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mya75 -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 2:11:43 PM)

I never really thought of Collarme as a fast hook up site like Alt.com and other places..there tends to be a lot of people here seeking LTR and Committed Relationshiips...also a lot of people willing to share their knowledge and insight .....Now if someone could make a sight like EHarmony related to the lifestyle I would be in heaven LOL..but all sites have liars and gameplayers ...



bipolarber -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 2:13:37 PM)

As far as I can remember, e-harmony doesn't really have a set of questions about BDSM in their "patented levels of compatability." Nothing at all about the types of floggers I enjoy having used on me, canes, favorite bondage positions, pony play... nothing!

How could I possibly find someone for a LTR on there, knowing that opening up and being honest with the person I'd be matched with, they would probably freak out? (I think we've all had the experience of that rather depressing situation.) The whole point to CM, and sites like it, is to get that huge hunk of personal secrecy out of the way, and be able to pick from people who are already like minded.

The OP's example of the profile that stated this, just makes me think that the person who originally said that was just out for a quick fuck. People come to this site for all sorts of reasons. Personally, after being on here for several years, I've been able to find someone that I want to have a LTR with, in a poly household. She's been interested in pony play, and really wants a human pet/sex toy... and above all, friends and extended family.

Try listing that sort of alternative desire on e-harmony... see what you come up with!



SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 2:13:49 PM)

i think its that persons way of saying im here to fuck you-dont expect any more......

and he will probably find that......(or she, id hate to assume)

i think if youre on here with the sole intention of finding love, you best be patient......i mean loves gonna happen where and when it should.....could be here, at the grocery store, car wash, or maybe never......




Mercurialdame -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 3:48:37 PM)

Personally, i met my life partner on a similar site. So yes, you can find love here. Or Alt, or wherever.
But id not limit myself to a forum of online bdsm'rs. Id want to be out there, meeting people in the real world too.
If they are online only, then there's a reason for that. Id be suspicious of that reason?
This could just mean a newbie. But there's something a little odd, to 'discovering' bdsm in your 40's! What the heck have you been doing all your life till now? and why have you never been able to negotiate a play session? and how are you gonna learn? from me?
mmm very suspiscious to my way of thinking. Id prefer a partner in their 40's, to know who and what they are, to be fully ofey with what their needs in life are. 40 is a little too late to be discovering this element of yourself to my way of thinking.
md



Sinergy -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 4:04:10 PM)

 
So I get this lovely note from juliaoceania telling me that she is happy for me and wishes me the best.  Now my initial reaction is that I have been home in doldrums hell from a serious injury at work and nursing the broken heart of ending a 2 week relationship.  Biting back my normal caustic and semi-abusive response to such temerity and insensitivity, I write her a reasonably nice note complaining about the trauma of being a singularity in a sexually dimorphic lifestyle.

She explains that I am not using that term correctly.  The conversation goes downhill from this point on.  We talk on the phone for hours.  We rant, we yell, we call each other names, her submit button fails to work.  In frustration, I insist on driving up to cow country to continue the discussion over coffee; the next morning.

All was not well in the land of Oz.  I am taking a pain medication which has the dual effects of making Mr. Tiny hard for hours, and preventing me from attaining orgasm.  I endeavor to insist to juliaoceania that Mr. Tiny is broken, and she insists he is just fine.  The obligatory beatings, wheelings, floggings, subspace, etc., are undertaken in a vain attempt to correct her lack of comprehension of my plight, and other failings.  To compensate for her faux pas, she boldy endeavors to convince Mr. Tiny to do what he is intended to do, and to go to sleep when he has done his job.  This is less for her own amusement and more to overcome my feelings of being a failure as a Dominant, wherein I bang away at her for hours without ever moaning in happiness and falling instantly asleep while she is forced to sit up and watch The Colbert Report and masturbating.

True love is where and how one finds it in life, and we personally feel like the two of us are back home.

Sinergy and juliaoceania



whisperdesires -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 4:18:33 PM)

I am so glad to hear that true love can be found on here. I have been on various vanilla and alternative sites and have found CM to attract more serious within this lifestyle looking for more then just casual - in my opinion of course. I'm not interested in vanilla at all, why would I look there.



juliaoceania -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:07:23 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

I endeavor to insist to juliaoceania that Mr. Tiny is broken, and she insists he is just fine. 




