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SirEbonyPhoenix -> Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 4:56:53 PM)

Here's something that makes you go hmmm.........:Is it me, or is there a severe case of functionally illiteracy when it comes to reading one's profile and understading it's content? Case in point: I was reading my bulk mail folder and recieved not one, not two, not three, but four e-mails from someone who claims to be from one of the Southern states and wanted to start a relationship right off the bat, yet makes no mention of their experience in BDSM. After deleting their rambling message, it proves once again that some people have this idea that this site is similar to vanilla dating sites, but they demonstrate a lack of class and common sense, especially when they fail to indicate which city they are located in their profile after sending the same e-mail over and over again. Makes you wonder if they are an illegal alien looking for a free ride, huh? *sigh*  



batshalom -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 5:35:06 PM)

People want what they want and, just like with a resume, send out as many letters as they can to as many people as they can, figuring it's a numbers game.



grlneedstolearn -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 5:51:58 PM)

i read one profile where the person talked nothing but their vanilla lifestyle and absolutely nothing about this lifestyle. Yea no location and probably made up an age. Oh well, delete and move on



SirEbonyPhoenix -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 8:43:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: batshalom

People want what they want and, just like with a resume, send out as many letters as they can to as many people as they can, figuring it's a numbers game.


Well if that is the case, then they should go to a vanilla web site to seek what they want because when it comes to BDSM, the rules in this game are toatlly different. And also, I know a phony profile when I read one! Lol [sm=crop.gif]



SirEbonyPhoenix -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 8:48:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn

i read one profile where the person talked nothing but their vanilla lifestyle and absolutely nothing about this lifestyle. Yea no location and probably made up an age. Oh well, delete and move on



I guess it's like the old saying, "If it walks like a duck, if it quacks like a duck, if it swims like a duck, then it must be a duck." However, in this case, it must be a jive turkey! LMAO Thanks for the advice!



Annabelle83 -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 9:16:27 PM)

I have not been part of collarme for a long time.  But when I get a message that is a one liner, and their profile says only "..." I get bored.




iammachine -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 9:21:57 PM)

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BDSM, the rules in this game are toatlly different.


We get rulebooks now?



RRafe -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 9:23:35 PM)

Or you get messages from supposedly local people-and the writing syntax is totally wrong. Like it's written by someone from china-trolling for email addresses with a fake profile. The picture will usually show a cute chick-stolen from some porno site.

I just report them as scammers.




taintedgypsy -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 9:31:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

BDSM, the rules in this game are toatlly different.


We get rulebooks now?



I missed out on the rule book too ... can I order one online please ...



sammiebabygirl -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:11:12 PM)

I have my filters set that anyone without a filled out profile goes to my bulk mail box.
 
I cannot stand when someone messages me that has nothing in their profile, while mine is very full and includes several journal entries, and says, "tell me more".
 
IF I even respond to the message, I usually reply with, "Tell me something".
 
jen



hermione83 -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:16:03 PM)

I see nothing wrong with not putting your town in your profile. If anyone looked for me in my state, it would only take five minutes. Put my town, and it'd take about five seconds. Also, D/s is very personal. I usually want to start talking about human relationships before D/s. I wouldn't want to go straight for that. D/s compatibility is far from all that counts.



RosesHaveThorns -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:17:48 PM)

I dunno about the vanilla thing. I'd be more interested in chatting with someone who says that they are into, I dunno, Ancient Sumerian culture then whipping. After all, the most common advice people give to those trying to search out a potential partner (At least those aiming to women) is to describe themselves more then the kink. Not many people here are BDSMers 24/7 with no outside interests, anyway.



akisha -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:28:00 PM)

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ORIGINAL: iammachine

quote:

BDSM, the rules in this game are toatlly different.


We get rulebooks now?



Well damn!!! Guess I missed the memo for that one.  Anyone know where I can order one online?   heheheh [:D]



sammiebabygirl -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:28:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: hermione83

I see nothing wrong with not putting your town in your profile. If anyone looked for me in my state, it would only take five minutes. Put my town, and it'd take about five seconds. Also, D/s is very personal. I usually want to start talking about human relationships before D/s. I wouldn't want to go straight for that. D/s compatibility is far from all that counts.


I have both my city and state in my profile, but I live in a pretty populated area.
 
