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MadRabbit -> RE: Overcoming being a submissive person. HELP! (10/14/2007 5:00:53 PM)
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
mmmmmmmmm seems to me you need to learn what the distinction of being a strong healthy submissive person is and being a weak insecure person is. The two are very different.... and it can be even worse if the weak insecure person also happens to be submissive.
I tend to agree with this line of thinking in this thread.
Personally, I define submission and dominance as parts of the self, an orientation and identity and thats about all the definition I put to them.
Actions are ways we CHOOSE to express these parts of us, but the parts themselves dont choose our actions for us.
If I were to say that I couldnt stop bossing people around, giving them orders, and telling them what to do because of the fact that I am dominant, I can safely say most people will find that silly and tell me that I am just an asshole making excuses.
Some people like to associate personality traits with it. I dont agree with that and consider it to be generalizations. Dominants arent "uberly confident" because they are, in fact, dominant. They worked to develop self confidence because it was a neccessity for them to be a successful dominant.
You dont have issues because your submissive. You just have issues and you need to stop trying to shift the focus onto some generalized stereotype you have created for yourself
What did people do before they discovered these labels to shift the blame for their faults to? Why does "I'm shy" suddenly magically transform to "I'm shy because I am submissive"?
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