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ORIGINAL: Idowhatyousay

This topic is related to my other topic (about the reality of "relocating.") but it's got a different twist.

I am curious to speak with, and learn from, people who have been able to fully, or at least to some satisfactory degree, lived their BDSM lifestyle right under the noses of parents, siblings, etc.

I'm not referring to just a kinky handcuffs-and-blindfolds situation. I speak of submission, slavery, stuff like that. Like losing control to someone, while dancing around the often watchful eyes of those people who know you very well, who see you often.

I hazard this: as a male, I feel much more vulnerable losing control, given the status quo and expectations of our society (american, western). I think a woman could "hide" it in a "traditional" relationship, but I fear that a male might run into some rough spots, explaining certain things.

I know that it's great to be courageous and do what you feel is right and all that, but one thing I can't control is the opinion of others, and their actions or inactions based on that opinion. Religious convictions are wrapped up in all this (in my family) as well as the simple negative feelings toward non-dominant men.

Futhering the pressure of this dilemma is the fact that, given the supply shortage, would a man find himself in a position that's a little more crazy than what he'd prefer? Just to get the experience or relationship?

Please correct me if I'm wrong, these are just things that keep me up at night and make me unhappy. I'd love to see it a different way, if that way was the best way. It's not a perfect world...

Thank you

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I think calling someone Daddy or Master in front of your parents is disrespectful to them.

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ORIGINAL: Rover

Honestly, I don't understand why anyone would have a problem living a 24/7 power exchange relationship amongst family, friends and neighbors without raising an eyebrow... provided you have a bit of common sense.  
  
John