The other day, I was walking down my street, on my way home and some guy shouted out his car window, Are you sammie?
Now, I did not make the connection to my profile here, since I was in the vanilla world and said no. I figured he had the wrong person.
 
Later, I get a message on here saying that my twin walked into my building and when asked if my name was sammie, I said no.
 
I was freaked and ignored the message. He continued to message me asking me why I was being rude and refusing to answer him and give him my name.
I finally wrote back and asked why he was stalking me.
 
He said he was not stalking me. That he saw me crossing the street and I looked familiar so he followed me.
 
Pretty scary, huh?
 
jen



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:39:12 PM)

You realize this is the internet, right?

Never expect anyone to share your values, be happily surprised when they do.



Invictus754 -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/26/2007 10:52:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SirEbonyPhoenix
Here's something that makes you go hmmm.........:Is it me, or is there a severe case of functionally illiteracy when it comes to reading one's profile and understading it's content?
 
Case in point: understading?
 
Maybe they are in a big hurry like you, and they don't proofread either.    



Rushemery -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/27/2007 3:32:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: RosesHaveThorns

I dunno about the vanilla thing. I'd be more interested in chatting with someone who says that they are into, I dunno, Ancient Sumerian culture then whipping. After all, the most common advice people give to those trying to search out a potential partner (At least those aiming to women) is to describe themselves more then the kink. Not many people here are BDSMers 24/7 with no outside interests, anyway.




I agree, my life isnt based around BDSM and want to be able to talk to my next Ex about stuff unrelated, I dont always have a lot to say or should I say get a word in but when I do have something to say, I would like someone who understands more than get on your knees



Celeste43 -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/27/2007 8:05:15 AM)

I think this is a very funny post. If you read any of the threads from male doms complaining about not getting any responses, the common denominator is that female subs don't want the opening conversations to be about sex or play. We want to know that we are compatible in vanilla ways, that we would enjoy talking to the male in question, enjoy the same activities etc.

I'm in a D/s relationship and most of our time does not include bondage, clamps, hitty things, or even sex.

It does include talking over the day, supporting each other emotionally, offering an ear and a shoulder as needed. It even includes struggling to get the fire started on rainy days with down drafts, going to the grocery store, playing miniature golf in good weather and board games in bad.

The letter you got showed that the writer is interested in more than being a fuck buddy. By demanding sex/play type talk off the bat, you indicate that is all you are offering. Personally I didn't talk about what I do in bed until the point came when I was seriously thinking that this person would be invited into mine.



SirEbonyPhoenix -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/27/2007 12:26:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Celeste43

I think this is a very funny post. If you read any of the threads from male doms complaining about not getting any responses, the common denominator is that female subs don't want the opening conversations to be about sex or play. We want to know that we are compatible in vanilla ways, that we would enjoy talking to the male in question, enjoy the same activities etc.

I'm in a D/s relationship and most of our time does not include bondage, clamps, hitty things, or even sex.

It does include talking over the day, supporting each other emotionally, offering an ear and a shoulder as needed. It even includes struggling to get the fire started on rainy days with down drafts, going to the grocery store, playing miniature golf in good weather and board games in bad.

The letter you got showed that the writer is interested in more than being a fuck buddy. By demanding sex/play type talk off the bat, you indicate that is all you are offering. Personally I didn't talk about what I do in bed until the point came when I was seriously thinking that this person would be invited into mine.


That was the whole point of this thread; why else would I title it "Something that makes you go hmmmmmm?" Lol But you do have some good points in your reply, though in this case, it had nothing to do with sex, but more about being pushy and wanting an instant relationship (aka marriage) from the word go. Such trolls need to make like steam and vanish. Lol



Phoenixandnika -> RE: Something that makes you go hmmmm.... (10/27/2007 12:35:29 PM)


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I agree, my life isnt based around BDSM and want to be able to talk to my next Ex about stuff unrelated, I dont always have a lot to say or should I say get a word in but when I do have something to say, I would like someone who understands more than get on your knees
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I'm sorry I read your answer Rush and laughed so hard.
 
OP:
I want someone to know me, all of me not just what I enjoy kink wise. Not just the kind of slave I am or the type of Domme I am, but me. I know some people who don't put their city on their profile or pictures because of their jobs and they don't want to be "outted" by someone local to them.
 
Blessed Be,
Nika



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