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Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 9:33:30 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		Just a general question. I was wondering how many involved in the lifestyle have little black books and if so, how it affects the way they relate to potential partners. How do you think it would affect you knowing if one relationship didn't work out, all you had to do was make a phone call? Do you think it's a good idea? Why or why not?

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 9:41:24 PM   
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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 9:55:53 PM   
defiantbadgirl


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Status: offline 		Glad to hear it. I'm against cheating (being dishonest and going behind someone's back) as well. I'm more referring to a little black book as a list of admirers one can call if a relationship doesn't work out.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 10:07:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		My lil black book is engraved in my brain.  No need to write details like names and phone numbers down on paper. I have yet to meet a man who can make me metally shred it and toss it into a hot roaring fire. Men are dumb like that (oh oh, here comes a war lol) men need to write things down.  Women are smarter, suck it up.  

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 10:10:27 PM   
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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 10:12:38 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Not all men use little black books in that way- if you know a man has a book, and uses relationships in that way- then obviously you know BEFORE getting into a serious relationship with them. 

For me, I think it's great to keep contact info in case you want a booty call or get an urge.  But then, I'm not monogamous.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/7/2007 10:30:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, but would all men/women even disclose the fact that they have this miracle on demand 'fuk-book'?

not likely. 

I honestly wouldn't care if someone kept their prized menu of A-Z bitches.  If he were important enough to me, I would seduce him into flushing every name one by one.

with a watersaving toilet of course.

just to remind him that when the shit backs up their names appear floating in the poo.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 3:05:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		Having a little black book is fine.  I think it's the reason you have it that counts.  If it's a fail-safe device in case you get pissed at the current body, that's not fair.  If you're in an open relationship, it's okay as long as your partner knows about it.  They don't have to know exactly what's in it, just that you have it.  Of course that doesn't work for everyone.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 4:47:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think people can sometimes fulfill their own prophecies.  In other words, "well I don't think this one will work out, so I'll keep Mo, Jo and Ho on the side for fall backs."  If you aren't invested in building the foundation for the relationship, you COULD build a weak one.  That's not to say you focus everythying on one person, to the exclusion of all others.  It is about the mindset and motivations, I just don't know how to explain it better.

I prefer to keep in touch with people because I want them in my life.  Not because they make a good alternate.  But, I don't have any problem being alone so I don't feel the need to have a safety net to assure that I don't have to be. 

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 4:51:19 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: defiantbadgirl
How do you think it would affect you knowing if one relationship didn't work out, all you had to do was make a phone call? Do you think it's a good idea? Why or why not?


I don't have a little book but I have a cell phone. Some of the numbers in there belong to guys who would love to have their chance with me. I don't keep them in there for that reason - I keep them there because we are actually friends as well. Valyraen knows about them and doesn't give a damn. If I wanted to be with them, I would be.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 6:59:25 AM   
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Most men love having available booty calls and more and more women are doing the same. Unless you are in a commited relationship your not owed that information.

It's not something I worry about. If someone wants to be WITH me, then they will. I don't worry about what they are doing when I am not around or what they are not telling me. Obviously, if I have a question I ask. Accept the answer and face value and move on. If something about the answer bothers me then it's up to me to deal with it. I am a firm believer in not giving people a reason to lie or be sneaky therefore, they tend to be honest and forthright. I am very clear with my relationship expectations early on, which helps avoid misunderstandings later.


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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 7:32:19 AM   
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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 8:45:32 AM   
Koala


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Status: offline 		Black books are a thing of the past... it's all in the cellphone these days. ;)

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 8:47:26 AM   
rhythmboi


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Status: offline 		I definitely read this title as 'little black boots' before clicking on the thread. i'm sure alot of people have both little and big black boots....

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 8:56:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		ime people typically use "little black books" for booty calls, not as people kept on stand-by that you can call if a relationship doesn't work out.
i had a little spiral notebook that i kept contact info of most of my sexual partners of the past couple of years when i became a slave...i don't think i got rid of it until a year or so into the relationship, but only because i forget about it, not because i cared about keeping in touch with anyone in it. my Master knew about it and flipped through it a couple of times...he found it helpful as a means of tallying my number of partners, and asked me details about everyone listed in it. but it served no purpose beyond that so went into the trash eventually.

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 8:58:11 AM   
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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 9:19:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Koala

Black books are a thing of the past... it's all in the cellphone these days. ;)


Exactly....I will admit that we men are a dumb lot....I dropped my phone into the lake.....I could hear the screams of hundreds of vaginas never to be tapped again as it twisted to the floor of Lake Michigan.....It was a horrific moment, seared into the memory and the fabric of this great land of ours.......

Where were you when Domiguy dropped his phone in the lake?

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 9:22:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Poor Domiguy........... a moment of silence please.....

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 9:24:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		lol domi!  I'm shocked you didn't dive in after it lol

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RE: Little Black Books - 10/8/2007 9:43:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		The "little black book" is but a symptom of a larger problem, if you don't address your own insecuirities and the parameters of the relationship.  Men who want quick booty calls will get them with or without the aid of a book.  Besdies, nowadays, people keep the contacts in their cell phones. You can't grab his phone and go through his address book asking who people are.  Technology makes it very easy for people to cheat.  Hell, he could be text messaging his bootycall 5 feet away from you while you are cooking him dinner.

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