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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:31:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Because i do have permission to make friends on here whether they be dominant or sub/slave
That's fine.....but why does his opinion matter? Seriously, unless it's  a friend that I know face to face, I'm not really listening to any opinions about my relationship with Master.

The red flags for me are:

1) He's not met your Dom
2) He has not seen your dynamic in person
3) He's probably not willing to rectify #s 1 and 2

Seems to me that he's being self serving. He's trying to get you to come running to him. That's not friendship and why bother conversing with someone that is not your friend?

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:32:25 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		He's not. My relationship has always been open, like i've said before, and no one has yet tried to come between us. Including this guy

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:32:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Just a rant i have to let go:
   i have been talking with a Dom for a couple months now and he knows very little of what my current Dom and i do, which i feel is no one's business unless of course i decide to post on here. Why do Dom's feel like they know what is best for the sub/slave if they don't know their Dom? i had an interesting conversation earlier about that where he said that my Dom sends up red flags all over the place. Excuse me, but i will choose when i want his help, and he's helping me out of concern, even if i don't take his offerings. My Dom has helped me with grocery shopping, misc. buying such as laundry soap, dishwater soap, etc. He raises no red flags with me in anyway, we've been together for 8 1/2 months now and he's always been faithful to me and vice versa. i don't the one Dom from earlier to tell me why i should not be with my current Dom.
Thanks for letting me vent

In my own personal experience with this, it wasn't overly complicated....Other men would talk badly about my Master because they wanted me to leave Him, and come to them. If after being asked to not speak badly or be critical, they would continued. I stopped speaking to them. PERIOD. Master and I agree that if they can't "behave" then I have no desire to converse with them.


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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:37:52 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		i just want to say this one more time: i am not talking to the other Dom and he has not ruined my relationship with my Dom. i'm sorry if this is starting to sound rude and i apologize, but i needed to re-let people know.
  OsideGirl, are you asking if my current Dom's opinion matters or the Dom i used to talk to?

  breatheasone: No it's not overly complicated, like you said. My Dom is the same way, if he sounds iffy and he wants to immediantly control you, leave.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:39:48 AM   
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breatheasone: No it's not overly complicated, like you said. My Dom is the same way, if he sounds iffy and he wants to immediantly control you, leave.

Cool...you seem to have a good view of the situation then.


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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:40:42 AM   
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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:43:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

OsideGirl, are you asking if my current Dom's opinion matters or the Dom i used to talk to?
The Dom you used to speak to. Obviously, your current Dom's opinion matters, otherwise you wouldn't be with him..

The confusion is coming from the way you worded your initial post:
quote:

i have been talking with a Dom for a couple months now
It's present tense. So, we didn't know that you've stopped talking to him.



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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:49:14 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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Status: offline 		Yep, you are true. i know the one Dom i've talked with his opinions didn't matter and that's why i didn't listen to him. Sorry for the confusion

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:52:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn
Because i do have permission to make friends on here whether they be dominant or sub/slave


Making friends is great. But is it necessary to share intimate details about your relationship with your "friends"? My guess is you gave away some juicy bits of information for this person to say your Dom "sends up red flags all over the place".

I agree with those who say your "friend" is a home wrecker so to speak. I've seen this many, many times before and I've been in the unfortunate situation where I had to do some damage control because someone I was involved with had a "friend" who didn't agree with my opinion of a certain cliche involving submission.

Ms Pleasure also has a point. Men do tend to want to fix things. But hey, we gave you the wheel, fire, computers and GPS so you don't get lost between the kitchen and the laundry room. If men didn't tinker with things, we'd still be living in caves with women telling us that we couldn't play poker with the boys cuz the mean ole T-Rex might eat us or some such non-sense.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 9:52:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: camille65

Do you really want to be friends with someone that makes you feel like he is undermining what you and your dom have? Just cuz you want to be friends doesn't mean you should be friends with this guy.



quote:

grlneedstolearn

Nope, which is why i don't talk to him


Not necessarily, the reason you don't talk to him is that he weighed in with his thoughts on your relationship based upon some sort of information that he gleaned from your conversations.....Since we are not privy to your conversations we have no idea if the advice was of a sound nature or not.

There is always the possibility that he was saying what he thought needed to be said to help get into your knickers....Or there is always the possibility that he was "dead on" and told you some truths that you simply did not want to hear.

You engaged in the conversation. You provided him with information that your Dom may not have liked to have been aired...I believe you should consider taking some of the advice from others who have posted that you probably should not be allowed to engage in conversations off of these forums.....Either your relationship or your Dom cannot be held up to the light of day....Or....You don't possess the maturity to know what topics are and are not to be discussed openly with internet strangers.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 10:04:04 AM   
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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 10:08:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: domiguy

You don't possess the maturity to know what topics are and are not to be discussed openly with internet strangers.



By the way, Domi. I got that message about your urethra and I really wouldn't worry. Slight swelling is easily taken care of with a syringe full of ice water. If the rash persists or worsens you might try using a little lighter fluid and a cotton swab.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 10:41:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: batshalom

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

You don't possess the maturity to know what topics are and are not to be discussed openly with internet strangers.



