to hurt me but never harm me.   For example---he's going to take care not to cause any perm. damage.


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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 3:19:04 PM   
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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 3:31:45 PM   
PantheraOnca


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Status: offline 		There were questions?

I was busy throwing up after pic #2,,,, and I'm straight!

bleah

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RE: Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) - 11/12/2007 3:39:49 PM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		lol I was more or less ok with pic 2, til I saw what he had on below his belt. eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!

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