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candlemaker -> Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:13:27 AM)
How do you as a Dominant handle a recognised mistake, your own. Do you view that admitting to it to a submissive/slave or whomever makes you less dominant. We are all human and will make them. Thanks. Candlemaker

laurell3 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:14:23 AM)
Of course not. We are all human beings before we are roles. l

RRafe -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:14:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candlemaker How do you as a Dominant handle a recognised mistake, your own. Do you view that admitting to it to a submissive/slave or whomever makes you less dominant. We are all human and will make them. Thanks. Candlemaker I admit them, try to atone-and focus on not repeating them.

IrishMist -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:15:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: candlemaker How do you as a Dominant handle a recognised mistake, your own. Do you view that admitting to it to a submissive/slave or whomever makes you less dominant. We are all human and will make them. Thanks. Candlemaker As a human being, I would have more respect for a person who could admit and accept responsibility for their mistakes than I would for one who could not.

MistressRouge -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:16:09 AM)
I always admit My mistakes, the loud laughter usually gives it away :)

MsPleasure -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:19:42 AM)
Make any corrections and move one.

IrishMist -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:21:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressRouge I always admit My mistakes, the loud laughter usually gives it away :) LOL now that is even better. There is something so .... endearing... about a person who can LAUGH at their own mistakes.

Celeste43 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:37:55 AM)
He handles the fallout and doesn't repeat it. He takes responsibility for his actions, and that's sexy.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:42:07 AM)
for we are all human well some of us. Life is about making Mistakes and learning from them. It is when you do not learn from them. that huston we have a problem

Sirandlil1 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:46:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Celeste43 He handles the fallout and doesn't repeat it. He takes responsibility for his actions, and that's sexy. If a Dom is not ready to take responsibility for his own actions , including mistakes, how can he ever be expected to be able to be responsibile for another person...of course you admit when you make a misake...you learn and move on...now making the same mistake over and over again says a whole different thing ..

slaveelle -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:53:47 AM)
You expect that the sub/slave you own to admit mistakes and also to either correct them or to try not to repeat them, Admitting you have made a mistake does not lessen your dominance or character, if fact it only makes you a better master and a better human being. Admit, then move forward.

Rover -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 7:56:41 AM)
I have an understanding with anyone that I have a relationship with... I won't have unrealistic expectations of perfection from them, and they won't have unrealistic expectations of perfection from me. John

krikket -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 8:08:16 AM)
If either of us messes up and refuses to admit it, then we'd need to move on. i try not to make the same mistake twice, just new ones..lol... Screwing up is part of being a human being, and when it's followed by laughter all the better. i'd think a whole lot less of someone who has a need to always appear perfect and without flaw... sounds pretty boring anyway...lol. cheers jimini

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 8:08:28 AM)
I think this is how it should be. Often times when they do not I have found that it is stimulated by out side hype or lack of experience

Goddess20 -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 8:38:00 AM)
Admitting mistakes and learning from them shows a huge amout of maturity, power and control. Accidents happen and mistakes are made, theres nothing you can do about it, but what you can control is what you do with the knowledge you have gained from your mishap. When I started out I made mny mistakes but for all the mistakes I made I gained the knowledge thats helping Me perfect My game. I'm not perfect and probably never will be but as long I learn from My lil cock ups I'll get as close as I can be. [sm=biggrin.gif]

Lordandmaster -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 8:52:02 AM)
Who has never made a mistake? What counts is what you do AFTER the mistake. Admitting you made a mistake doesn't make you less of a dom. NOT admitting it makes you an infant.

RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 9:13:07 AM)
Refusing to admit a mistake...Hrm. Is that a reasonable hard limit? If they cannot admit to being less then perfect, and correcting their boo-boo, it sounds like a dangerous and messy situation to be in, and definitely not a secure dom.

grlneedstolearn -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 9:17:45 AM)
My Dom has admitted his mistakes and i've done the same

soultoshare -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 9:29:52 AM)
As far as mistakes...well, it's like the bumper sticker says....."Shit happens"....suck it up, admit it, apologize and move on. If the mistake is something you can laugh at, that's even better! Why waste time dwelling on it?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Mistakes (10/27/2007 9:31:22 AM)
Mistakes have nothing to do with being a dominant (which is why you can be a completely incompetent asshole and still be a dominant). However, I'll say it's both subs and doms who make perfection/strength/standard of rightness into a characteristic of a dom and end up the worse for it.

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