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mydomsabstrd -> my rant (10/23/2007 10:02:57 AM)
so here is my deal im starting over from scratch. im living with a friend and her kids. my kids are staying with my parents. i have no car. and i work 60 to 70 hours a wk. my question is how long does it take the average person to get back on their feet? ive been going at this for 5 mos now. all the statistics ive been reading say 6 to 12 mos is normal. now as far as my job goes i started as an hourly employee, now i am a manager.keep in mind that i didnt get my promotin because i worked my ass off to get it or that i stepped up and took responsibility(for once), or that i deserved it. its because im "just dumb enough to do it"(that is a quote)(bite me). no matter what is said i know i got it on my own merits. im proud of myself for the first time in my life. ive been saving money, but i still have bills where i live and my kids to support and ive been paying off some old bills, that needed to be paid. now that im salary its becoming easier to find things and people are a little more apt to give me a chance. of course now that it looks like the place i might get is out of town i have to get a car. yeah! at least im not going to have a car payment, just insurance. and lets not mention the fact that i have self destructive tendencies. thats why i am where i am. i see my shrink twice a week for that. fun fun fun. here in the last week i came close to saying fuck it all, but i didnt. nope, i know im doing right. im doing what i need to for me and my kids. yes i have had someone in the background pushing me. that was fine, but be realistic, and normal people do it everyday, k i get that. but it also takes the normal person 6 to 12 mos to get it done. why do i have to do it in 3to 5? ha and there is the kicker i dont. no its not impossible to do it in 3to 5, but hello that is a good set up for my self destruction. i know me well enough to know id get overwhelmed and boom i just blew it all. and damn it i dont need that. i did make a promise to myself that no later than nov. 15 i would be in my own place(yea yea ive heard it before) (not about you, get over yourself.) in fact ive already invited family for thanksgiving. anyway im done for now. post any comments you like.

batshalom -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 10:25:23 AM)
Less coffee, fewer Oreos.

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 10:39:22 AM)
coffee is my blood, and i dont eat oreos anyway. lol

GhitaAmati -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 12:15:33 PM)
Dont smoke...the number of people below the pverty level who manage to have enough money for cigarettes, beer, and lotto tickets never ceases to amaze me.....

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 12:24:33 PM)
smoke? hmmmmmmm i might have to give that up, maybe the extra 30 bucks every two wks will get me a place. lmao this was not a complaining life is hard rant. ha ive lived one. this was a you've got to be kidding rant.

GhitaAmati -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 12:43:42 PM)
sorry..I didnt even know if you did smoke..was just a comment I felt like making....$30 every two weeks? You must not smoke much....my husbands co-worker spends about $70 a week on cigs for him and his wife...I think its just absurd!! And he's constantly complaining about how he cant pay his bills....

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 12:49:37 PM)
i only smoke alot when i drink(then its 2 packs), and that is like once a month if im lucky. other than that its like half a pack a day. lol and no i didnt take that personally, i see ppl like what your talking about everyday at work

batshalom -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 12:58:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mydomsabstrd coffee is my blood, and i dont eat oreos anyway. lol Then give the Oreos to me, you greedy ... mutter

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:01:07 PM)
hands over the oreos you can have them lmao

GhitaAmati -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:13:28 PM)
now yall got me wanting oreos....sigh..... alchohal is where my excess spending money goes....but Im still pretty cheap about it..besides, Im a girl, we never have to buy our own drinks anyway.....