I still insist he was never broken even before we "fixed" him




Estring -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:08:20 PM)

Eharmony has it right in placing the emphasis on values and compatibility. I'm not sure that happens as much on here, but I know for a fact that there have been great matches made here as well. My slave/wife and I have been married over two years and I would definitely call it true love. 



wisteriaV -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:12:22 PM)

I met Master here on collar me  over three years ago.  We have been real time  for almost three years 12/19/07. Was it love at first sight no, but it has grown to that over time. Love can happen any time, just dont expect it and there it is [8|][:D]



MsPleasure -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:42:15 PM)

It's possible to find love here.



windchymes -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:45:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetNsmartBBW

:

" - visiting eharmony.com may be more appropriate for you than CM."   



But....this site is free, whereas eharmony.com is about $60 a month.  I'll take my chances.



adoracat -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 5:49:47 PM)

i've been with Daddy over 6 months now. i'd say its definitely love.  absolutely.

we met on here in late febuary, early march.  and the ONLY thing i would change would be the circumstances beyond our control that have prevented us from being together more often than we have been.

kitten, slightly somber tonight



catize -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 6:03:03 PM)

I'm holding out for the Dread Pirate Roberts..............[:D]



ELUSIVE1 -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 6:17:15 PM)

how totally presumptuous of him..I have such little tolerance for small-minded people...I don't belong to the vanilla dating sites--well except aff--I have met some of my best friends from that site...because I dont want vanilla people-- yes I would like to find my soulmate--I dont know if I will find that here--or any other place, but I will look where I find like-minded people



slaveluci -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 7:56:19 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

I endeavor to insist to juliaoceania that Mr. Tiny is broken, and she insists he is just fine. 




I still insist he was never broken even before we "fixed" him



I'm so happy to hear that you two are together again[:)].  Congratulations and I hope you're all very happy (you, Sinergy, and Mr. Tiny[:D]).............luci



slaveluci -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 7:59:40 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetNsmartBBW
Is this site an inappropriate place for people seeking love, soulmates, or marriage? 

It sure isn't.  Master and I found each other here and we both found the "love of our life" in each other.  Didn't come here seeking that but we found it anyway.  Sounds like sour grapes to me.  As someone else mentioned, it's always the cynics who have never found it or desired it themselves that try to poo-poo everyone else's happiness.  Neither of us have ever been happier.  We're going on two years now and will be married soon.  I think that's pretty "appropriate"[8D]...............luci



MzMia -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 8:11:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

quote:

ORIGINAL: Sinergy

I endeavor to insist to juliaoceania that Mr. Tiny is broken, and she insists he is just fine. 




I still insist he was never broken even before we "fixed" him




I am happy to see you all back together.
Reading your posts just made me smile.
[;)]



TreasureKY -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 8:13:14 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: justheather


quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i've found the love of my life here on CM.  with Daddy's permission and blessing, i'm planning a wedding/crosscountry move to Oregon for August.


Wow, time sure flies. It seems like you just met that guy.


I personally don't think it's time that is moving fast, but I admit that I'm just as confused as I was in this thread.



Gwynvyd -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 8:17:26 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: bipolarber

As far as I can remember, e-harmony doesn't really have a set of questions about BDSM in their "patented levels of compatability." Nothing at all about the types of floggers I enjoy having used on me, canes, favorite bondage positions, pony play... nothing!

How could I possibly find someone for a LTR on there, knowing that opening up and being honest with the person I'd be matched with, they would probably freak out? (I think we've all had the experience of that rather depressing situation.) The whole point to CM, and sites like it, is to get that huge hunk of personal secrecy out of the way, and be able to pick from people who are already like minded.

The OP's example of the profile that stated this, just makes me think that the person who originally said that was just out for a quick fuck. People come to this site for all sorts of reasons. Personally, after being on here for several years, I've been able to find someone that I want to have a LTR with, in a poly household. She's been interested in pony play, and really wants a human pet/sex toy... and above all, friends and extended family.

Try listing that sort of alternative desire on e-harmony... see what you come up with!


That is awesome, I hope things go really well for you sweetie!
Keep us posted on how it goes.

Gwyn



MistressPurpleFL -> RE: True Love on Collarme? (10/31/2007 8:57:02 PM)

Love will come whenever it chooses; the good thing about collar me is the fact that we can look for a casual thing or LTR without the awkwardness of asking someone: Do you like whips and chains?  Or Do you like a lot of pain and pleasure mixed together while having sex?  But that is just me [:)]



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