Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..."

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shellzbythesea -> Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:49:44 PM)
Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them. Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so.

RRafe -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:52:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them. Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so. Desperation, they are the biggest group-with the least going for them in overall odds.

IrishMist -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:54:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them. Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so. It's called.... LOOKING TO GET LAID [:D]

TNstepsout -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:56:58 PM)
Desperation, they are the biggest group-with the least going for them in overall odds. [/quote] Nope, it's not desparation. It's the same wankers, wannabes and time wasters that spam their emails hoping to catch a fish or two in the net. I even got one that said "Dear XXXX", then went on to say how much he liked my profile. So they have probably run out of Domme profiles and decided to give the sub profiles a shot. Who knows, maybe some of them get off on rejection.

daddyscherry -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:58:48 PM)
Alot of them i have talked to wouldn't even care if they were submitting to a submissive or a slave, so long as it is a SHE. It kind of goes with the female superiority that alot of them feel, thinking of themselves as the lowest rung on the proverbial totem poll...even a female slave is superior...therefore, deserving worship. Also, as RRafe said, there are sooo many of them and not as many lifestyle female Dominants out there. It's the nature of the beast too, sub males are still males afterall

shellzbythesea -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 7:59:05 PM)
[/quote] Nope, it's not desparation. It's the same wankers, wannabes and time wasters that spam their emails hoping to catch a fish or two in the net. I even got one that said "Dear XXXX", then went on to say how much he liked my profile. [/quote] OMG...that is tooooo funny...and the best laugh i've had all day. Thanks so much! "Dear XXXX"... Sheesh... (still trying to pick myself up off the floor...i get some real doozies too...hahahaha)

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 8:00:21 PM)
Don't forget the subs POSING as dominant to get the sub woman to top them. A guy I know as a slave was out with one of my friends, and when I pulled her aside and said, You KNOW he is a total slave slut, right? she replied that he presented himself as a top! Some of them will do whatever they can to get attention.

SteelofUtah -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/2/2007 9:57:38 PM)
Some subs wonder what it would be like to be Dom's I know a few male subs who take unimaginable abuse at the hand of unskilled whip wielding female slaves who want to know what it's like to use that whip. I asked one why he would subject himself to that kind of behaviour and his answer was something to the tune of how many males subs there are with no one wanting to dominante them that they would take what they could get wherever they could get it. It isn't too far off from the Gay Men I know saying that they only go for the Straight men cause for every 100 they hit up for it 1 says yes and they get what they wanted. It is a hard thing to be in this lifestyle and feel you are alone. I don't blame anyone for trying to get thier kink fulfilled. As Always Steel

MistressPurpleFL -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 1:36:17 AM)
IF not just to get laid or out of desperation as others have mentioned; IT is also just a lot of men who want to waste our time. MP

MissMagnolia -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 2:01:03 AM)
Not a sub, but a Domme (I expect bonus points anyway). When I first landed on CM, I had many an email in the first two days telling me how gorgeous I was. Funny that, because my photo took 3 days to be approved.[8\|] Dommes outnumber male subs by a loooooooooooooooong chalk. We tell them to bugger off (because they are often not subs at all, just wankers looking for kinky sex with anything female), so who do they turn to? Someone else who is female.

sammiebabygirl -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 3:56:46 AM)
I have had male switches approach me hoping I would agree to switch. I have also had male subs wanting to try their Dom side. My response, I do not switch and I would never ask you to give up what you love to do, so it would never work. jen

Squeakers -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 4:00:36 AM)
I think RRafe has a good point. quote: Desperation, they are the biggest group-with the least going for them in overall odds. And there are quite a few Domme's who are Pro. I rarely see a Pro Dom. To further this, there are many submissives who 'seem' to have a Dominant streak. In that thread that RRafe started about the submissive paradox someone refered to the controlling submissive as a quote: 'subinatrix' ... Perhaps the submissive male might think that a submissive or submissives in general have not given into their 'true' self that of a Domme. This submissive might think that the natural order of things is for females to be in charge. I had a professor in college who truly believed this--I doubt he is submissive, but he was giving a lecture on Native American's I believe (it's been a while) and because I forget exactly what he said I can not relate it exactly, but the point was that eons ago, women really were in charge and then it changed. It had something to do with the earth surface being red and relating it to the menstral cycle of a woman. The whole thing did make sense but the point is that some believe that it is the natural order of things for one sex or the other to be in charge. It's sort of like a Dom trying to turn a Domme submissive. Anyhow over the years I have been approached by submissive males myself and when I tell them, it won't work as I too am submissive, I've gotten the response that they are really a switch. And maybe that is what it is. I am not sure, anyhow, partnering with a switch or a submissive simply does not work for me and they would get a good luck in your journey and I'd move on.

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 6:17:35 AM)
It's the same logic that drives subs from halfway around the world to send out mass emailings to Dommes in the hopes that someone might find them interesting and help them get a green card. The theory is that if you troll enough, someone might bite. Logic is not playing a big part in it.

chellekitty -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 6:20:12 AM)
suprised no one has mentioned the handy "delete" function! it doesn't matter why they do things like that...really it doesn't...if you are not interested in them for a relationship, don't waste their time like they are wasting your time...delete the email and move on...

RRafe -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 7:32:50 AM)
People can only waste your time if you allow it.

erasmic -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 8:47:42 AM)
Yes heard this complaint in the UK too. Also, separately that Dommes asked for money. Ignoring this point I proffer the notion that a sub or switch would perhaps provide a softer option. But one thing that I do find alien is male subs, so really I have little idea how their minds work. Erasmic.

gracieamelia -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 8:58:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them. Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so. between this site and alt, I believe male subs contact female subs for sex, its the kink that turns them on, they need the sex and cant find a dom/me to feed their kink.... not to feed their desire for submission. but then, that is just my opinion and my awareness

camille65 -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 9:49:38 AM)
It's happened to me with nearly every sub guy I've spoken to on here. The CMails start out as 'get to know you let's be friends' which is something I like. Then they morph into 'do-me even though you're sub too' and it frustrates me.I LIKE making friends dang it but.. friends don't switch agendas. There was one that I even spoke to on the phone a few times, things progressed just great as friends until he began to really lay on the sexual comments which made me feel so uncomfortable.Just cuz I am a submissive woman does not mean I want to play with everyone. I cherish the friendships I've made where they don't twist things, where both parties understand that friendship means just that.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 10:01:44 AM)
this is interesting can you fall in love with another sub yes. there are Dom Dommes things and sure Dom Dom and domme domme or switch switch or slave slave. I guess the problem is leadership and thought process who leads who shrugs

MrSpectacular -> RE: Male subs contacting female subs for more than just "friendship..." (11/3/2007 10:05:26 AM)
I think you may never understand it - so why be concerned about it - think about what you want. Simply delete those emails and move on. I would also be amazed if you did get a honest answer from any sub who is asking another female sub to dom them. It means that they would be acknowledging dishonesty in their original profile. quote: ORIGINAL: shellzbythesea Okay, i'm all about "whatever floats your boat" and this honestly isn't meant to be perceived as showing disrespect to others, simply because i don't understand them...however, i am truly confused on why so many male submissives send female submissives emails asking for the female sub to "dom" them. Can someone explain this to me? Bonus points if you're a male sub that has done this and can explain your train of thought in doing so.

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