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iammachine -> RE: Healthy Balance? (10/24/2007 8:18:53 PM)
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I enjoy participating in all the stereotypical university activities (football games, keg parties and maybe the occasional class as well ;) as well as a part time job. But I also love talking to my domme when Im away from her
I am in a similar situation to yours. I go to school, I work, I have a social life, and I travel. In that order in regards to priorities. Finding a free moment is rare for me, and it has gone so far as my parents having taken to asking me if I'm going to be in town when trying to schedule a dinner with me.
Take some time to think about what your priorities are. I'm hoping that "the occasional class" comment was a joke. :) Once your priorities are in order, make a schedule for yourself. Your schedule might be tentative, or it might be exact. You might even be able to get your domme involved by letting her create (or "enforce") a more concrete schedule for you, while keeping her informed of your compliance with her itinerary.
There are only so many hours in a day, and you need to figure out how you are going to budget them. Developing a routine is good for this, if your domme likes being involved, it may even become something of a ritual. For me, I get up, I work out, I bathe, I have breakfast, I study, I go to class. When I get home from class, before I allow myself to do anything else (except maybe grab a snack), I make sure I have reached some benchmark on my homework or a project. At that point, "everything else" can compete for my time. My weekends are similar, except replace school with work.
I am a little bit older than you, and I am no longer really all that inclined towards the typical college ills of parties and whatnot. I do go out fairly regularly, after my work is done. You might limit how often you go party to X times over the course of Y period. By my schedule, I will go out at night "as often as I can" but not in excess of twice a week; more than that, and I'm having to compromise something else. When I go out, however, that usually means I'm meeting the sunrise, so YMMV, of course.
As for keeping in touch with your domme, communicate with her. How much time does she feel that she needs? How much time can you actually spare? I have a little ritual that I call "tuckins". Basically, what tuckins amounts to is.... a long distance "tucking in". I will talk on the phone for a while (at least twenty minutes, but generally variable as to when tuckins is called) every night as I am winding down for bed. It isn't much, but it's about the only way that I can keep up with some people. Additionally, I have a friend that I will call on my breaks, while I am commuting to/from school and if I have a few minutes to spare before I have to start work.
Good luck!
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