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frazzle40 -> change of perception (11/7/2007 11:10:06 AM)

I started in BDSM  knowing i liked pain. Had ony ever got it with punishment. Dont want to go into punishment pros and cons.
I have met a Master who praises me for small steps.  Not completion.  Is making me rethink, and admits i like the new tack on things.
Not sure this is a question, just wondered how many have found that what they thought they want isnt.





Rover -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:16:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: frazzle40

Not sure this is a question, just wondered how many have found that what they thought they want isnt.


Everyone that thought they wanted to be kept chained in the basement 24/7.
 
John



frazzle40 -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:24:51 AM)

thoughts to start dont match reality. i know that now.



missturbation -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:27:14 AM)

just wondered how many have found that what they thought they want isnt.

Yes, i thought i wanted a monogamous 24/7 relationship.
I have the opposite and its great [:D]



charlotte12 -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:32:51 AM)

I thought "play rape..now that could be fun. Submissive? Me? NEVER!"

Now i am serving under a man as his slave and discovering new things about myself every day.



daddyncherry -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:33:30 AM)

Me Me (stands up and raises hand)....

What i thought i needed.....wanted and reality are way different.




batshalom -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:53:31 AM)

Perceptions change with time. We evolve as we have new experiences, new thoughts, new ideas and new challenges.



toservez -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 11:59:54 AM)

If I was to sit down to when I was first introduced to this life to where I am now there has been a big change. Most of the change though was learning that what I enjoyed about the kink things were not the acts themselves but how they are also a tool for the much bigger picture and in particular the mental aspects I cherish.




Tigrita -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 12:08:15 PM)

I can't say that anything I thought I needed/wanted has come to not be true, but I've found a lot of things I never thought I'd want or enjoy now rock my world.  Very similarly to Charlotte, I just wanted the sexual agression and to feel one with natural dominance over me, but to actually be submissive myself, in a structured way?  Never.  Funny how things change.  And funnier that we're with the same man lol.  I guess Stephan is pretty persuasive, that cunning charmer (that good grip and mean slap help too).  I wouldn't have it any other way; the fact that he could see these things in me and convince (or under certain circumstances force) me to experience D/s in these new ways is the strength and power I was seeking, and so I yield to it.



Stephann -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 3:42:16 PM)

I've had an odd twisting and turning path.  I learned about BDSM real time, when I was 21 and attended a play party in Washington DC.  The party was almost exclusively female dominants and male submissives; at the time, none of it clicked with me.  A few years later, I stumbled onto BDSM related information online, and was floored to find that there was a lot more to it than just kinky leather and electroshock demos.  I decided that while I didn't care so much for BDSM, I really liked D/s.  From there, I started learning about Gor, and thought "M/s...now that's the way to go!"  Since then, I've really hammered out what I like and expect; that I enjoy intense D/s relationships (M/s or otherwise) and I do like kinky sex, bondage, etc, but it's the drive of intensity behind who and what I love and enjoy that fuels me most.

Stephan



slavegirljoy -> RE: change of perception (11/7/2007 3:53:52 PM)

This statement should be posted on everyone's mirror or cubicle wall and be required reading every day.  This is a fact of life and isn't restricted to BDSM. 
 
Thank you for posting this.  BRAVO!
 
slave joy
Owned property of Master David

(Note:  i added the bold to highlight this important message.)
quote:

ORIGINAL: batshalom

Perceptions change with time. We evolve as we have new experiences, new thoughts, new ideas and new challenges. 



Dnomyar -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 9:13:32 AM)

slavegirljoy. I can see that sign on your cubicle wall. Your boss walking in and saying "you are going to evolve, have new experiences, new thoughts, new ideals and new challenges". "Your fired"



frazzle40 -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 9:18:49 AM)

Love the quote about perceptions, would add it as signature if i knew how.



mistoferin -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 9:21:33 AM)

I had no perceptions of what BDSM was supposed to be like before I started doing it because I started doing it before I ever heard of it. That said though, my perceptions over the years have been in a constant state of change. I hope they continue to be.



chey -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 1:16:37 PM)

I could not even begin to tell how many of my original perceptions of who I am and what I want have changed over the years. It seems to be a growing process. With experiences come realizations for me.



treehugger42 -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 2:49:38 PM)

I had no idea I was a masochist until I got whipped for the first time. Go figure.



calicowgirl -> RE: change of perception (11/8/2007 4:41:47 PM)

I started at one end of the spectrum of thinking what I wanted/needed and quickly realized it wasn't even close. The hard part is being okay with my real desires. It seems to get easier by the day.

cali



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