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My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 7:30:59 PM

kitttty

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My shrink is a good one. He's given me some sound medical advice before. He knows about Master, but has never (and still has not) placed a value judgment against my relationship.

The reason he thinks my relationship i flawed for me is because I noted that Master is not highly affectionate in the sense that he does not hold me or kiss me on the lips everytime he sees me, nor does he seem to see me as much as he has time for. Master sees me at least once a week and on those times he spends the night or an entire day with me, but he does not seem to want to see me every other day yet.

I told me shrink that my vanilla boyfriends had been highly affectionate and that I liked the physical affection.

I don't think I feel a lack of affection from Master since the times he does hold and kiss me are so meaningful to me. But my shrink thinks I am lying to myself if I believe I want to spend the rest of my life with someone who does not demonstrate a ton of affection.

I feel fine for now though.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 7:37:30 PM

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Perhapos you should consider ignoring your shrink and start asking yourself the question of "Can I spend the rest of my life with a man who is not very affectionate and be happy/fulfilled?" in a deep introspective sense?

Once you come up with that answer in complete self honesty without any concern for what your shrink is telling you that you need, I am sure everything will play out like it should.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 7:43:53 PM

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I think your psychiatrist is probably on the right track, but give it some time to see. Things will unfold and you will be better able to see the truth in time.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 7:46:40 PM

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I agree wit Rabbit.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 7:48:34 PM

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He dips-
I'm with MadRabbit.

My view is that we have compromisable and uncompromisable WANTS. For me; my uncompromisable needs are primarily ethic based and social based. (I can't abide people with no excuse for their bad manners, or aren't touchy feely.)

I would imagine that your phsych sees touching etc as uncompromisable for you. To deny it is to have the 'Jack in the box' syndrome where you are being self damaging..

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:05:31 PM

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If I had trust in a mental health professional, and they suggested that I think about something that they related to me, I would consider it.. no matter how uncomfortable I was with what they asked me to consider.

I would also think about this, if thinking about the lack of affection in your relationship causes you angst of any sort, longing inside, or leaves you yearning for something different... you could very well be lying to yourself.. but do not feel bad about that, we all tell ourselves lies about things we are not ready to face.

I do not think I could remain in a relationship that had an affection gap. Affection is pretty important to me.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:08:26 PM

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who is in the relationship: you or your shrink? If you find it's fulfilling, what time you have with him, why does it matter if it's not like other relatoinships you've had before?

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:10:42 PM

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If you do not need your Master's constant attention, then I don't see a problem.

I can be a very affectionate person, and at the same time, I need a fair amount of "me" space.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:19:13 PM

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i would venture to say that if you are bringing up the two to your psychistrist and comparing them in terms of who gives you more affection it is probably something you are contemplating and weighing in your mind. Your shrink obviously picked up on that. Interesting that in your thread line you state your psychiatrist is against your master - but i don't get that tone in the body of your op.

Maybe i shouldn't ask butttttt..... why do you have a boyfriend and a master? Maybe what you have is what you seek? Someone to "master" you in the sense of giving you the domination/control sans affection and a boyfriend who gives you the warmth, affection and cuddles you need. Each one compliments the other nicely

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:34:30 PM

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I definatly don't think your shrink is against you. He is there to help you thats what you pay him for. I don't see why he would say that to you unless he had a good reason. I think you should take a lot of time to seriously think about all this, and if when your done you come to the conclusion that you need or even just want more affection and time from your Master,go and talk to him about it. Tell him you how you feel and see what he says. I would think you should be able to talk with your Master, then go from there. I wish the two of you happiness.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:39:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MadRabbit

Perhapos you should consider ignoring your shrink and start asking yourself the question of "Can I spend the rest of my life with a man who is not very affectionate and be happy/fulfilled?" in a deep introspective sense?

Once you come up with that answer in complete self honesty without any concern for what your shrink is telling you that you need, I am sure everything will play out like it should.

I agree

............ of course... If she is Mentally fucked up... would she be able to come to a honest sense of self-awareness?

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:42:44 PM

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Not everyone who goes to a psychiatrist is "mentally fucked up" - it's a rather hostile way of putting things.

At any rate - psychiatrists usually are interested in medication and symptomology with patients - therapist, counselors, psychologists i thought were the "listeners"?

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:44:53 PM

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quote:

Not everyone who goes to a psychiatrist is "mentally fucked up"

Is there anyone alive who's not mentally fucked up in some form or fashion?

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:45:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: velvetears

Not everyone who goes to a psychiatrist is "mentally fucked up" - it's a rather hostile way of putting things.

take the stick out of your ass..

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:46:48 PM

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I do not have boyfriends anymore- not since Master.

My shrink does not recommend meds for me although he is an MD. He does not believe I have a neurochemical problem.

I do not pay my shrink. Sometimes I try and offer a nominal sum, but in he basically sees me for free as he finds me an interesting patient.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:48:32 PM

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quote:

Is there anyone alive who's not mentally fucked up in some form or fashion?

well... rumor has it that there is some stable normal sane individuals out their...

of course... they say their is unicorns too....... Did you know they have a stick on their head?

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:50:01 PM

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Edited because it became irrelevant.

I find it strange that he sees you for free.

Cali

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:50:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: velvetears

Not everyone who goes to a psychiatrist is "mentally fucked up" - it's a rather hostile way of putting things.

take the stick out of your ass..

Then take the bullshit out of your mouth. She`s right. Saying somebody is "mentally fucked up" and can`t be self-aware because they use therapy is pretty hostile and, in my opinion, downright ignorant.

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:52:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: ClubMix

Then take the bullshit out of your mouth. She`s right. Saying somebody is "mentally fucked up" and can`t be self-aware because they use therapy is pretty hostile and, in my opinion, downright ignorant.

also... go back to school and learn to read... then come back and actually read what I said...

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RE: My psychiatrist is against the Master. - 11/9/2007 8:53:21 PM

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ORIGINAL: kitttty
I do not pay my shrink. Sometimes I try and offer a nominal sum, but in he basically sees me for free as he finds me an interesting patient.

Now that is a rare Doctor indeed!!!!!

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