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marieToo -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 7:10:45 PM)
I would approach her on CM without telling her right away that you think you work in the same building. This way you can feel her out without risking your own ass.

AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 7:32:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirJohnMandevill I've been struggling with this for about a year. There's a woman at work who I think may be a CM sub. Her photos kindasorta look like the real person...but I can't be sure. Is there any way to tactfully broach the subject except by blurting out, "Hey, aren't you [username] on CM?" Les Les, I'm in the camp that suggests you write her a polite note on CM. I had a similar experience when I first joined. Doing a geographic search, I came across a profile which had information that guaranteed the Lady lived very near me. I wrote a short note asking if she'd like to chat about things I knew that she'd know about from the 'hood. I never received a reply, which told me everything I needed to know.

sexyred1 -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 7:41:16 PM)
No, do not approach her; it is too stalker like. I had someone write me on another site like CM and he was saying things like, "I hope this does not creep you out, but I was in the elevator with you at blah blah blah and I cannot stop thinking about you". I totally freaked out since he described what I was wearing. It turned out he meant my building where I LIVE!!!!!!!! He was visiting his mother who lived in my building and I always saw him and never paid him the least bit of attention, he never ever spoke to me and then out of the blue, he sees me on this site and starts writing all these creepy things. I was infuriated with him and threatened all kinds of things. He finally went away when I threatened to call my ex who is a cop. So, don't do it; let sleeping subs lie.

xoxi -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 7:54:36 PM)
OMG sexyred that is SO creepy. I'm definitely of the opinion you should NOT mention this...either at work (no shit) or on CM. If you are interested in pursuing something with her by all means send her a note on CM but really now asking if you work together would CREEP me out if some guy sent me a message. It would seriously scare me because hell I don't know if he's sane or not, and I don't like strangers who are attracted to me (especially ones I am not attracted to back) having personal details about me. For all she knows if she turns you down you might cloroform her in the employee parking lot. Leave this is a 'funny coincidence' that will pop up later if you two decide to meet and have coffee together. Much better than scaring the chick half to death...and besides you never know if she's a total spiteful bitch who will delete her profile, print yours out, and send it to HR.

sexyred1 -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 7:57:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: xoxi OMG sexyred that is SO creepy. I'm definitely of the opinion you should NOT mention this...either at work (no shit) or on CM. If you are interested in pursuing something with her by all means send her a note on CM but really now asking if you work together would CREEP me out if some guy sent me a message. It would seriously scare me because hell I don't know if he's sane or not, and I don't like strangers who are attracted to me (especially ones I am not attracted to back) having personal details about me. For all she knows if she turns you down you might cloroform her in the employee parking lot. Leave this is a 'funny coincidence' that will pop up later if you two decide to meet and have coffee together. Much better than scaring the chick half to death...and besides you never know if she's a total spiteful bitch who will delete her profile, print yours out, and send it to HR. I know, it was horrible...and because HE was on a kink site where he saw me, he fantasized that we could be together and that I would respond to him since I listed myself as a sub, so OF COURSE I would be interested in him, since he was a Dom. It took me weeks of these emails to uncover who he was and believe me, I was afraid to go in the elevator!!!

Missokyst -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 10:06:04 PM)
Definitely creepy stuff. A long time ago when I was heavily into researching computer security some guy did the stalker thing to me. He even had the names of some people I worked with, asking things like "does marilyn like her new job?" It totally pissed me off! At the time I was learning how to track people as part of the security in my system. So I stalked him back. I let him know the town where his mother lived and if she would mind a call about him so I could check out his intentions. LOL That freaked him. He demanded I leave him alone and told me he would report me if I continued my harassment. Heh. His screen name vanished later that night. It felt GOOD. I am definitely not in the camp of people suggesting the OP contact her from this site. It is just too creepy. And I am one of those people who does like local contacts. Just not at my place of work. Kyst

texancutie -> RE: How 2 approach someone who MAY be on CM? (11/5/2007 10:20:11 PM)
That is way creepy! Someone sent me a message that we shop at the same grocery stores...my reaction was ewwww...lol. What happened to a nice simple hello, how are you doing...though not in person...lol. [;)]

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