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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 3:46:40 PM

MistressDolly

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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them.

One of many reasons: They're kinky bottoms, masquerading under "male submissive", looking for kinky sex. :o

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 5:39:40 PM

MasterShibari

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Some male subs here message very obviously straight male Doms asking them to Domminate them sexually, I am unsuprised that they are asking female subs as well. I agree wholeheartedly with RRafe, they are the biggest group here online and therefor have the hardest time finding anyone.

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 5:44:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them.

Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so.

Look...this is an unfair question by any number of mathematical levels.

I'm a male sub.

I've actually run the numbers.

There are (last count) 12 kabillion, 900 bazillion, 319 male subs to every 26 Dommes.

Now...when we then further run the numbers and realize that of those 26 Dommes...they (the Dommes) can possibly serve (as Cuckoldresses...which most male subs would be fine with) maybe as many as 10 male subs....we then come up with a male sub to Domme ratio of something on the order of....hold on....carry the 1, divide by 7....add the total number of states divided by the number of times male subs read their email and go "OMFG!!!!! I've found The ONE!!!!!"....

And you end up with....

(A fucking HUUUUUGE number of male subs).

Ergo...

Uh huh...let's see now....uhm....you have tits.

You're going to get emails.

(Get used to it).

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 5:48:25 PM

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They don't have anything to lose by doing so. If they're lucky, you've gotten curious about topping and if so, they might get to play. If you turn them down, they aren't any worse off then before asking.

Although I would like to say that although I've had several doms go ballistic after getting a thanks but no thanks, I've never had such a rude reaction from a male sub. Maybe they're just more mannerly?

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 5:51:22 PM

ClubMix

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

Uh huh...let's see now....uhm....you have tits.

LMAO Well, there ya go! Male sub`s train of thought, explained by a male sub!

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 6:18:58 PM

Griswold

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ORIGINAL: ClubMix

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

Uh huh...let's see now....uhm....you have tits.

LMAO Well, there ya go! Male sub`s train of thought, explained by a male sub!

(I blame myself).

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 6:55:41 PM

Mellissande

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

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ORIGINAL: ClubMix

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

Uh huh...let's see now....uhm....you have tits.

LMAO Well, there ya go! Male sub`s train of thought, explained by a male sub!

(I blame myself).

That's ok, I feel the same way about people with tits lol It's only natural

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/3/2007 8:48:42 PM

shellzbythesea

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ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea

Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them.

Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so.

Look...this is an unfair question by any number of mathematical levels.

I'm a male sub.

I've actually run the numbers.

There are (last count) 12 kabillion, 900 bazillion, 319 male subs to every 26 Dommes.

Now...when we then further run the numbers and realize that of those 26 Dommes...they (the Dommes) can possibly serve (as Cuckoldresses...which most male subs would be fine with) maybe as many as 10 male subs....we then come up with a male sub to Domme ratio of something on the order of....hold on....carry the 1, divide by 7....add the total number of states divided by the number of times male subs read their email and go "OMFG!!!!! I've found The ONE!!!!!"....

And you end up with....

(A fucking HUUUUUGE number of male subs).

Ergo...

Uh huh...let's see now....uhm....you have tits.

You're going to get emails.

(Get used to it).

Okay, now that's the 2nd funniest thing i've read today...and THANK YOU, for giving me your viewpoint. :)

lmao...sheesh.

At least now i know there's not something wrong with the way i've worded my ad.

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/4/2007 2:23:08 AM

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shellzbythesea wrote: i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them.

That's nothing compared to the male subs in chatrooms who pose as female dominants and then try to get subs to dominate them. You should probably think of it in terms of Shakespearean theatre where the actors were all male but you'd sometimes get a man playing the part of a woman who was pretending to be a man. Or something. Actually, it's probably best to just ignore it.

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RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just... - 11/4/2007 2:47:31 AM

Cyntilating

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ORIGINAL: camille65

It's happened to me with nearly every sub guy I've spoken to on here. The CMails start out as 'get to know you let's be friends' which is something I like. Then they morph into 'do-me even though you're sub too' and it frustrates me.I LIKE making friends dang it but.. friends don't switch agendas. There was one that I even spoke to on the phone a few times, things progressed just great as friends until he began to really lay on the sexual comments which made me feel so uncomfortable.Just cuz I am a submissive woman does not mean I want to play with everyone. I cherish the friendships I've made where they don't twist things, where both parties understand that friendship means just that.

Camille

yes nodding nodding ...
my profile talks about me wanting to talk with other submissives in the area and being open to friendships...
so...when male submissives began emailing me> I thought it was genuine sub to sub chit chat...sheesh..ya, I was naive I guess..(once again lol ) always learning.

Engaged myself in some really nice "getting to know you more" exchanges only to find out they had a different agenda.
sigh
so I can relate to what you wrote..

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