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probablyknowme -> RE: The magic switch (10/31/2007 4:23:29 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MasterShibari
So there was a thread here a few days back, in which the following idea was put forth.
If you could pull a magic lever and erase your kink, would you do it?
Significant portions of the responses were in the affirmative, that is, people did not want to be the way they were. But, all they said is that they didn’t want to be what they were, they never explained why.
Those of you who know me, and know my posts, are aware that I am primarily interested in the psychological aspects of BDSM. That said, a response such as that, with so little in the way of explanation, cannot help but draw my attention. I want to know WHY you would give up your kink, give up your interest in BDSM? What event has happened to you, how were you hurt, that has made you ashamed or unhappy with the way you are?
I understand that I may get very little if nothing at all in the way of responses to this post. If explaining why you wish to give up your kink will do nothing but cause more pain, please do not do so.
However, if sharing your story will not cause more grief, and especially if it will help, please…. Share it with us all. Or if you would prefer, by all means send me a response in a personal message.
Best wishes to you on your journey, wherever it takes you.
M. Shibari
Edit: If you are not one of those people, feel free to tell me why as well.
I am going to deliberately ignore the negativity, and respond to this. If such a switch were present, I would probably erase it. Before I discovered this lifestyle and as a result finally had a definition what was a need in myself, I managed to find some semblence of happiness in "normal" (Gawd I hate that word!) relationships. They were easier. I didn't feel the need to do as much self-examination. I didn't have to worry about defining my relationships as much, I mean, if the sex was good, and I could stand to talk to them outside of the bedroom, it was okay.
And for heavens' sake, there were many many more fish in the vanilla pond compared to the kinky pond. [8|]
But since such a switch doesn't exist, I thrive with my kink!
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