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:18:08 PM)
i once bought a guy a drink, this was right after turning 21, he came over to sit at the table i was at and started talking to the friend i was with. she told him that i bought the drink he looked at me, said thank you and turned back to talk to her. he wore the drink home lmao

VandalHeart -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:19:22 PM)
Okay, I usually do this in my own thread, because when I go outside, I look like an arrogant asshole. But I've realized recently that I am an arrogant asshole, so who cares? You seem to have a plan worked out for yourself, and you're going full steam ahead, so I wouldn't worry too much about your situation. Yes, the pressure is on, and this is a trial by fire, but it's certainly not as if you're sitting on the sideline hoping for the best. You're working, you're pushing towards a goal, and most importantly, you're freaking out about it. If you weren't, then there really would be something to worry about. People who are in our situation (yeah, I'm also toeing the edge in my own situation at the moment, but I have one month to get on my feet - though I don't have kids to worry about, so I guess it evens out) NEED to freak out at least once. It's a form of relieving the pressure. You've heard this before, I know it. It's the whole "don't bottle yourself up" arguement. Because sooner or later, the pressure will build, and eventually you'll explode, blah, blah, blah. The point is, don't stress, you're doing exactly what you should be doing. Plus, if your math looks right to me, you're on month 5 right now, so having another 3 to 5 months left to get your act together seems about right. Still, with your tone and reactions, I think you're going to be fine. Here's to you, Milady...I believe you'll be shining brightly very soon. Cheers.

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:28:32 PM)
thank you vandal, i am freeking out, to a degree, more so because who knew i could do it? and for once i really am doing what needs to be done. its alot harder when your doing it alone and not with someone i.e a live in partner or husband/ wife. its all you. and ive got to know for my kids sake that im not going to detinate again.

VandalHeart -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 1:35:12 PM)
Smile, darlin'. You're doing fine. And if you have more questions, look for the Ask the Demon thread.

pahunkboy -> RE: my rant (10/23/2007 2:17:58 PM)
I never measured how long it takes. Part of it -is scoring the best deal. Such as a place to live. I have asked a landlord if I could pay the security deposit in 3 payments. When I bought the truck- I wasn't even looking. I caught it out of the corner of my eye, called about it- the price was cheap. So I grabbed it. I had to move abruptly the past March. I called the realitor and told her my back is against the wall that I need a place NOW. Thru being persistent I scored, 6 others wanted the same place which was a foreclosure. Working your azz off- well wont go far if you scuander the money. So= spend strategically. Being arround the public you can keep your ears open for oportunity. IF you take $1000 and buy shoes at the mall. You will have shoes. If you find a place- 1st month and part of the security- then you are further ahead. In short- work smart.

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/26/2007 10:36:59 AM)
yeah! im now the proud owner of a 93 thunderbird, although i swore id never buy one the price was right and they guy walked into work last night and said i heard you need a car. i said yup. i got to go out to the parking lot and look at it, bought it right there. that was friggin awesome. now just have to get it tagged. doing that in the morning since i have to be at work in like 30 mins. and i spent the morning at the doctors office. but its great when things fall into place. now i just have the move, then i get my "happy" little family back(lmao) how happy can a family be with a 17yr old and a 7 yr old boys? lol well all i can say is they like me more than grandma. lmao

lilsubl -> RE: my rant (10/26/2007 10:47:24 AM)
over the course of a fairly long life, i have learned that the things that i need will always be there...not that i don't have to work & provide for myself, but when i need things like you are needing, they tend to show up...so i'm not surprised at all that these things are falling into place for you...you go, girl!!!

mydomsabstrd -> RE: my rant (10/26/2007 10:52:04 AM)
patience is not a virtue i claim to have but it a appeares that i might be developing it, if only some others had it life would be great.

lilsubl -> RE: my rant (10/26/2007 11:02:29 AM)
patience is a constant struggle for me.....[:D]

favesclava -> RE: my rant (11/6/2007 5:37:32 AM)
your're setting a good example for your children. and really.. no one appreciates things that come easy, but when you work had for what you need and want, it taste soooo sweet when its attained . i know , i used to be welfare mom, now i'm the charge nurse.it was a long hard fight. its not the falling down, its the not getting back up that makes people losers. good luck girl , hang in there. ps emember those elementary school posters, the hanging kitty and the frog in the birds mouth? hang in there and dont ever give up. sound advice.

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