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laurell3 -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 1:53:05 AM)

I guess I don't operate under the assumption that these guys sending the offensive emails are real.  I have heard many Dom/mes complain about the number of subs out there that only seek attention through emails and IM's and don't ever follow through with any r/t despite the fact this is what they say they seek.  Could it be that these "Doms" are merely seeking negative attention and someone to abuse as well?  Because as you suggest, it does seem true that anyone with a modicum of intelligence would learn quite early on that some of these approaches would most likely not be successful. 
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RRafe -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 1:57:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I guess I don't operate under the assumption that these guys sending the offensive emails are real.  I have heard many Dom/mes complain about the number of subs out there that only seek attention through emails and IM's and don't ever follow through with any r/t despite the fact this is what they say they seek.  Could it be that these "Doms" are merely seeking negative attention and someone to abuse as well?  Because as you suggest, it does seem true that anyone with a modicum of intelligence would learn quite early on that some of these approaches would most likely not be successful. 
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Or that it might be worthwhile to just delete the twits-and have a little appreciation for the actual men out there-who do have something worthwhile to offer.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 8:45:13 AM)

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ORIGINAL: satyrsnymph28


So, if thats a consistant thought among most submissives, why won't Dominant men behave in a manner that is along those lines?



well some (i didn't say all) men are merely HNGs who believe the word "dominant" is another way of getting their sexual rocks off ...they could care less about having a meaningful relationship built on trust, friendship, etc - they're more interested in having a playmate to cater to their needs for now.

i've met nilla men who have used BDSM as a way to pick up women for a one-night stand.  nothing says i'm not looking for a committed relationship like "do you enjoy being dommed during sex?".



crouchingtigress -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 8:52:23 AM)

ones subs trash is anothers treasure..

but the good thing is that those guys are wearing bright red flags for shirts, so you can spot em a mile off.




Maya2001 -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 9:12:56 AM)

The simple answer is not all the self proclaimed doms  here are truly doms, some are just wannabes or those just wanting sex, that introduction you recieved even if you don't enjoy becomes a valuable screening tool .

I know I don't appreciate it but it is their loss when they so do,  not mine,  if they cannot make the effort to introduce themselves treating me as a lady first with respect than they are not worth my time,  and I ignore their IM's /messages and move on to ones that can , as available subs we are in the minority here  compared to the number of "proclaimed" Dom's on the site as well as others,  as such I have rationed that I can afford to be choosy/selective in who I am willing to respond to and do not need to waste my time on those who are not going to prove themselves to be respectful, and honorable, if they cannot treat me with respect right from the outset ,  then I have  no expectation that they would be doing so in a relationship, therefore by their introducion they have  saved me a lot of  wasted time getting to know them..       



laurell3 -> RE: Lets see... (9/30/2007 8:27:53 PM)

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

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ORIGINAL: laurell3

I guess I don't operate under the assumption that these guys sending the offensive emails are real.  I have heard many Dom/mes complain about the number of subs out there that only seek attention through emails and IM's and don't ever follow through with any r/t despite the fact this is what they say they seek.  Could it be that these "Doms" are merely seeking negative attention and someone to abuse as well?  Because as you suggest, it does seem true that anyone with a modicum of intelligence would learn quite early on that some of these approaches would most likely not be successful. 
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Or that it might be worthwhile to just delete the twits-and have a little appreciation for the actual men out there-who do have something worthwhile to offer.



I do.  Just pointing out assuming they are real makes it more frustrating to continue searching, I'm not sure alot of them are.
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