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forbidenlife -> Stuudy For Human sexuality (there is no Vanilla) (11/12/2007 10:02:39 AM)
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Hello my name is Lynn am doing a study for my human sexuality class, the base idea is there is no such thing as vanilla. I am looking for people that would like to do a chat or do an email answering these questions in order please make sure to number them as well simple put your own belief answer them honestly on how you feel. If you disagree then say it these are your own feelings and beliefs.
Here are the questions
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Views on men and women: Men should be aggressive and ripe off women’s clothes but would be labeled axe murder and rapist. Women should be aggressive and ripe of men’s clothes but would be labeled a slut
Look at these set of photos tell me what you think of the person in it?
What comes to mind when you see this type of image. Starting with the girl first, and then the guy
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/catwomen.jpg
http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v726/lady_blue/maninleatherwithwhip.jpg
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There is a long list of shows that have BDSM in them, choose one and explain it, do you believe these shows are accurate to what the lifestyle is, and what it’s about. Why?
(look through this link choice a show and talk about that show make sure to tell me what show it is and a little about it) http://masterkelly.com/links/bdsm-tv.htm#00s
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IN the 1950’s divorce was at 20% nation wide, now it is at almost 50% of all marriages end in divorce. The vows love honor and obey where taken out along with one person controlling the house hold. In a Vanilla relationship most still have separate accounts most will only give 50 % of themselves to there spouse. In the BDSM lifestyle, collaring (or any form of showing ownership) is like a marriage each person gives 100% of themselves to the other, one person controls the house hold the other willingly submits to the house hold. Love, honor and obey are the key elements of the relationship. In one some one gives half of themselves to there spouse, while In the other they give themselves up fully to there spouse? Which do you believe has the better chance of lasting? Why?
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In a study done by sex in fo101.com (a sight to help your love life) they did a pole on favorite sexual fetishes for women the top three where Dirty talking, Bondage and domination, and using sex toys. For the males it was Group Sex, Dirty Talk, and Special antonym (such as feet hands). Does it at all surprise you that at least one or more are in S and M lifestyle or that women are more into Domination then men? Do you think that is accurate?
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Why do you think people have an interest in bondage and domination?
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In a popular women’s magazine it offers an assortment of ideas to help spice up your love life, Many times they will suggest for a women to be the dominate partner when it comes to sex yet, more then 5% of women like the idea of having forced sex and 17% would rather there partner be the one that acts differently during sex. Why do you think that they would suggest to be dominate when many women would rather there partner be the dominate one. Which do you think it’s accurate (that women want to dominate or that they want to be dominated)
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Many people have a misunderstand for this lifestyle yet in both men and women’s magazine and other sex guide they suggest many things that are lifestyle related such as, light bondage, ordering around, playing with feathers and a assortment of other BDSM ideas. Why do you think people openly express dislike in this life style yet read books that suggest such things?
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Do you agree with women’s and men’s magazine to at least try some form of BDSM Activity? Do you agree that this is a good way to spice up your love life?
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Do you believe that if people fully expressed there sexual wants and fantasy FULLY and admitted what it is they really wanted. Being honest with them self about what turns you on and honest with your partner. Do you think more would practice some form of BDSM.
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Pain is sometimes a big part of a BDSM relationship. But can be miss understood. Can you name for me at least 3 or more pain related activities that a both vanilla sex relationship and BDSM relationship practice? Why do you think people say it’s ok to practices those form of pain but not others?
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In lifestyle people trust other with there life and well being. In a vanilla relationship people honestly have to trust that there partner is telling them the truth .Not having sex with some one else on the side. With so many STD floating around they have to trust there partner every day that they are not cheating on them with some one else.
What’s your take on how important trust is? How does it imply to you?
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