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MissOchistic -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 12:00:51 PM)
Imagine days of hot, pulsing sexual energy screaming through your body, making you feel sexy and alive all the time, bringing you comfortable sleep with amazing dreams, waking feeling you could do anything, and then putting all that energy into another incredible play section. If you realease it in a puddle of salty tapioca, it almost feels a little wasted.

MissOchistic -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 12:02:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub i talked about a meeting, 1st and 2nd and so forth, with a Dom. Just idle chat about what we'd like to do. Then i asked a more serious question: If You play with me do You expect sex too? He said no.....but i have trouble understanding how i can get nakie and play and He wouldn't be aroused and want sex. Yet i believe Him. Can A/anyone shed light on this topic? Thank Y/you for Y/your replies. pinksugarsub Oh, also....you said specifically "expect", and he said no. Sounds to me like he let you know it wouldn't be required, or "expected" of you. Not requiring it and not wanting it are two whole different cheesecakes.

Celeste43 -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 12:47:29 PM)
Same way you believe him when you say, "Once I'm tied up, no canes because that's too intense for me". I mean, if he's a lying, egg sucking creep, he will do it anyway. This is a trust issue, you need to build up sufficient trust to play within your limits if you're playing privately. If you don't have that trust because you do not yet know him well enough, I suggest finding a public venue to play in. And asking someone there to keep an eye on what he's doing in case it looks like he's overstepping agreed upon limits.

sexyred1 -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 12:53:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 For me, its all sexual. Therefore, I would not play with someone I did not intend to, want to or expect to have sex with and vice versa. Whew! I was beginning to think it was only me! Cali To me, having no sexual component leading to getting off, would be akin to seeing and smelling a beautiful banquet of food, with some delectable wine; and not being able to eat or drink. What is the point? If I just wanted stimulation, I would read an erotic novel, fantasize and use a toy on myself. Otherwise, being with a partner should allow me to eat and drink (metaphorically or figuratively) to my heart's content. I guess I am just a decadent hedonist.

CrescentLuna -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 1:30:02 PM)
The way you phrased it, I would've responded that sex doesn't have to occur, and I might masturbate then/later but if you're not comfortable with it, no sex with you at the time. Make sense? For other people, it may be that he considers naked play time not necessarily sexual and would just enjoy the naked play time. For yet more he could just be lying to get you naked and tied up. He's probably the best person to ask on the subject.

SirJohnMandevill -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 1:34:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 I guess I am just a decadent hedonist. "Then there's a pair of us — don't tell! They'd banish us, you know." -- Emily Dickinson. So, like...shouldn't we form some kind of Decadent Hedonist organization? Pay Dues? Hold meetings and elect officers? Have an acronym? My mind is spinning with possibilities![;)] Les (Illegitimate son of Hugh Hefner and Betty Crocker)

windchymes -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 3:04:25 PM)
I wouldn't believe him, not for one short second, lol. More famous last words are rarely spoken.

Squeakers -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 4:34:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pinksugarsub i talked about a meeting, 1st and 2nd and so forth, with a Dom. Just idle chat about what we'd like to do. Then i asked a more serious question: If You play with me do You expect sex too? He said no.....but i have trouble understanding how i can get nakie and play and He wouldn't be aroused and want sex. Yet i believe Him. Can A/anyone shed light on this topic? Thank Y/you for Y/your replies. pinksugarsub Just because one is aroused doesn't mean they have to satisfy the need.

Squeakers -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 4:39:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 For me, its all sexual. Therefore, I would not play with someone I did not intend to, want to or expect to have sex with and vice versa. Whew! I was beginning to think it was only me! Cali To me, having no sexual component leading to getting off, would be akin to seeing and smelling a beautiful banquet of food, with some delectable wine; and not being able to eat or drink. What is the point? If I just wanted stimulation, I would read an erotic novel, fantasize and use a toy on myself. Otherwise, being with a partner should allow me to eat and drink (metaphorically or figuratively) to my heart's content. I guess I am just a decadent hedonist. what is the point? Because when he says NO SEX, and he is your Master, it's way hot and makes one feel totally submissive.

SweetSarijane -> RE: Prolly E/everyone but me Knows This (11/11/2007 7:14:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill quote: ORIGINAL: SweetSarijane Play isn't always sexual or about sex. For me, unless I'm in a relationship, I don't play sexually, it's just not my thing. I have fun, the energy is wonderful. Some of the play is sensual, but that's as far as it goes. Also, just because there's arousal during play does not mean anything is done about the arousal. Hmmmmmmm. Once again, I seem to be something of a maverick on these boards. For me, sex is an integral part of the overall experience for both my sub and me. I can't imagine how I could play with someone and both of us not have multiple volcanic orgasms! (Yes, based on past experience....) But that's just me and my .02 zlotys. Obviously, your milage may vary. Les (Illegitimate son of Pee Wee Herman and Betty Page) <grins> Like I said, if I'm in a relationship with the one topping me then hell yes sex frequently is a part of it [8D].

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