By the way, Domi. I got that message about your urethra and I really wouldn't worry. Slight swelling is easily taken care of with a syringe full of ice water. If the rash persists or worsens you might try using a little lighter fluid and a cotton swab.


Thank you.  I was concerned.

As to that persistent foul odor emanating from your unholiest of holes....May I suggest in the future that you refrain from fucking yourself with broccoli crowns....When such tremendous of a force is utilized and several crowns are loosely tied together...Some of the broccoli is bound to snap away from the crown and dislodge in your gash.

Though there are many benefits to consuming broccoli....I can not recommend your approach in trying to fuck the entire "food pyramid."

http://www.righthealth.com/imagelookup?html=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.okinawa-diet.com%2Fokinawa_diet%2Ffood_pyramid.html&thumb=http%3A%2F%2Fsp1.mm-a2.yimg.com%2Fimage%2F2362750086&file=okinawa_diet_food_pyramid.jpg&thumbheight=106&width=700&height=495&size=107.6

Not only is it amazing that you can "take" an entire tuna....But it does lend to your gash having that "not so fresh" feeling.

This has been a public service announcement from Domiguy Industries.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:01:21 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

Men do tend to want to fix things. But hey, we gave you the wheel, fire, computers and GPS so you don't get lost between the kitchen and the laundry room.
   I always was under the impression that it was men who got lost, therefore invented the GPS so they could navigate without stopping to ask for directions.   

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:07:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		Domiguy and SoulPiercer, the only thing that i have told him is my job and what i do (security) and that i lost my job due to my personal reasons, and he is making assumptions that my Dom does not help me out in financial need and that's what was talked about. i do not discuss anything my Dom and i do behind closed doors with people i've only talked with online or in person. What is between my Dom and i are our business. Yes i may have questions that i may post on here, but they do not go into detail. And what i tell people is don't assume anything of others if you don't know the whole story and i quote from you," You don't possess the maturity to know what topics are and are not to be discussed openly with internet strangers."

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:09:45 AM   
batshalom


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Status: offline 		Well ya know, I'm pressed for time and it's a great way to fix stir fry while I'm doing other things.

On an interesting side note, I found your extra keys. They just about broke my teeth. While I wouldn't say your keys are part of the food pyramid, the fob is made out of leather, which is made out of cow, and is thus still fuckable. Moo.

I shaved your likeness in my pubic hair. It's more like a relief map and presses the outline of your face against my jeans so it's like you're in my pants all the time ... instead being on the outside and only begging like usual; but I heard that the FDA is considering adding you to its illustrious food pyramid illustration. When that happens, Hot Stuff, consider yourself a big steamin' plate of shrimp lo mein. I'll provide the noodles.

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:14:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

Domiguy and SoulPiercer, the only thing that i have told him is my job and what i do (security) and that i lost my job due to my personal reasons, and he is making assumptions that my Dom does not help me out in financial need and that's what was talked about. i do not discuss anything my Dom and i do behind closed doors with people i've only talked with online or in person. What is between my Dom and i are our business. Yes i may have questions that i may post on here, but they do not go into detail. And what i tell people is don't assume anything of others if you don't know the whole story and i quote from you," You don't possess the maturity to know what topics are and are not to be discussed openly with internet strangers."



So if you have not divulged any information to this Dom about your relationship with your current Dom, why are you concerned by what he says. If he knows nothing about your current relationship, you are well aware that he cannot comment on it. You are fully aware that he is commenting on assumptions he has made so what is the issue?

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:18:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Squeakers

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

Men do tend to want to fix things. But hey, we gave you the wheel, fire, computers and GPS so you don't get lost between the kitchen and the laundry room.
   I always was under the impression that it was men who got lost, therefore invented the GPS so they could navigate without stopping to ask for directions.   


Oh .. yes .. well .. but .. but ..

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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:30:04 AM   
Missokyst


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Status: offline 		Wow.  I didn't know that talking to another dominant, or anyone for that matter would be such an issue with many of you.  I think if I had to stop all communication with other men so that my mate wouldn't feel threatened he is probably not someone with enough confidence for me.  I like men who are a tad more secure. 
As for that dom "dissing" her current dom, I have found that happens often.  Men in my experience can go out of their way to assert their position over another.  Some women buy into it and that is where problems occur.  But if you develop enough confidence in yourself and your relationship, then it is pretty easy to call them on their poor behavior.
I am amazed at how many player types back down on their opinion of your relationship when you let them know that you don't listen to BS from people who are not in your life.
To the OP.  Don't let a player play the game.  Call him out.  Let him know that it's fine to have his opinion but do NOT try to undermine your relationship.  If you let it continue as is, it only escalates until something snaps. 
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RE: Doms speaking bad about others - 10/27/2007 11:31:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Squeakers

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

Men do tend to want to fix things. But hey, we gave you the wheel, fire, computers and GPS so you don't get lost between the kitchen and the laundry room.
   I always was under the impression that it was men who got lost, therefore invented the GPS so they could navigate without stopping to ask for directions.   
Actually, we only invented the GPS to have something to point to when you women start your prattling about knowing where we are when driving.

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